When do you think you & FI will be...

Re: When do you think you & FI will be...

• Eliz77 member

  

  May 2012 edited May 2012

  We are older than I think most of the posters here-early 30's and been together for 7 years, bought a house two years ago, pretty secure in our careers, so us getting married and starting a family is happening pretty much at together! I don't know we'll have a "HM baby" but definitely will start trying sooner than later! I'm excited-I feel like I won't have the dreaded "wedding/HM hangover" this way! Of course finacially things can always be better, but I figure you can't always plan things to a tee!

  ~ES~

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• penny12986 member

  

  May 2012

  We are not having kids but if we were, I would not want to start trying until owning a home. With all of the expenses that children bring, I don't think we would ever be able to get around to saving for a house because college funds, illnesses and life would end up getting in the way.

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• LADY324

  

  May 2012

  If FI gets a full time teaching job we will most likely start in the fall.  If he is unable to get a job then we will be waiting until he gets a job.  So right now we have too many unknowns. 
  I feel like I change my mind everyday.  I would also at the sametime like to wait and go to Europe for our 1 year anniversary then try.  We will see!!

  

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• MeaganR12

  

  May 2012

  We've tentatively set next summer to stop preventing (or start trying)

  
  

  Do you have any stipulations that must be met before you try or before you conceive?

  Nope. 

  
  How do you know you'll be ready?  Are you waiting to be more financially secure? Until you have a house? We're already pretty ready. We own a house (in a different state that we rent out), we're both done with school, both have reasonably good jobs, great health insurance, etc. I would like less debt, but it's not a deal-breaker. We would also like to move out of our current townhome and into a place with more than 2 bedrooms, but we could wait until we actually got pregnant/until the baby was 1 or 2. We're ready now. 

  

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• BmoreBride311 member

  

  May 2012

  I don't know if we'll ever feel truly ready, haha, but I think we'll probably go for it within the next 2 years. My FI is in med school and he's doing a rotation in OBGYN right now, and it's TOTALLY given him baby fever. He wants to talk about starting a family all the freaking time now. I have to keep reminding him that we said we'd wait until we move back to the states.

  

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• elizabethmae315

  

  May 2012

  We think we will wait until most of our student loans are paid off, which is tentatively three or four years. We are also young, so we are waiting til we are both at least 25.

  

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• bells24412

  

  May 2012

  ready for kids?
  
  Do you have any stipulations that must be met before you try or before you conceive?
  How do you know you'll be ready? Are you waiting to be more financially secure? Until you have a house?
  
  The only stip. we have is that we want to go away together one more time just the two of us.
  
  We are waiting to get a house and enjoy our first year or so of marriage together.

  

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• colleenm18 member

  

  May 2012

  Do you have any stipulations that must be met before you try or before you conceive?
  How do you know you'll be ready?  Are you waiting to be more financially secure? Until you have a house?
  
  We are defenitly waiting until we at least own a house.  But I am thinking around FI 30th we will start trying- our plan is to do Hawaii for FI 30th so that is still 2 years from now.
  

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• butterflyjumper1

  

  May 2012

  We had originally always said we would try to get pregnant right after the wedding, but now that we are in the process of (trying to) buy a house, we have decided we would like to have a few years of just enjoying each other and enjoying being married in our new home before having kids. We will probably "stop preventing" somewhere between a year and a half and two years after the wedding - fiance actually wants me to go off birth control soon just so my body can adjust soon after the wedding (and so we can stop having to pay for the pill!) and we will use other BC methods until we decide to totally stop.
  
  We don't have any constraints - we are both stable in our jobs and we are hoping to have a house by the time we are married.  We just have a lot of fun together and we want to have a few years to just enjoy each other before kids are added to the equation. And there are some things we want to do before we have kids - like take our much-talked about trip to India. 

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• Madisonpenny member

  

  May 2012 edited May 2012

  Do you have any stipulations that must be met before you try or before you conceive? I have to get my health back 1st, that is if I'll be able to conceive otherwise we'll look at adoption but then the same reasoning goes.. I have to be in remission
  How do you know you'll be ready? Are you waiting to be more financially secure? Until you have a house?
  We are ready to have children.  We're financially secure and already have a house.  We just need the doctors to say that awesome little phrase we're currently praying for and that I'm working extra hard to hear and then (and if I'm lucky enough) we'll try.. if it happens it happens but we both aren't set on having children by a certain date.

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• bridetobe71412

  

  May 2012

  We'll be ready as soon as we move to Cincinnati, have a house, and both have jobs there. I think that means we're going to "stop preventing" next summer after the Ohio bar exam, since I will not have ANYTHING ELSE on my mind for that summer other than the bar. 
  
  Ideally, I think I'd like to be pregnant in the winter of 2013-14 and give birth in the spring of 2014. I'll also be 30 in September as I mentioned, so I don't really want to wait THAT long. I'd like to be finished having children by the time I'm mid-to-late 30s so I think we're going to pop one out after the other.

  

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• Amanda1443994 member

  

  May 2012

  FI and I def. have decided we don't want kids anytime soon. We are financially secure enough where we could have them now, but we're not personally ready for that kind of responsibility. We've talked about enjoying our marriage and travelling just the two of us for a few years. I would like to say that by the time I'm 28 and FI is 30 (4 years from now) I will be ready for kids but I can't really predict that. If it were to happen by accident sooner, we would def. welcome it and be excited, but we're not planning on it.
  
  We've also talked about adoption. I've always had an urge to adopt at a very young age (I used to try and convince my mom to do it when I was in elementary school). So we might even pursue that instead later on.

  "Judging a person does not define who they are. It defines who you are."

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• Rebis58 member

  

  May 2012

  We flip-flop in our decisions. For a while, we were going to go for a honeymoon baby, but now we have decided to close the conversation until our one year anniversary and then re-evaluate. 

  
  

  We're not financially or professionally ready yet, we both are in stable careers, but just starting out and have career goals we want to work towards. We have also been apart all this past year for job reasons (I'm moving to join him after the wedding), so we feel strongly that we want to spend at least a year with just us before kids come along.

  
  

  All that said, I have major baby fever and if I wasn't being logical I would have one right away. I definitely don't think I will regret waiting, though. We're also both young - 25 and 24 - so there's no real rush.

  

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