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Im sure this has been asked... But, new to the boards.. :)

tlgilmoretlgilmore member
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Hello all!! 

To register or not to register..??

This is a second marriage for both of us.  We have pretty much everything we need... 

Thoughts?  Thanks in advance!!

Terri
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  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
    1000 Comments Third Anniversary Name Dropper 5 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    We registered, the reason is twofold our families are treating our wedding as though it's a first and we would rather receive items we can use if guests are so inclined.

    There is no reason you cannot or should not register, be honored at parties, have a rehearsal dinner, and the wedding you want - period.
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  • mma3mma3
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    edited December 2011
    We did.  When my ex and I split up I gave him pretty much everything.  When I finally found a job I bought the cheapest stuff I could.  We registered for upgrades on towels, sheets, etc...
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  • embracejoyembracejoy member
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    edited December 2011
    We did not register.  We didn't need anything (we actually had to get rid of stuff when we combined households), and I felt kinda weird about it, since it's the second time around for both of us.  We're not being thrown any showers or anything, anyway.
    we got it right the second time around! ten.twenty.twenty-ten. Anniversary
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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_im-sure-this-asked-but-new-boards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:c9528140-dc67-49e9-b6ae-bec292c28e66Post:cc4494ec-bc1c-4013-96c4-d2a996fb4175">Im sure this has been asked... But, new to the boards.. :)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hello all!!  To register or not to register..?? This is a second marriage for both of us.  We have pretty much everything we need...  Thoughts?  Thanks in advance!! Terri
    Posted by tlgilmore[/QUOTE]

    It has been asked, for sure.  I'm  on the fence.  My fiance absolutely does not want to register -- he's a big fan of making a contribution to a community food bank, which is fine with me. 

    I'd been in the NOT registering camp, but Retread Bride keeps scaring me with that doggone Chili Pepper Lamp.  LOL!  She has just about convinced me that it couldn't hurt to register for a couple of things at my "fantasy" home store, Williams & Sonoma.  ;)
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    edited December 2011
    Register.  People will buy you stuff because they love you and are happy for you.  You are not easy to buy for- for all the usual reasons.  They will try hard.  They will buy stuff you don't need/ can't use/ have three of already/ don't want.  They will know it, you will know it and everyone feels bad.  All the registry is - a wish list. 

    For example - we decided to buy a new bed.  New linens were a nice touch.  I had more Cinderella, Power Ranger, Snap On tools towels than I care to admit.  We registered for towels. 

    You can register for tools, crafts, music, books, camping or sports gear.  Your guests buy what you like, what you can use, and what you want.  Everybody is happy.  See- its simple.

    And I was HERE when the bride told the chili pepper lamp story-- so its NOT an urban legend!  ~Donna
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  • arv266arv266
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    edited December 2011
    We've chosen to not register not so much because this is a second marriage for us, but because we've been living together for over a year and feel wierd about getting household things, in a home we have already set up. 

    I registered for my first wedding, and it was not a guarantee that we received what we asked for.  One gift was a clock in the shape of an oriental fan, made of black and gold plastic.... so you just never know....


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  • MariOthonMariOthon
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    edited December 2011
    We're kind of in the same situation, not so much whether to register or not, but how do you tell people you don't want gifts? We've been living together in a tiny apt for a year and will be for another 6 months. Most of the stuff I have from my first wedding is in storage, along with some of his stuff. We don't have any place to put more stuff, but when we move three months after the wedding we will be needing it then.

    I don't suppose you can register for storage space? Wink

    We thought about saying "registered at Total Wine and the ABC store" Tongue out
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  • Smurfette1231Smurfette1231 member
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    edited December 2011
    WOW! Now I want to see this chili pepper lamp!!!

    I agree that registering is ok. I have friends that I did not have or was not as close to as I am now the first time around who have all asked if I am going to register somewhere. Even though we will have been living together for about 18 months by the wedding, there are things that we would like to replace like towels, older kitchen utensils, linens etc. Plus were are in the midst of remodelling our 1935 house so we can ALWAYS find some tool we want. This way people know what you want and while they may not always get it, at least you won't have as much to attempt to return.
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  • sof0830sof0830
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    no need to register for us. We've lived together for over 7 yrs. --we've got our household things in order. People haven't asked what we wanted, i think most willl likely bring money in a card. I know that is what we normally give at a wedding
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