Grrrrrrr! MOH has not ordered her dress.

Ximena M · April 2011

The wedding dress store had asked the bridesmaids’ dresses be ordered by March 31. My MOH knows this and has not ordered hers. The store is holding the whole order until her dress is ordered so that the dresses can be cut from the same dye lot. What makes me the most nervous is that my other bridesmaids’ are under 18 and can’t be witnesses. She is not answering her phone, which is not unusual. I don’t know what to do. It’s almost too late to ask someone else to stand in and I think it would be rude as anyone I would ask already knows my wedding party line up.

LadyArkham · April 2011

Yeah, you can't change your wedding party without ending the relationship with those who are going out, and insulting "replacements."

Do you know if she's got drama going on in her life right now? She may be in a bad time and have more important things going on. If a few more days go by and you don't hear from her, you may have to risk her dress being from a different dye-lot, or just put her in a different dress. (A lot of MOHs get special dresses, so nobody will think it's strange.)

meganb1977 · April 2011

Agree with LadyArkham that if she's got some kind of drama going on, you need to cut her some slack and she'll be fine in a dress that coordinates but is slightly different from the other ladies in your wedding party. Do you have any other way of getting in touch with her besides telephone? Otherwise, the best you can do is politely remind her via phone message that the store needed the orders by March 31st, and it would be better to let the store go ahead and order the BM's dresses so they can match, and then the MOH can find something that coordinates in time for the wedding, she can always get a dress off the rack from a department store.

DramaGeek · April 2011

I would tell the store to order the others and then tell MOH that the dresses, minus hers, have been ordered and it's up to her to take care of it before the wedding. She's a grown up, if she can't be responsible enough to get the dress in time, then I guess she doesn't stand in the wedding.

As far as the witnesses go, it doesn't have to be a WP member, it can be anyone who actually witnessed it. It also doesn't have to be one male and one female, so you could have the best man and a groomsman sign, or ask your mom or grandmother if you really want a female witness.

jagore08 · April 2011

Tell the store to order the dresses for the other BM. They shouldn't be penalized with rush order fees because of someone else. Tell the MOH the absolute last day to order the dress before rush fees are added and the last day to order the dress with the rush fee then leave it up to her.