Okay, so my first concern was that my mom would try to fight me every inch of the way in a desperate attempt to not loose her only child. My mother is this woman so it was a possibility! Luckily, That didn't happen. She has eventually gotten on board...but maybe a little too much.
I know i should be grateful that she's not being a jerk about it but at the same time, I've already planned a lot of the decor stuff because I didn't expect her to want to help. NOw she's coming in saying we need to hire a wedding planner and hire people to pass around drinks on trays for guests. The whole idea is that we're trying not to spend a lot of $ on unneeded things like this. I know she's gonna pay for it and that's all well and good but it's not the feel we want. We want it to be simple and intimate. We're only inviting around 70 people and 60 will probably show up. I don't feel there is any need for servers unless we decide to do a sit down dinner. I can totally see where the wedding planner can come in handy but only if she's just making sure the day goes well. I don't want someone coming in and trying to change all the stuff I've worked so hard to plan and design.
Am I being sensitive about this? I haven't said anything to my mom and I haven't put my foot in my mouth yet. opinions please.