We wed 10/6 this year (still excitement over that, for me, I think!)
My H has only had visitation of his children from his 1st marriage, and Friday his ex filed to completely reverse custody of their 12 yr old daughter to us. Him. Her bedroom suite is here, we will enroll her in school next week, based on that motion to change custody. They also have a19 yr old son, and he has a 5 yr old daughter he has no contact with
by another encounter.
I have a 12 yr old son that lives here (an a 19 yr old son that does not) from my first marriage.
I am greatly intimidated. I have not raised a girl. Furthermore, this young lady seems to be troubled (as in - skipping school, physical knock-down drag-out with her mother, etc). Since H only had visitation (and I tend to see Mothers more involved in that overall parenting role from my experience), I realize he does no know this child much more deeply than I.
My iPad is vexing, forgive my edits/typos! I simply seek advice and encouragement. The children each have their own room. They are NOT allowed in each other's room, even by invitation. I asked H not to force comrade rue, and to allow it to grow by natural progression at this point. I believ they need to forge this path for themselves. I was such a tomboy! I am so rule-driven! I want badly to ake sure she is welcome, that I am the support she needs - and reinforce to my son tha his value has not decreased and I am ever so committed to him
Please share your wisdom, ladies. I am stockpiling for all it is worth. I know we are headed to many challenges - and rewards
...Everyone has their price; mine's chocolate