Lost some of the weight and I actually feel worse about my body... wtf. (Rant)

Re: Lost some of the weight and I actually feel worse about my body... wtf. (Rant)

• dumdumfroggie

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_plus-sized_lost-of-weight-actually-feel-worse-body-wtf-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:973cdc6f-961e-4fb0-a628-bef2bb559697Discussion:a21de0a2-f70a-475f-8be9-17b006873b2aPost:2f7033e5-cb4a-47c3-a345-ab0cc30483fe">Lost some of the weight and I actually feel worse about my body... wtf. (Rant)</a>:
  [QUOTE] 1)  It seems so far to go still, and weight loss has slowed to just a pound or two a month.  If anything, I feel larger and less attractive as I go because I now focus so much of my time/thought/effort on dieting.  Also I had to buy new clothes, which are in a smaller size but I still hate shopping and don't think I look good in much of anything. <strong>Celebrate the accomplishments!  Take a look at some before and after photos to see how far you've come!</strong><div>
  </div><div> 2) My FI has made half-joking comments about... well... My bra size being smaller now, and how he 'misses them'.  I know he's not trying to be a jerk but it's annoying. I am still a D cup so I don't know what he's complaining about.  <strong>Tell him that it's bothering you.  If he knows that it bothers you he'll most likely stop.  If he doesn't, well, you've got bigger problems.</strong></div><div><strong>
  </strong></div><div>  (And to add to the annoyance, one of my friend's ex's seems to think it's cool to make comments about my chest and stare openly, now that I have reduced to the size and body type he prefers. Pig.) <strong>Same, tell him not to do this anymore, avoid contact with him if you need to.  Or, during conversations, pointedly stare at his crotch.</strong></div><div><strong>
  </strong></div><div>3) Other women at the gym think that since I'm trying to lose weight I want to hear about how much they are struggling and suffering in their quest to get to 18% body fat and saying '20% body fat and size 4, I'm such a lard-ass lolol",  'I can't seem to lose those last 3 pesky punds to get under 110'! etc, etc. <strong>Just tune them out.  Smile and nod.</strong>
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• RaptorSLH member

  

  January 2012

  Your FI needs a attitude adjustment.  Has he been with you when your doctor discusses your weight?  Maybe hearing the litany of health problems that being heavy can cause would get him on board.  (Your friend's ex is a pig, no excuses there.  At least he's an ex.)

  
  

  Have you tried headphones at the gym?  People like that would drive me nuts.

  
  

  I know on some diet plans, the exercise and diet details change as you lose weight.  Are you working with any medical professionals who could help you reevaluate your current plan, and see if it needs tweaking?  Also, given that you're exercising, is it possible you're building nearly as much muscle mass as you're losing fat?  Are your measurements changing, even if the weight loss has slowed down?

  
  

  You should focus on the positive progress you've made, but I'm guessing you know that already.  Do you have any of your old clothes, so that you can put them on and admire all the extra space you've earned?  Any of your workout routines have an easily measurable thing you can track for progress - mile time, distance run, weight lifted, number of pushups, etc?  Any friends or family smarter and more tactful than FI or the people at the gym?  If all else fails, you should try to find a counselor.  There are so many emotional issues attached to weight, and you shouldn't let them stop you from pursuing your good health.

  

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• vk2204 member

  

  January 2012

  Hey, you lost 30 lbs, that is awesome!! Good Job!!

   

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• mymissingpuzzlepiece

  

  January 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_plus-sized_lost-of-weight-actually-feel-worse-body-wtf-rant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:973cdc6f-961e-4fb0-a628-bef2bb559697Discussion:a21de0a2-f70a-475f-8be9-17b006873b2aPost:af5da63b-3b19-47aa-8d5a-5c58bc4833fa">Re: Lost some of the weight and I actually feel worse about my body... wtf. (Rant)</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hey, you lost 30 lbs , that is awesome!! Good Job!!
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  <div>This! Congratulations!!</div><div>
  </div><div>And on a side note, you may not be losing a lot of weight anymore because your body is getting used to the routine that you have. You may have to switch it up and shock your body a little bit. </div>

  
  

  
  

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• cinderellasjc member

  

  January 2012 edited January 2012

  30 lbs is a great achievement.  Congratulations!!!! The only one who needs approval of your new body is YOU.....
  
  keep in mind 1 or 2 pounds lost is better than gained. 
  I agree with PP when you go to the gym try headphones, even if your not listening to anything, at least noone will try to talk to you and you can concentrate on your workout. 
  
  Women tend to lose their breast much quicker than other parts of the body.  This is why Victoria shared her Secrets!!!!!!
  
  you should be proud of your accomplishment.  Keep up the good work!

  

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• entropicbeauty member

  

  January 2012

  30 lbs is an achievement! You should be proud of yourself and the fact that you are getting healthy.
  
  I agree with a PP that you should be taking your measurements - there have been weeks for me where the scale didn't move but I've lost half an inch or something like that...the inches actually mean more to me than the lbs anyways!

  

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• bltata member

  

  January 2012

  Conrats on 30lbs! That's truly amazing.  I agree that you need to talk to your fi.
  
  It might be a good idea to change up your exercise routine.  Maybe try throwing in some Zumba classes to shock your body, or even swim some laps if you have access to those facilities.  Remember your goals and that you're doing this for your health.

  

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• sunnydays630

  

  January 2012

  Ditto everything dumdum said. 30 lbs is a huge accomplishment, and you should be proud of yourself and your hard work. It is normal for people to plateau--but it is good because you are still losing weight, even if it is at a slower pace. If you feel like you are stuck, try a new work out regimen or a new healthy cook book. Good luck! 

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• Sarah0335 member

  

  January 2012

  I understand where you are coming from.  I am down about 20 pound, but still have a lot more to go.  I feel like since you are constantly focused on being healthy that you spend mre time focusing on your imperfections.  I wouldn't beat yourself up over it too much.  Celebrate all of your small victories and you will reach your goal! 
  
  I would also relook at your calorie intake if you haven't for awhile.  As you lose weight you should be adjusting to eating less calories.  Also, running usually helps me break through a plateau if I am hitting one.  Not sure if you are already a runner, but incorporating it little by little into your routine may help.

  

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• bootsandgames

  

  January 2012

  Great job on your loss!  

  
  

  I completely understand where you are coming from. I lost around 30 lbs this past summer/fall and instead of feeling great about myself, I felt worse about the way I looked. For some reason it really did a number of my self-esteem and I hated that everyone was paying attention to me and giving me compliments. Also, I definitely get what you mean about women around you constantly talking about their weight loss or when thinner friends talk about feeling big. Know you aren't alone in how you feel!  

  
  

  Not sure how you are counting your calories but have you tried using MyFitnessPal? That's what I use and I really like it. It's simple to use and adjusts my calorie intake for each time I lose a certain amount of weight based on my goals. I also agree with pp about trying new classes or a different workout routine, it'll help liven it up for ya! 

  

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