BAD FRIEND RANT: So my FI and I got engaged last September and are to be wed September 22. As soon as I told my one friend, let’s call her Sara, she said she was so happy and that she was planning my bachelorette party! Awesome, right? In the spring I already had some other friends asking about it so asked Sara if she had any thoughts or anything I could relay to other people, if she wanted to get together and talk about who to invite or what sort of things I would feel comfortable with, etc. She responded pretty abrasively, saying that she was too busy to think about planning the party now and that if I wanted a strict outline of everything then I should just have someone else do it. I assured her that I was very happy that she offered to do this and that she didn’t have to actually plan anything until a few months before the wedding. So as the wedding approaches, my one request was that it be at least two weeks before the wedding, so at least by sept 8th , so I can detox from the binge-drinking and have energy for last minute wedding stuff. She suggested to have it on September 8th, so she could plan it over the summer, so as my other girlfriends have been asking, I tell them the party is September 8th.
This morning (aug 8th, one month until the supposed party) she texts me asking when the party is, I text back “didn’t you say sept 8th, thats what i've been telling people who are asking" she says that she won’t be in town for it! Turns out she hasn’t planned anything at all anyways! So I call her to clarify that yes, in fact, she bought tickets to an event out of town months ago, before she agreed to the date she says, and can’t get out of it because she is taking her mother with her. She then says I should see if someone else can plan it and that she won’t be able to make it, topping it off by saying something along the lines of “well at least I will be at the wedding, that’s the real important thing, I don’t need another excuse to get wasted after all”. i reply by saying "maybe, but I was really looking forward to getting together with everyone..."
I didn't have the energy to get upset with her on the phone, don't have the time to argue about it, but I do feel very hurt by this, disappointed, like Sara was neglectful to how important this is to me. I didn’t ask her or anyone else to throw me a party, rather she offered, and then pulls out a month beforehand with no plan of action anyways….I feel pretty awkward asking other friends to throw me a party, I was just looking so forward to this