Favors....what do you think of this idea??

fallenangel316 · January 2012

We have set a date and booked the venue, we are also loving the idea of these "favors". Please let me know what you think.
My FI oldest son has a rare form of cancer and has been through hell. Thank God he has been in remission for the last year. During the worst stages last year, Make a Wish came to visit him and granted a wish for him.
Moving forward to now, my FI and our children have what we need and after sitting down and thinking about it, most favors from weddings or parties "MOST", just get lost or thrown away.
So, we are thinking of having a fountain and writing a poem to thank everyone for joining us on our special day and attaching a gold one dollar coin. Then ask them to Make a wish and throw it in the fountain.
We will have a poem next to the fountain to again thank everyone for coming to our special day and let them know that all of the dollar coins will be donated to Make A Wish.
With that being said, do you think that the poem and and card explaining the meaning are a good idea?
Should we add something else as the "favor"?

blush64 · January 2012

I would either not do a favour or do something like chocolate that people can eat.

Donations to a charity are great but not a favour. If the guests are giving the coin back to you to donate, they aren't getting anything. There is no favour.

I'm sorry, I just think it would be better not to bother.

Sue-n-Kevin · January 2012

Another option would be to have you or your fiance stand up and just explain how grateful you are for Make A Wish, tell a brief story about how lucky his son has been, and maybe tell people that Make A Wish is a great organization and leave it at that.

OR, you could call Make A Wish and see what they would recommend. Other than asking people to donate in lieu of gifts, which you are more than welcome to do, I'm not sure making a connection between a favor and a donation with money you provide is a good one.

right1thistime · January 2012

You just never know when someone has had a bad experience (even if its just their own perspective) with a charity or with someone from that charity, or if they have read a negative report about that charity. When you force a donation, it leaves a bad taste in their mouth.

You can easily skip a favor, and just make a donation in lieu of the favors. But please don't announce your donation to your guests. It's between you and the charity. ~Donna

fallenangel316 · January 2012

I don't know if I forgot to mention that we are not asking anyone to make an out of pocket donation. We will be placing the gold $1.00 coins onto the thank you poems ourselves.
Therefore, none of our guests will be putting any money out on thier own expense.
Pretty much all that have been invited know about the battle we have been through with my FI's son. I am sure that they will understand why we have decided to do this as favors.
However, I just wanted to get some opinions on whether or not to include another favor of some sort.

right1thistime · January 2012

Well, if you give me a gold coin (real or fake) and tell me it's for tossing into the fountain to make a donation to Make A Wish, you have either not given me a favor, or you have forced a donation.

MyUserName1 · January 2012

That idea is from David Tutera's show.

I would think it a little silly. Just make the donation and don't mention it.

fallenangel316 · January 2012

Thank you for all of the opinions on the favor idea. I'm thinking that we need to look for some other ideas for the favors.
A lot of different things were brought to our attention that we didn't think about. And so I am now off to look for other ideas.
Thank you all again!

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