Mass Times Question

Re: Mass Times Question

• Meg1036

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  If you really want the evening wedding, I would say do the 5:30 at the sister church.  You are in a good position with that to avoid the gap, which is the best thing for your guests.  There are lots of brides on here who say they "had" to have a gap, and that is often not the case, and definitely not the case for you.
  
  If you are willing to give up the evening wedding, then I would do the 1:30 at your church and an afternoon reception.
  
  I don't see your grandparents' church as offering much.  If you still want an evening wedding, it doesn't eliminate the gap.
  

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• monkeysip member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree that the evening wedding time would be better if having an evening wedding, and no gap, is important to you.

  
  

  How important is your home parish to you?  Do you enjoy the aesthetics/the liturgy/the priest more at your home parish than this other parish?  

  
  

  If you're not overly attached, then pick the other parish for your wedding (the 5:30).  But just consider if there are any other issues more important than having an evening reception, or having no gap between ceremony and reception.

  
  

  Gaps are never preferable, but if they're common in your circle, and you can plan something for guests to do in between, then have the early ceremony.  I know people disagree over the issue of gaps, but you'll just have to consider what you think most of your guests will want.

  
  

  Some people like to have an all-day wedding celebration, and maybe even go back home for a bit before the reception.  For others, it may be overly burdensome to have a gap.

  
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• LawStudentBride member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  I vote for the 5:30 p.m. ceremony at the sister church.  It avoids the gap and lets you have an evening wedding.
  
  On the other hand, if getting married at your parish is more important to you, I'd try to find a way to schedule the Mass and reception earlier (i.e., a late lunch).

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• MissOwl

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  thanks so much ladies.

  i didn't mean to post and run but the organist at the sister church invited me to witness a wedding there today (from the choir loft). it was beautiful. not quite at beautiful as the home church but i think that's my top choice right now too. i cant wait to hear back from the church office about availability. 

  thank you all for your guidance!

  
  

  if anyone else would like to comment, i'd still love to hear from you

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• Calypso1977 member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  can you get your money back on the reception locale or is it too late?  id personally book the church i want first, then book your reception location accordingly.

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• unplainjane member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  i agree with PP. for other ladies definitely book the ceremony first then book the reception. i asked my venue for a couple of alternate dates before we met with our priest so at least i had a idea of what other dates the venue had free before i arranged a date with the church. the ceremony is most important so we wanted to get that sorted out first.

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• HandBanana member

  

  June 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree about trying to possibly change the date with the reception place.  Most places with contracts aren't that flexible though.
  
  We had our church's availablity first, then we looked at halls. The church is what was important to us.  Also, depending on your church, they usually have more availability than a wedding reception venue.
  

  

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