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dress freak-out, anyone?

Quick backstory: I bought my dress in January, and won't see it until the end of July, when it arrives at the store. I loved and adored it from the second I saw it, and am genuinely pleased with it. But there's this thing that's bugging me, and I was hoping someone might commisserate:

The dress is from a fall 2012 runway collection, so there aren't any photos of actual brides in the dress (yet). It's also a little bit different than a lot of dresses, and probably not the easiest to wear unless you have a long torso like I do. The only photo that does exist, besides the ones we took ourselves, is the runway photo, which — like many runway photos —  is incredibly over-the-top almost to the point of ridiculous. Combine all of these elements, and I am having a full-on freak-out that maybe I picked the wrong dress. I know my feeling is probably as irrational as I sound explaining it, but has anyone else experienced full on panic thinking about something like this? I feel like an idiot knowing I have a gorgeous dress on the way but am terrified to go to my first fitting in fear I'll hate it.
Healdsburg, California 10.13.12

Re: dress freak-out, anyone?

  • I had the same exact situation with my dress, but I didn't care because I loved it so much. Don't worry about not seeing other brides in the gown; the only one that counts is you. Can you go back and try it on again? What you're feeling is normal and it will be fine!
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  • I think this is normal - it's kinda like buyers remorse but you don't even have it to regret yet.
    Go with your gut - if you loved it the second you saw it don't second guess yourself.  You're not being irrational at all.  I think we all doubt some of our decisions, especially the big ones - i.e. dress, location, guy - at one point or another.  And if push comes to shove and you aren't thrilled at your first fitting talk to your seamstress and see if he/she has any suggestions to help it go from ho-hum to a humdinger.
    Good luck!
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  • You love your dress, don't worry!! Stop looking at wedding dresses elsewhere and just remember how beautiful you felt in your gown and that you'll be marrying your FI in it!
  • I am going through a dress freak-out myself, I ordered it a while ago and now am feeling meh about it. 

    I'm waiting until my dress comes in to make any decisons, that's the best thing I can say.  My hopes are, and hopes for you as well, are that when the dress comes in, i'll try it on and remember why i love it so much!
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  • I forget exactly how my dress looks like until I put it on and remember how much I love it. Don't worry about it. Don't look at other wedding dresses either. Just wait til yours comes in and try it on again. 
  • Yep.  I ordered my dress in January and it will finally be here next month.  My bridesmaids and I went to pick out their dresses and I tried my dress on again, totally reminded me why I picked it in the first place.  So, if you can, go try that baby on again!
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  • This is exactly how I felt!!!  I loved it the minute I saw it on the hanger... and knew it was the one before I even put it on...  And when I did I couldn't stop smiling and didn't want to take it off... 

    BUT once I got home... I started second guessing myself... I couldn't (still can't) find pictures of not even 1 real bride wearing the dress.  I found pictures of my dress in a staged photo shoot, but it's not the same... so of course I was freaking out.

    When the dress came and I went to go see it, I fell in love all over again! 

    My advice is to just try and remind yourself that you picked it for a reason and you need to trust that you made the right choice.  Once it comes in and you see it on yourself you will remember why you chose it.

    The other thing that I came to terms with is...  it's a good thing that you can't find pics of others in your dress.. that makes it even more unique!  There are a few styles out there that a lot of brides have choosen and some of those were ones I wanted at first too... but I'm happy that I went with a dress that not many have picked... it makes it feel more original. 

    hope that helps ;)
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  • Thanks, everyone. So funny, I actually saw mine in a staged photoshoot as well!

    My dress is in NYC where I bought it (and where my family and bridal party are), I live in San Francisco. But my girlfriends and I crafted a brilliant plan to go "veil shopping" at the only store in SF that carries the dress so I can ask to put it on and make sure I'm liking how the veils look.I really do think I just need to see it again.
    Healdsburg, California 10.13.12
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