How did you meet?

memSomerville · May 2011

If I had married younger, my...er...range of partners would have been rather limited and parochial. If I had married in my 20s, I can *guarantee* we wouldn't have met on the intertubz!

So, here's our story: I am a political junkie. I was hanging out on a political blog for a long time, and then started bumping into this person over and over again. He made me laugh a lot. He made me think. A lot. I never figured we'd run into each other--as he lived in the UK and didn't travel to the US much. I didn't expect anything.

We exchanged a few emails on the backchannel...Then some more. Then some calls. Then a trip over there... He was as funny and smart and challenging as I expected. He reads books. He likes cats. Importantly--despite country differences, our politics are remarkably aligned--and that matters to me.

In my 20s I would never have married a British political junkie I met on a blog on the internet.

You?

shytownkelly · May 2011

I am a cliche!

Went out with my best girlies for my 39th birthday.

While at dinner before heading to the bars, this guy walks in and starts chatting up my gf. Turns out the guy is her on-again/off-again boyfriend's best friend. (follow that?) and he had just painted her house for her. She introduces the rest of us to him.

When I made eye contact my heart went THUD! So as he's chatting with my other girlfriends - I'm kicking the gf under the table - and murmuring something along the lines of "Bitch! you've been holding out on me!" (as in why did she not introduce me to him sooner!!!!)

She then suggests to him that he join us for a few drinks later. He does. We start talking and have yet to stop.

So yeah - met him in a bar.

NEXT!

Lisa50 · May 2011

Yahoo! Personals. I found him, actually. We exchanged a few emails (2 or 3), talked on the phone a couple of times and set a date. July 3, 2006. The rest, as they say, is history. We will marry on July 3, the fifth anniversary of that first date. Awww ...

tenofcups4me · May 2011

We went to college together and were in the same group of people for a year or so. 20 years later, I've decided to divorce my then-husband and felt like I had to get away for a weekend. So I went to visit one of my best friends -- who was also one of DH's best friends and now lived in DH's city. Dh was also in the process of divorcing his now ex-wife.

We'd seen each other I think twice in the last 20 years. But had always kept up with what the other was doing through mutual friend. Friend told DH that I was in town, DH and a group of other people joined us one night to go out, and we pretty much immediately fell in love.

So 20 years later...love at first sight.

tarheelbabs · May 2011

Former neighbors. Met in 1998, possibly 1999 living in the same neighborhood. He was married at the time. My thought: of course he's married. He's cute and he's nice.

2/15/01, we both show up to work the same day at the same relatively small state agency. So, we became friends. Then, in January 2005, he and his wife separated and I left to work somewhere else. About six months later, he asked me out, and we've been together ever since. We got engaged on 1/1/10 and are getting married Saturday!! Finally!!

2dBride · May 2011

One day in 2000, a friend I'd made several years before in a parenting chat room ("S") asked me to take a personality test at TheSpark.com. Supposedly, this test would tell you how compatible you were with your friends who took it, and with their friends. After I took it, I noticed that one of S's friends, NotFroofy, was supposedly 100% compatible with me. I was extremely dubious that any test could tell that. However, it seemed at least worthwhile to ask S to introduce me to NotFroofy. Apparently, NotFroofy asked to meet me, too, so S introduced us.

At the time, NotFroofy was 32 years old. She had grown up in Wales, but was by then living in England. After graduating from college, she had gotten a job with an accounting firm. Accounting wasn't really something she could see as a career. However, for ten years, it had been the easiest kind of job for her to get, so she'd stayed with it. By the time we met, though, she had decided she wanted to retrain for a new career in Web design. She had therefore quit her job and was in the process of selling her house, intending to use the proceeds to take a Web design course. NotFroofy and I talked online and on the phone for several months, and one day I told her I had a crush on her. I was so nervous after I did that I paced the halls of my office while waiting for her response. Fortunately, she felt the same way.

Obviously, inviting NotFroofy out for coffee was not going to work, with her in England and me in the US. However, I suggested that she come for a visit. If that worked out, she could take a 6-month Web design course in the US, and stay with me. That would give us six months to get to know each other, and decide whether a longer term relationship could work. NotFroofy came to visit me for a week and a half in December 2000. She then went back to the UK to get a visa that would allow her to come back for the 6-month course, returning in January 2001.

NotFroofy has been here ever since--moving from a tourist visa to a student visa to a temporary employment visa to (finally, after nine years!) a green card.

IslandBeachBride · May 2011

We met in junior high - he was that all too adorable, smartass kid that lived a few houses down from my uncle. We had a summer puppy love thing and went our separate ways. We both went on to finish high school - he joined the military, I moved away my senior year. We both met & married others. We ended up in our home town after 20+ years to find out we were both going through divorces. And here we are....4 months from getting married. Would have never thought this is a million years.

Geri510 · May 2011

We met through Yahoo! Personals 3.5 hrs ago. He actually reached out to me & I'm so happy he did. We talked via the phone for hours each night over a month before we met in person - our first date lasted 12 hours. Had another date the next night & so forth. We've been together ever since & getting married on 11/11/11. He actually started talking of marriage about 6 months after we started dating by saying "hypothetically" after mentioning it & finally I said stop saying that word because it's going to happen. Can't believe I'm marrying a younger man, lol.

srutter72 · May 2011

My girlfriends talked me into going to the bar on Thanksgiving eve instead of staying home and baking pies. I did have a few cocktails...heehee...
The bar has this awkward layout with a few steps here and there. I was going up these 2 little steps and stumbled (drunkenly really) and he caught me before I hit the floor. The first thing I noticed about him was his amazing blue eyes and great smile. He stood by my side all night long making sure I didnt fall. We exchanged numbers at the end of the night and he called me within 20 minutes of leaving. When I heard his voicemail I got butterflies. We have been inseparable ever since. He still gives me butterflies and I cant wait to marry him in 23 days!!!
Im trying to talk him into going back to that bar on our wedding night....just to get a picture of us in our wedding attire on the exact spot we met.

coralee715 · May 2011

We met on a website called Plenty of Fish. He had viewed my profile, but didn’t write to me. So I wrote to him, and said, Hey – saw you viewed my profile, don’t be shy and say hi. He wrote back and we quickly moved to yahoo messenger to chat and we chatted for 6 hours the first night. We chatted a lot the first few days. 4 days later was my bday and I woke up to a Happy Bday message from him. We talked on the phone and I said…so…when ya gonna ask me out? So we went out that Saturday night (a week after our initial email). We went to the races (car = something we both enjoy) and had a great time. We have a local track that races every Thursday night. So we had been chatting every day since our first date and decided to meet each other at the races on Thursday night. We were sitting there watching the races and having a great time. I get up to go talk to a friend for a minute and when I go back to sit down one of my good friends of 20 years is sitting in my spot talking to my date! They have known each other for 20 years too and she knows him better than she knew me! Come to find out we have like 10 friends in common, but we just never crossed paths. My friend now says that she knew the instant she saw us together that we would be married. FI was a total confirmed bachelor before me, not really dating anyone. No long term gf’s, never brought anyone home to meet the family … nothing! Of course this dear friend is in our wedding!

WEEZIE918 · May 2011

I love hearing everyone's story. So romantic!!!

OK, so FI and I met back in 1988 at work. He remembers seeing me and telling me where I needed to be that very first day, but I was so nervous starting a job, I don't think I even made eye contact! We were working at Costco back in the old days when the cashier had to type the item numbers in and the assistant had to read the numbers to the cashier so we'd often get paired up. We loved working together. He'd make me laugh. He's very witty and smart. We because really good friends and we could be so open and honest with eachother. I knew I could fall for him but because we had become friends, I already knew he was dating a couple of girls. No way was I going out with him so I could relaly fall for him and then end up broken heart because he was still playing the field. I was only 18 so wasn't really thinking about marriage yet, but also didn't want to get my heart broken. So when he asked me out I said NO. He was a little persistant, but I kept saying no.

After two years of working together and having such fun, I got a new job and left. We kept tabs on eachother thru my BFF (she still worked with him). Then one day she told me he was engaged!!! I remember thinking WTF!?!?! If he gets married how are we supposed to be together? For some reason, somewhere in my heart I knew we'd be together someday. So after the shock wore off, I went on with my life. We still kept tabs thru BFF over the years and every few years we'd meet for lunch. He was happily married and was starting a family and even though my heart ached when I'd hear these things, I was happy for him.

One day he called me and told me they'd spilt up and asked me out. I was living with someone so I told him no (again) but said I'd love to meet for lunch. It never happened. I heard he got back with his now ex-wife and that was that again. A few years pass and I spilt up with my BF and in 2004 I buy a condo and my BFF moves in with me. I had found FI's email address in my desk so I emailed him. He called me and we chatted. He was separated for good this time and I was internet dating (so was he). I invited him over to come have dinner with me and BFF to catch up. I figured we'd catch up and then go our separate ways again. That was our MO. But this time we keep talking and wanting to hang out with each other. Three months after that dinner, we kissed for the first time and here we are getting married next year!!!

memSomerville · May 2011

Oh, these were terrific--thanks everyone.

I love the fact that some of you came back around to people you knew before. When you are 20 it seems like you'll miss your chance...but that's clearly not the case.

Great reads.

impslave · May 2011

Jumping in a little late --

We met at work, in the engineering department of the school district here. I'd already been in that office as a website manager for a couple of years when Mr. Imp was hired on as a drafter. At the time we met, I was in a long-distance relationship with a guy I met on a video game website.

When the douche broke up with me over the phone while I was at work, first person who noticed that I was upset was my future H. He happened to have his cube directly across from mine, and unbeknownst to me, had been wanting to ask me out for ages. After letting me have some space, and heeding the advice of my friend that I was still in the man-hating phase, he asked me out and we were engaged two months after our first date

But, it took four years of getting to know each other for me to figure out that he was The One.

shytownkelly · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_40-plus-brides_did-meet?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:69dea60c-2319-4015-8380-4a5cc0f18476Discussion:e64a2ef8-e9f8-4f66-9b48-9458ce91bce0Post:fc573416-6dde-4539-84b9-8d76272b90cc">Re: How did you meet?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How did you meet? : Wow, Geri. You move fast!
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heh - I was going to say something about that too - but you beat me to it!

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Karennrob · May 2011

We met on Plentyoffish.com. August of 2007. He approached me, noticing he was younger than my guidelines (28-45) he was 27, and asked me what it would take for me to bend the rules. I said he had to come sing me Karaoke, and WOW me. We met at my favorite bar a few weeks later. He sang 867-5309 to me, changing the name Jenny, to my name, Karen, and indeed did WOW me, and we have been together ever since. BTW, he has a great voice.

AbbeyS2011 · May 2011

Loved reading all your stories ladies. Here is mine:

FH and I met on pogo.com in November 2007. My ugly divorce from my exH had been finalized in September that year, after a long, drawn out process that he created. I lived in Idaho at the time, he lived in NC.

At the time, I was having trouble with Internet connections as well as a flaky computer, so my online time was limited. For about a week in November, all was working beautifully. I was playing a solitaire game, and chatting with everyone in the room. On this site, you have a profile and a "mini", a cartoon of a man or woman that you can personalize, dress, etc. On my profile, under "relationship status", mine read "single and lovin' it!".

I was very flirty and many men on the site that week asked if they could "friend" me, so we could find each other again. I said sure to all of them, knowing full well I would not talk to them again, which was pretty standard on that site. My FH was one of them. A couple days later, he comes into a room where I am playing and says something like "remember me?", and of course, I said, "ummm...No." I checked his profile - under relationship status, he had "single and lovin' it!", so my thought was, oh cool, I made an Internet friend. We talked online that night, and a few nights later, he asked to Yahoo IM me. We started chatting on yahoo for hours - we literally spent an entire Sunday talking on Yahoo. Soon we progressed to phone calls, and when I heard his voice for the first time, his Southern accent, I knew he was mine. He told me he knew we were meant to be the first night we met online. We talked on the phone every day after that, and webcam chats, getting to know each other.

In April, 2008, I flew out to NC to meet him, both agreeing that after we met in person, if either one of us did not like each other, or did not think there was anything there between us, we would go our separate ways. It was the best week ever. At the airport when I had to go back, I promised him I would come back to stay.

I had to go to court for permission to move out of state with my children, since Idaho divorce court laws decree that the parents have to leave within 2 hours of each other. That was final in November, 2008, and December 1, 2008, my sons and I moved out here to be with him. We are getting married on 06/18/11, and I cannot wait!

RKwedding2011 · May 2011

My fiance and I met on match.com. I joined for 1 month and he had a year long membership. I liked how you could pick out things like age, education, religion, etc. I stated that I wanted to make friends only. I changed my mind after I got to know him. We have so much in common. I really got my $30 for 1 month on match.com!

Katie

Hays2be · May 2011

We met on Match.com also.

After my divorce, I met a a man on Match and we dated for a year until he died (cancer) When I went back on, our profiles were 99% alike, the only difference being the way we marked kids--I said it was ok if my partner had kids, he said none. (all four of our kids are grown and out of the house) The other thing that I was leery of was the fact that he was in the same biz as the ex. My first email to him was " you don't work for a company in G***** do you?" followed by "are you relatively healthy?"

We emailed back forth a few days before I went on vacation to visit my family in MO--that's when I found out that we both had family in the St Louis area. When I got back, we went on our first date. He said he knew when he saw me waling across the parking lot that "I was the one" It took me a little longer. And, like
Geri, he started asking me to marry him after about six months, but I didn't say yes until after a year. And yes, it was at that same restaurant--and we're getting married there too.

MisplacedSouthernBelle · May 2011

He was my first love. It was the end of my freshman year of high school (1986). Walking down the hall I noticed a boy with the most beautiful blue eyes I had ever seen. I look back over my shoulder at him and discovered that he had turned around and was walking backwards looking at me. I was this quiet, shy 15 year-old, and he was bold and cocky, as only a17 year-old boy can be – the proverbial bad-boy-with-a-heart-of-gold – and it was love at first sight, for both of us.

My dad said I was too young to date, so we spent the whole summer sitting on the couch at my house watching MTV. And at the end of the summer I broke up with him. He was funny and smart and kind – everything I was looking for in a boy –but, looking back now, I think I knew even then that it could be Forever, and I wasn’t ready for forever to begin at 15. So I pushed him away. But we stayed in touch, even after he graduated that spring and joined the Air Force.

I still have all the notes and letters he wrote me (those lovely pre-email days!!) and he was always saying some variation of “I know you aren’t ready yet, but don’t ever doubt that this is real. And one day we’re going to be together, because love like this doesn’t happen every day.”But I was young, and though I knew I loved him, I was also quite confident that this was just the first of many loves I would have. And after I graduated and went away to college we drifted apart.

But it turns out we were both right. I did go on to fall in love again, a couple of times. I even came close to marriage once or twice. But there was always something in the end that held me back. Something always seemed to be missing in each of those relationships. And I could never bring myself to settle for something less than the fairy tale. At some point I made peace with the idea that I would probably never marry. I have a great life, with a job that I love, and I was content to become a fabulous modern-day“spinster.” Then, out of the blue last September, I get an email through the Classmates website. It was him, the boy I never forgot, who had grown into the man of my dreams.

Next week will be 25 years from the day we saw each other for that first time in high school. And now here we are, finally planning our Happily Ever After.

MisplacedSouthernBelle · May 2011

We haven't set a date yet. At the moment we live a 1,000 miles apart, and we've both got lives that are hard to pack up and relocate. He's got children in SC, and I have a career I love in D.C. But we're figuring it out. We may end up with a long-distance marriage for a little while, but either way I already feel like we're living the fairy tale.

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