October 2012 Weddings

FMIL has pissed me off so much in one week

My FMIL just called to ask about wedding gifts. She told me months ago that she already had something for us, AND she is making us a quilt. So why is she getting us more stuff?

(we don't have a registry, just a wishlist on Amazon.ca)

Anyway, she calls, from Canadian Tire, wanting to know what we would like because it is the last day of the sale, and she doesn't have time to check what was already purchased so can I just tell her now. Um, no, not without ruining the surprise of what was already purchased. "What about the mixer? or the coffee maker?". So I realize that I have no choice but to reveal what has already been purchased to prevent her from buying something that was already bought. "Mixer's taken. Coffee maker's taken" I say. "Darn! I really wanted to get you those. Ok what about...." then she proceeds to list off a few things that are not already on our list. I told her any of those is fine. Then she rushed off because she was "on her lunch break and had to hurry."

I'm really dumbfounded and upset. I cannot believe she told us she didn't have time to check the list herself because she wanted to buy it on sale. And that I had to ruin the surprise of all the other items.

And she says "well what about a kettle? did someone purchase the coffee maker with built in kettle?".

I lied and said yes. Because honestly, I don't know which coffee maker was purchased, just that one was purchased, but I didn't want to try to explain that to her.

I know it's not a big deal in the end. At least FI will be surprised. I just can't believe all the things she has done in the past week to piss me off, this being the most recent.
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Re: FMIL has pissed me off so much in one week

  • Mine is driving me crazy also.  She wanted us to have a slideshow so I had to spend a lot of last weekend finding pictures.  It was something I was going to scrap, but she was very insistant about it.  I wanted it to just play silently all night and people could look at if they felt like they wanted to.  I guess that was a good choice, because I guess it's like 17 minutes long!  She still tried to put songs to it, so it could play on a loop with the same songs over and over again, while the DJ would be playing music.  She didn't seem to understand why that was a bad idea or something.  Not a big deal, but still really frustrating.
    So I guess what I'm saying is, I feel your pain.
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  • not that I wish these feelings of anger and frustration on anyone, but I'm glad it's not just me. I actually feel really disappointed because we were getting along really well for the past couple of months. But this week has been a circus.
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  • Mine wanted to spend $70 on a tux for our not-quite-3 year old.

    $70...... on a tux.... for a child who will probably run around and trip and rip it.

    But "He haaaaaaaaaaaas to have it...."

    No.  No he does not.

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  • I'm just playing devils advocate here, but I don't think she means any harm by this and to me, it doesn't seem like that big of a deal.  I can understand that her not looking at the list and making you look at it can be a little annoying, but I would be very greatful and appreciative of her trying to do something to make FI and I happy.  Maybe it's the rest of the wedding stress or other little things that she has done that are blowing this into a bigger thing for you, idk, but I really don't see why you are so upset over this.

    I hope I'm not offending you.  I blow up over little things sometimes and it always helps when I have someone give me a different way to look at it.  Good luck and hopefully you'll feel better about it all soon :)
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  • JennluvsPaulJennluvsPaul member
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    edited October 2012
    I know my FMIL doesn't mean any harm. That doesn't make her any less annoying. And I found out from FI that she bought several things today. We are running out of stuff for other people to buy.


    You don't want to know the rest of what she has pulled off this week.

    That being said, yes, I'm over it.
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