So this is probably going to be pretty long but i really need advice on what to do! I am going to give you some back ground to the situation. i will use initials to distinguish between people. My fiance and i met through my ex-best friend S. she was dating my fiances best friend j and they have a three year old daughter together. well about a year ago when my fiance and i started dating J and S were having problems and J is a Welder and travels for two weeks at a time. S and I were still friends bc we had all decided that my fiance and i were not going to pick sides and were just going to stay neutral and be there for their caught bc we believed that she was the most important part of the equation, well about 5 months into our relation ship they officially break up and S starts dating my fiancés cousin B which complicates everything so much more bc J, B, and my fiance were all best friends growing up and still to the day until it came out that B and S were now dating. well we decided that we still were not going to take sides bc B is only a friend but family ( oh yeah we live in a very rural Kansas county so everyone knows everyone somehow)!!! Well in December of 2010 we find out that S and B and been screwing around the last six months of J and S's relationship, which started to complicate things. then in January of this year I had a pregnancy scare and went to S bc at the time she was my best friend and could tell her anything. I was telling her about th scare and she chimes in and says " you guys are not mature enough to have a baby. you don't have good enough jobs and cant handle or afford it" i kept my cool and just told her i would talk to her later! went home told my fiance what she had said. well S is a hypocrite bc she cant hold down a job for more than a month, and is a lying cheating conniving B&%ch!
Now here is my problem! My fiance and i are still very close to J and his little girl, however we have not spoken to S and B since January and really don't plan on ever rekindling any type of friendship again. But J is the best man and we want his daughter to be the flower girl. J has no problem with that and is very excited that they both will be part of the wedding. I don't know if we have to invite S & B. I can see inventing her bc her daughter is in the wedding but then i also feel i don't have to bc her a J have shared custody and J, his mom and sister will all be there. and we don't want b to come either bc we don't want the drama and have not talked to him but how do we go about inviting B's family bc his father is my fiancés uncle and we have no problem with the rest of his family?
PLEASE HELP I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!