My FI and I have been talking about options for the ceremony and we're kind of stuck on what we should do... Here's some background and our dilemma... (Sorry for it being so long)
I come from a Catholic family. We're not super religious but we grew up going to church most every weekend and my sibling and I have all gone through our sacraments. Needless to say, the Catholic church is what I've known and where I figured I would get married. My FI used to be Catholic (baptised and received 1st communion there) but his family ended up leaving their church for a few reasons and started going to a Methodist church. Now they attend a more non-denomenational Christian church but his family is very religious when compared to mine (but not overbearing). Ideally he would like to get married in a Methodist church.
Obviously we can't do both churches at the same time and we've decided that we need to make this decision together (even though he would do whatever he had to in order to make me happy) since we both feel that religion is an important part of getting married. We're going to be moving to a neutral area (neither of us have lived there) so we've been checking out the various churches in the area. We also feel that we shouldn't just get married in a church for the heck of it, but to be in a church because that's where we want to start our family.
I found a nice Catholic church that I liked and the FI said he felt okay with, but he's still feels that it's not something he could do long term. FI has found a few Methodist churches that really didn't sit well with either of us (and has kind of made me frustrated with them). FI also has a childhood pastor that would marry us in a heartbeat, but is located a bit farther than we'd like and may not be doable for an every week church once we're married.
These are our options right now but I wanted to see what some other people thought about the situation:
1. Get married in the Catholic church that I found. Great with me, doable for FI.
2. Keep looking for a Methodist church. Ideal for FI but kind of rubs me the wrong way.
3. Get married by FI's childhood pastor. He's Methodist, but I've never been bothered by his masses, etc. We'd either do it at the ceremony site or possibly his church (which may be a bit far).
I'm really interested to hear your input. Thanks!