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• kaglade85 member

  

  December 2010

  One of the issues is that right away when we got engaged my parents said they would give us a certain amount of money, my FI has saved some money saved, but I'm in grad school til May 2012 so I really can't save any money....the issue is his parents haven't said a word about helping us out.  I take this as a sign that they don't plan on helping us pay for our wedding, which is fine, because we expected no help, but my FI insists that they do plan on helping pay for the wedding, but he won't ask because it's such a touchy subject.  This leaves me not knowing what our budget is going to be, and therefore you can't really plan with no budget.  So I guess my issue is with my FI because he won't just ask his parents, lol. Ahh sorry to talk so much but none of my good friends are engaged and can't relate! At the most we want our wedding to be $20,000--so that's why we're waiting til June 2012 to save up.

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• 2012JulyBride

  

  December 2010

  Good idea waiting until 2012 to save up and get through grad school before getting married. I told FI that I wanted to wait until I got my bachelor degree but at the rate I'm going, that will be in about 6 more years, and we don't want to wait that long. I know it's hard to budget the wedding costs when you don't have a set amount to work with, but as I've heard, come up with the amount you want to spend and then a cap amount, since most people go over. At this point of planning, I've figured out how much money FI and I can save between now and the wedding then split that up between our current costs of living, wedding, honeymoon, and having money post wedding. I'm counting on tax returns but since I don't know how much that will actually be I'm not using that...it's going to just be extra money we have for every day living/post wedding savings.

  

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• Tiffany6912

  

  December 2010

  It could put you in a very tough situation if FI's family does not come through with money that you are planning on.
  If FI will not talk to his family, you are probably better off planning on 100% of your budget to only be funded by the two of you and your parents.
  If his family comes through, great! That is a little more for something extra or a little less required of you and your parents.  If they don't and you have put down deposits for services you could not otherwise afford, you will be left scrambling for hundreds or even thousands of dollars when payments are due.
  

  

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