Bachelor Party

Amanda1443994 · January 2012

Just out of curiosity, are your FIs having a bachelor party? And if they are, do you know if they are having stippers? Personally, I wouldn't want my FI to. It's not that I don't trust him, I just don't like the idea for some reason. My FI brother is throwing his bachelor party and they aren't having strippers. They are going on a deep sea fishing trip. However, my FI best friend is getting married in March and the boys are going to Charlotte for a bachelor party and they're going to a strip club. What are your FI doing for their bachelor party? Are they even having one?

LADY324 · January 2012

Yes my FI is having one. I don't know what they are doing yet they will probably decide something last minute. I think he was thinking of going to NYC or Philly for the night and I am sure they will end up at a strip club. Am I happy about that? No! But he is not planning his party so I am sure the other guys will want to go to one. Fi is not really into the strip clubs and they are expensive. For the bach parties he has gone to in the past they have gone to the strip club for like an hour before they went out to the bar. I trust my FI 100% so if they go they go. I am just hoping that he does not get a lap dance but then again it's out of my control and his friends would be the one paying for it so it is out of his control too.

Amanda1443994 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Yes my FI is having one. I don't know what they are doing yet they will probably decide something last minute. I think he was thinking of going to NYC or Philly for the night and I am sure they will end up at a strip club. Am I happy about that? No! But he is not planning his party so I am sure the other guys will want to go to one. Fi is not really into the strip clubs and they are expensive. For the bach parties he has gone to in the past they have gone to the strip club for like an hour before they went out to the bar. <strong>I trust my FI 100% so if they go they go. I am just hoping that he does not get a lap dance but then again it's out of my control and his friends would be the one paying for it so it is out of his control too</strong>.
Posted by LADY324[/QUOTE]

That's exactly how I feel about it.

Madisonpenny · January 2012

We don't know, but I know FI said that he doesn't want one but if he does it's something like he threw one of his bestfriends.. A group of guys rented a chalet at one of the ski resorts about 2 hours away and went skiing and hung out. No strippers or lap dances... He's clearly told everyone that he thinks their nasty and dirty and he'll walk out if it happens.

bells24412 · January 2012

Yes my FI will have a bachelor party. I am in the same boat as LADY. My FI will end up at a strip club because his brother (his BM) likes those sort of things and my FI is like I will do whatever type of guy. I don't want him to go either, but it is what it is and it is out of anyone's control other than his BM.

BrightFirefly · January 2012

No, he's not having one to my knowledge. He doesn't really have any close friends here in Cincinnati yet - since he's only been here since February. Just work buds.

penny12986 · January 2012

My FI is going to a gun range with a few friends and then out for a few drinks after. I have been to a strip club with FI before and just found it to be comical because most of the strippers are not as nice as I imagined and it made me way more comfortable with the idea in general. FI isn't going to a strip club for his party because his friends can't really afford to do all of it.

Rebis58 · January 2012

FI is having a bachelor party, but I have no idea what he's doing. Honestly? I really wouldn't care at all if FI went to a strip club. He's gone before with friends and it doesn't bother me in the least. I've gone to male strippers before with my girlfriends (Chippendales) and it was hilarious and a lot of fun. It was about having fun with my girlfriends not oogling the guys, and I know that FI feels the same way when he goes with his friends.

Plus, every single guy in his wedding party is married, engaged, or in a very serious relationship, so I trust them all ALMOST as much as I trust FI (which is 100%)

mekiakoo · January 2012

Yes, I think he will have one and it probably will be laid back- golfing, going on the lake, drinking tons of beer, going camping or something. He really wants to go golfing (yuck).

I'm not too worried, and even if he had strippers, that will be ok with me. I trust him But of course, I'd expect him to behave appropriately- I mean not going too far with the strippers! And I'd probably rather to not know until it is all over with!

LADY324 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]FI is having a bachelor party, but I have no idea what he's doing. Honestly? I really wouldn't care at all if FI went to a strip club. He's gone before with friends and it doesn't bother me in the least. I've gone to male strippers before with my girlfriends (Chippendales) and it was hilarious and a lot of fun. It was about having fun with my girlfriends not oogling the guys, and I know that FI feels the same way when he goes with his friends. <strong>Plus, every single guy in his wedding party is married,</strong>engaged, or in a very serious relationship, so I trust them all ALMOST as much as I trust FI (which is 100%)
Posted by Rebis58[/QUOTE]

This is the same for FI too we are the last ones to get married in our group of friends.

k8888 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>My FI is going to a gun range with a few friends and then out for a few drinks after.</strong> I have been to a strip club with FI before and just found it to be comical because most of the strippers are not as nice as I imagined and it made me way more comfortable with the idea in general. FI isn't going to a strip club for his party because his friends can't really afford to do all of it.
Posted by penny12986[/QUOTE]

I would love it if my BMs planned this as my bachelorette party hahaha

Strip clubs are ridiculous and I would love to be a fly on the wall if my FI's GM drag him to one. He's not much of a ladies' man, so the idea of him at a strip club is hilarious. As long as my FI is brought home in one piece, I don't really care what they do. I trust that he will behave himself.

7E&G7 · January 2012

FI is having one and I'm not worried if they have strippers. FI and his friends at first worried me when they would go out but everyone is in a serious relationship and we have seen them in "action" lol and they just sit around drinking and pranking each other.I think it's harmless fun and strip clubs have so many rules like no touching that of they want to waste their time just looking I don't mind.

Elinetrouwt · January 2012

Fi would hate it, and I don't think his friends care for it either. He's demanding they go paintballing

hmacsine · January 2012

The situation is reversed. I want to go to a male strip club and my fi is against it. lol My fi is having a bachelor party. I don't know where he's going but i can almost guarantee strip club isn't on the list. I don't care if he goes to a strip club because i trust him 100%.

ceglare4 · January 2012

My FI is having one and he's made it clear that he doesn't want strippers and that he wants to go to a Tigers game and then to the bar afterward. I'm like 99.99% positive that this is what they'll end up doing because I can't see any of the GM in a strip club ever haha, the whole idea of that is comical to me. Most of them are big into sports too, so I'm sure FI's suggestion will be exactly what they want to do to.

And just because everyone else has given their 2 cents as well, I am totally against strip clubs. It's not that I don't trust FI (he doesn't like them at all anyways), I just hate the entire concept of them and don't really feel comfortable with FI taking part in something that I detest that much.

ginadog · January 2012

FI went to Vegas for someone else's bachelor party this past fall (he's been married 2 years already!) and the guys all mentioned going to Vegas again for FI's bachelor party. He's like, "I've already done it once for Tony's, I don't really need to do it again." So who knows if they'll go through with it.

If that doesn't happen, then no he won't have any bachelor party because no one is local to us.

BmoreBride311 · January 2012

My FI is going to have something, but it hasn't been set yet. He has said he wants to do a bar hop and no strip clubs. He went to a strip club last month with a guy he was a groomsmen for but I could tell he wasn't in to it, but just went b/c he sort of had to if that's what the groom wanted.

My only worry is that this same guy is one of his groomsmen, so he may try to get them to a strip club... but hopefully not. Even if they do end up at one, I trust my FI completely so it wouldn't be the end of the world, but of course I would prefer them not to.

Nati05 · January 2012

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[QUOTE] And just because everyone else has given their 2 cents as well, I am totally against strip clubs. It's not that I don't trust FI (he doesn't like them at all anyways), I just hate the entire concept of them and don't really feel comfortable with FI taking part in something that I detest that much.
Posted by ceglare4[/QUOTE]

DITTO!! Trusting FI is not the issue, he's amazing and doesn't want to go to one either. But he's almost sure his friends will want to take him to one and he doesn't want to be the buzzkill for them, he thinks it's kind of comical and doesn't mind letting them have their fun. So trust is no problem. It's just the fact that <em><strong>I</strong></em> can't stand strippers one bit and it bugs the crap out of me to think about it. It's a very uncomfortable thought for me as well.

littlemoments324 · January 2012

FI is having one on St. Patty's Day weekend...he's flying or driving back to MI for the weekend. They're most liklely going to a concert at a local bar and who knows what else. But if no one is playing that they're interested in, they'll probably go to my dad's place and have a bon fire and just get drunk and hang out there..maybe play cards... I really don't think they'll go to the strip club.

EDIT, hit post before I was finished....I trust FI 100%...the strippers are mostly for the other guys anyways not really for the groom...my opinion...

dramaqueen91087 · January 2012

My FI is having one and I'm sure they will go to a strip club because his BM lives them. I'm not exactly thrilled by the idea but I trust him so it will be fine. Oh, and his comedy friends are talking about roasting him as his bachelor party, now that I want to see!

MeaganR12 · January 2012

I'm sure there will be strippers. But here's the thing about strip clubs: unless your guy is going by himself, it's more of a social event and really not about being turned on. I am not going to be jealous of a stripper.

Rebis58 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I'm sure there will be strippers. But here's the thing about strip clubs: unless your guy is going by himself, it's more of a social event and really not about being turned on. I am not going to be jealous of a stripper.
Posted by MeaganR12[/QUOTE]

<div>Totally agree. I'm not at all saying that those of you who don't want their FI going to strippers are jealous of them, but this is just my outlook. Most of my friends IRL would not be ok with their partners going to a strip club, so I get it - I just personally don't care.</div><div>If FI started going to strippers alone, or went every weekend, I would be very worried. He's gone maybe 2-3 times in the time we've been together, and always because someone else wanted to go for a special occasion.</div>

colleenm18 · January 2012

FI is having a bach party and I am all for it.. I know i will be getting rowdy with my girls beforehand as well

As far as strippers I have no idea and i dont really care either way. I am with Rebis and Meagan on this one. If that is what he wants to do or his friends want to do I say I go for it and have a great time! Personally male strippers gross me out so no strippers for me!

singing_lyn · January 2012

I'm sure that my fiance will have a bachelor party, not sure what it will be. His groomsmen are all his nephews and his brother-in-law. His nephews are all in their 20's though other than the youngest and he probably won't go, but I'm sure the others will want to go to a strip club. Really I don't think I care if they do go to one. My fiance has said that he thinks strippers are nasty and I've been to a strip club before for a jack and jill party and the strippers were comical to me. Made me a lot less insecure about them. Honestly I think that my fiance would rather go to a Red Sox game and then hit up a couple of bars.

Elinetrouwt · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bachelor Party : DITTO!! Trusting FI is not the issue, he's amazing and doesn't want to go to one either. But he's almost sure his friends will want to take him to one and he doesn't want to be the buzzkill for them, he thinks it's kind of comical and doesn't mind letting them have their fun. So trust is no problem. It's just the fact that I can't stand strippers one bit and it bugs the crap out of me to think about it. It's a very uncomfortable thought for me as well.
Posted by Nati05[/QUOTE]

This. Jealous? No way. It's not about trust, I don't really see what would go wrong there, and I don't see a resemblance between what strippers do and what FI and me do in bed. But I find the concept degrading and demeaning. To each their own, but I'm glad FI feels the same way.

michelle11988 · January 2012

I doubt FI will end up at a strip club for his bachelor party if there is one. There is a better chance of him ending up at the Museum of Science or something nerdy like that. All his groomsmen except my cousin went to a nerdy engineering college and are pretty stereotypical. I think they'll go have dinner and go to a bar probably but that's about it. My bachelorette party will probably be more rowdy and crazy. FI has never been to a strip club (to my knowledge) and I don't think he has an interest.

bridetobe71412 · January 2012

My fiance's going to Vegas with about 15 friends. He's probably the third person to get married, so there will be quite a few single guys. I don't really care, though, because I agree with the PPs on all counts. He's not going to get turned on by strippers, and if he does, his friends will make fun of him until the day he dies. Seriously.

Anyway, I'm going to Vegas for mine too...so I can't really judge!

LynHeartsLife · January 2012

Yes FI will have one, he wants to go golfing with the boys then out after. I dont care if they go to the strip club (like pp i've also been with FI and friends before and think they're pretty funny) but what i dont feel comfortable with is lap dances or the strippers that come to your house (creepy). So i just asked FI if he would feel comfortable if i had strippers come to our party or give me a lap dance and of course he said no lol so i just asked that he keep that in mind when he's out at his party

shaylaeve · January 2012

What I don't like about bachelor parties and strip clubs really... is the whole reasoning behind them.. one last hoorah? One last opportunity to look at other boobies? I dont intend on locking my husband up and throwing away the key after the wedding. He'll still be able to hang out with his friends.. what's the need for one last super party.. didn't they get over that in college? And I dont mind strippers.. you can see a hell of a lot more on the internet

.. but am thoroughly against lap dances.

Anyway, my FI's bachelor party has been a slight source of contention between us recently. He is taking a golfing trip to NC for his.. a bunch of his friends are flying down there and they got a nice hotel and such. That's not the problem. The problem is.. one night of a bachelor party is enough to sit through... two nights of it might drive me crazy... but THREE nights of dying to know what they up are up to? (not for thinking he might be doing something he shouldn't be.. but because he and his friends are fraternity brothers and they can really put away the drinks). I'd seriously be concerned he's going to end up with alcohol poisoning... the guys getting wasted and breaking stuff accidentally and getting thrown out of the hotel... or I dont know.. nothing dramatic but still plenty stupid. I've been trying to get him to come back Sunday night after they golf.. he refuses.

wildflowerWed79727 · January 2012

Shay where in nc are they going golfing?I'm from nc was just curious...

shaylaeve · January 2012

Hmmm good question! I haven't even asked that and I'm pretty sure I've blocked out 99% of anything he has said about it! I assume Myrtle Beach area?

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