Etiquette Board aggravation!!!!!

rmp4996 · June 2012

So, on FB some of you ladies were talking about how interesting the e-board was. I didn't know what you meant, but once I found out, I checked it out and got totally annoyed and let a little lose on some mean person on there. I'm terrified of that board!!!!! Coming from here, where you are all so nice, to there, where they are so mean.....why would anyone ask for advice on there? Some woman asked a question about her rehersal dinner (the one where the inlaws don't get along) and they jumped down her throat about her not paying for the rd, even though she said she cannot afford it. But besides that, 2 people bitched her out about not using spell check!!!!! Spell check, unreal. Like they have nothing better to do than corret an adult about their spelling on a message board. One girl said "seriouslty, use spell check" and then in the same post wrote "fir" instead of "for" so I nailed her for it because I was seriously so annoyed with them. Ugh, sorry this is a meaningless post, just needed to come back to some friendly people and vent a little, lol. Anyway, happy Friday

trying a new gym today, going to try bootcamp class, don't know if I'll survive it, lol. And then pedicures. Enjoy your days.

emilyb213 · June 2012

Hahahaha!! I feel the same way about the Etiquette board. I'll cruise it just to see what the drama du jour is, but there's no way I'd ask those ladies for advice. It seems like they almost always end up focusing on a little, insignficant detail from the original post, and focus all their energy on that, instead of what the person is actually asking. Posting on there is like willingly throwing yourself into a tank of hungry sharks.

bar10521 · June 2012

And that would be why I only lurk there lol. They really do get some of the best drama, which I love as long as I'm in no way involved. But to be fair there are some people who post ridiculous things that just go against common sense nevermind etiquette and if I had to keep dealing with that I don't think I could play nice for very long. Anyone happen to see this poor guy's situation? I feel terrible for him http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_mom-turns-toast-into-btchfit

ktwed1 · June 2012

I refuse to even go to that board. I have no time for people who have nothing better to do than degrade and pick on other people. I won't even lurk anymore. It makes me down right sick that people can be such vultures. It's really pretty funny because people get real brave on the internet. In reality they wouldn't have the balls to say the things they do if it were face to face.

emilyb213 · June 2012

I saw that, Bar (yesterday when I was supposed to be doing work, haha). And I read the other two threads he had linked. I'm going to try to keep that guy and his wackjob of a mother in mind when my future mother-in-law is working my nerves...I could always have that crazy woman as a mother-in-law!! He and his wife are saintly for putting up with the BS she's pulled.

cnf2013 · June 2012

Oh my gosh, seriously, people there are so mean! And it's only because it's anonymous and there's such a strong clique of like a dozen girls. I will occasionally respond to something but not much. I posted there once and actually got 99% nice responses. Only person was snarky to me, so I consider that a win.

Some of the things people ask on that board though make me question humanity. Some people ask ridiculous questions and if they would just click into a few posts would know the answer and not have to get chewed out.

Those girls are batsh!t crazy about the money related topics. I would never ask about the who's paying what kinds of questions to them. Mrs. Price asked that question about getting legally married for the tax break and still having their wedding the next year and while I have no problems with that I think the e-board would have sh!t their pants in rage over something along those lines. They get so hell bent over the difference between a wedding and a vow renewal. Ugh. It makes me crazy how ridiculous they can be.

Nightt · June 2012

The E board is a group of girls that like to pretend they are the masters of etiquette. They're rude, judgmental, bullies who have nothing better to do. Pretty sad if you ask me.

Some people are left by themselves to plan a wedding and don't know what to do or how to start. When someone on the boards asks a question, I don't see any reason they need to be so rude.

Have you guys noticed that most of these people have also been married for years and have an outrageous amount of posts? Really?!

cnf2013 · June 2012

I knowww, they'v all been married for years pretty much! And the rate at which they post makes me wonder if they have any sort of life beyond being bitches online on a wedding board so many years past their own weddings.

anastassiiat · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_etiquette-board-aggravation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:dd998cf4-6d7e-431d-9e00-2baa4a272f83Post:14741db0-71ab-47f7-b51d-6a20824249ad">Re: Etiquette Board aggravation!!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]I knowww, they'v all been married for years pretty much!<strong> And the rate at which they post makes me wonder if they have any sort of life beyond being bitches online on a wedding board so many years past their own weddings</strong>.
Posted by cnf2013[/QUOTE]

I was just about to say the same thing! I feel like they are all stepford wives, the type who sit at home all day doing nothing but drinking margaritas with their neighbours! There is no way they can have legit jobs and be invested in their families, every other post on their is like a full on conversation!

SB1512 · June 2012

Eh, I've learned a lot from lurking on the e-board. Example, one of my BM's suggested FI and I do a honeymoon registry because she went to a wedding in January and it was done and then the couple got to do so much cool stuff in Hawaii.......had it not been for the e-board I would have never learned that honeymoon registries are a big no no and that your guests will probably talk bad about you behind your back. And in all honestly, the girls on there usually only get snarky if the original poster goes on about how they are doing what they want b/c it's "their day" and fighting back against the advice. If you have a bad idea (like asking for cash for gifts, or including registry info with invites) and you want it validated, the e-board is not the place to post. And honestly, people who have a courthouse wedding and then a big celebration later on........can you honestly say that you wouldn't be annoyed to get invited to someone having a day to play dress up and get gifts/money from guests when they are already married? I know the e-board can be blunt, but if you take a step back and look at some things that people want to plan or do, it really is ridiculous and rude.

cnf2013 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_etiquette-board-aggravation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:dd998cf4-6d7e-431d-9e00-2baa4a272f83Post:0ed40ffd-6118-4b5b-bc4f-07e1805636ca">Re: Etiquette Board aggravation!!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Eh, I've learned a lot from lurking on the e-board. Example, one of my BM's suggested FI and I do a honeymoon registry because she went to a wedding in January and it was done and then the couple got to do so much cool stuff in Hawaii.......had it not been for the e-board I would have never learned that honeymoon registries are a big no no and that your guests will probably talk bad about you behind your back. And in all honestly, the girls on there usually only get snarky if the original poster goes on about how they are doing what they want b/c it's "their day" and fighting back against the advice. If you have a bad idea (like asking for cash for gifts, or including registry info with invites) and you want it validated, the e-board is not the place to post. And honestly, people who have a courthouse wedding and then a big celebration later on........can you honestly say that you wouldn't be annoyed to get invited to someone having a day to play dress up and get gifts/money from guests when they are already married? I know the e-board can be blunt, but if you take a step back and look at some things that people want to plan or do, it really is ridiculous and rude.
Posted by SB1512[/QUOTE]

<div>I also agree with this, to an extent. I do see how things are rude and tacky and when the girsl defend themselves about it being "their day" they look childish and immature. I also think that some things change generationally and some things that were frowned upon decades or generations ago are not so passe anymore.</div><div>
</div><div>One thing that I've noticed about that board is how much they snub at honeymoon registries but think it's okay to ask for cash (but only through word of mouth) if it's delegated to a very specific married couple cost such as a down payment for a house. In my opinion, both are asking for cash, one is just more blunt, and I honestly don't see the difference. I feel like if you can't afford a lavish honeymoon retreat than you probably shouldn't have one. That being said, if I went to wedding where that was the registry I would donate without having anything rude to say about it. But maybe it's because I'm however many generations removed and asking for blenders seems stupid to me in today's day where most couples live together prior to getting married. Thanks, I already have two blenders. Really don't want another one. </div>

SB1512 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_etiquette-board-aggravation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:dd998cf4-6d7e-431d-9e00-2baa4a272f83Post:11d66656-b333-47ce-b0ca-c3f02efbba4f">Re: Etiquette Board aggravation!!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Etiquette Board aggravation!!!!! : I also agree with this, to an extent. I do see how things are rude and tacky and when the girsl defend themselves about it being "their day" they look childish and immature. I also think that some things change generationally and some things that were frowned upon decades or generations ago are not so passe anymore. <strong>One thing that I've noticed about that board is how much they snub at honeymoon registries but think it's okay to ask for cash (but only through word of mouth) if it's delegated to a very specific married couple cost such as a down payment for a house. In my opinion, both are asking for cash, one is just more blunt, and I honestly don't see the difference. </strong>I feel like if you can't afford a lavish honeymoon retreat than you probably shouldn't have one. That being said, if I went to wedding where that was the registry I would donate without having anything rude to say about it. But maybe it's because I'm however many generations removed and asking for blenders seems stupid to me in today's day where most couples live together prior to getting married. Thanks, I already have two blenders. Really don't want another one.
Posted by cnf2013[/QUOTE]

I feel like the response of the e-board on spreading a cash request through word of mouth can only occur if someone asks. So, if you are getting married and you have a super super small registry and your mom's cousin asks your mom hey "why don't X and Y have a big registry" it would be ok for your mom to say, oh well they are saving up to buy a house. It is not ok (and the e-board has never condoned) for familiy members to go around broadcasting that you want cash if wedding guests don't ask about why there is no registry or a small registry.

chelseamb11 · June 2012

I will bet at least half of you try to become E-regs before your weddings.

rmp4996 · June 2012

I don't think my post went over so well with the e-board people.....they now have a thread saying that we are bashing the ladies over there. Never meant to bash them, just didn't think they were being very nice in that post I read. But since I only started reading the e-board, maybe I shouldn't have said anything. Wooppss, lol. Sorry if I made anyone mad, didn't think this little rant would get all the way back to them and get so much attention!

adamar15 · June 2012

I would be on cloud fuucking 9 if I could stay home all day and drink margaritas. Maybe not with my neighbors, though. They're all either old, weird, or don't speak English.

angelstar975 · June 2012

I'll drink margaritas with you, Adamar. Then we can be super mean to everyone and everyone can feel sorry for our fiances/husbands.

sparent2010 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_etiquette-board-aggravation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:dd998cf4-6d7e-431d-9e00-2baa4a272f83Post:613e05b2-c51d-4eb6-ac6c-bc3b14329953">Re: Etiquette Board aggravation!!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Darth Cfas loves margaritas. Cos she is an E-board stepford Sith/wife. Feel sorry for my husband.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

I'm dying-

Meghannsix · June 2012

Wow, WTF? I think all of the boards serve some sort of purpose. The E board is definitely never a dull moment, and I gotta say, for all their good advice, and you girls know that a lot of it is good advice, I'm kinda put off by SB1512 posting on there that they were being bashed, and them showing up here and posting on this thread. I think it's pretty juvenille on all accounts. What was the point SB? Trying to gain brownie points with the ladies on E?

anastassiiat · June 2012

I apologize for calling you names on here behind your backs, that was not right. But, in my defense, you do critique the posters a lot, and not always in the kindest words, so that might be why sometimes you don't strike people like the nicest group.

Berry327 · June 2012

All right ladies, that's enough. We're all on these boards for a common *happy* reason, so let's not all start fighting. E-board ladies, OP apologized, so let's let it go. June ladies, just a good reminder that anyone come and view/post on this board. :-)

SB1512 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_etiquette-board-aggravation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:dd998cf4-6d7e-431d-9e00-2baa4a272f83Post:36a27fb6-a623-4190-94ae-173809144074">Re: Etiquette Board aggravation!!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow, WTF? I think all of the boards serve some sort of purpose. The E board is definitely never a dull moment, and I gotta say, for all their good advice, and you girls know that a lot of it is good advice, I'm kinda put off by SB1512 posting on there that they were being bashed, and them showing up here and posting on this thread. I think it's pretty juvenille on all accounts. What was the point SB? Trying to gain brownie points with the ladies on E?
Posted by Meghannsix[/QUOTE]

No brownie points are not on my agenda. I just think it's lame to talk crap about people behind their backs......IRL and on the internet, and those that do so should be called out on it. It's one thing to vent that the e-board was "mean to you" but it wasn't necessary to refer to them as stepford wives or lame because they are already married and still posting. Those women offer great advice and ultimately their goal is to prevent future brides from looking like idiots for completely disregarding etiquette.

crfische · June 2012

Well, MY goal is to brainwash everyone to think what I think, but if you think my efforts are more valiant than that, I'm cool with that, too.

sparkles776 · June 2012

SB1512, I really dont understand the point of you posting that thread. I think it was really immature and stupid on your part. This board has always been friendly and welcoming, I dont think I have ever seen a negative thread on this board, thank you for ruining that.

Berry327 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_etiquette-board-aggravation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:dd998cf4-6d7e-431d-9e00-2baa4a272f83Post:9b3ffd2f-b505-441d-8b1f-042be702523b">Re: Etiquette Board aggravation!!!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Etiquette Board aggravation!!!!! : Do you have a cool hall monitor badge?
Posted by EaglesBride2012[/QUOTE]

This board is a positive place and i for one would like to keep it that way. I'm also a mature adult and see no reason for this negativity. It's completely unnecessary. You're on this board because you're married or are getting married. Time to grow up.

Snippylynn · June 2012

Yeah, GROW UP EAGS!!

Ah well, it's not the first time this has been said, and doubtful that it will be the last. The funny thing is, that the board as it is today is lightyears away from what it used to be like. If you had posted this a couple of years ago, then it would completely be justified, but there has been an evolution there, and things are quite a bit nicer than they used to be. If it still ruffles your feathers, then you probably shouldn't be on the internet at all.

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