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Jr Bridesmaid question

whinkle863whinkle863
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I have a 12 year old as a Jr Bridesmaid. I have 4 bridesmaids plus her, my FI has 4 groomsmen. He is considering asking a 5th friend to be a groomsman as well. So..what would look better..should she walk down the aisle by herself, or with the 5th groomsmen (who is 25). 
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Re: Jr Bridesmaid question

  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    [QUOTE]I have a 12 year old as a Jr Bridesmaid. I have 4 bridesmaids plus her, my FI has 4 groomsmen. He is considering asking a 5th friend to be a groomsman as well. So..what would look better..should she walk down the aisle by herself, or with the 5th groomsmen (who is 25). 
    Posted by whinkle863[/QUOTE]
    You're overthinking this.

    It might look odd to some people if she's walking with someone so much older that she doesn't know, so maybe if there is another groomsman that's closer to her age she could walk with him. If not, then she could still either walk with him or walk alone. He can then walk with another girl who now gets a guy on either side of her. Or they can all walk alone.
    It is just a walk. It only takes seconds, so this doesn't need to be something to stress over AND it's definitely something that doesn't need to be worried about, yet. :)
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  • jennylee813jennylee813 member
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    edited November 2012
    My DD will be 10 next summer. She will walk down the aisle alone at the beginning of the ceremony, and I think I will have her walk out at the end with DS. He will be 13, and I plan to have him walk me down the asile at the beginning.

    I don't see the problem with letting her walk alone, or as PP said, have one groomsman walk two bridesmaids. Or, all of the girls can walk in alone ... there are lots of choices.

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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    edited November 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_jr-bridesmaid-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:36aa938d-99a1-47c8-a4d9-7e34348dd34ePost:0f28af48-45ca-4e37-9013-a01d44d2c799">Re: Jr Bridesmaid question</a>:
    [QUOTE]You're overthinking this.  It's a sixty-second walk back up an aisle.  She can simply fall in behind the others, or walk with the other guy.  It's not a big deal.  They don't have to walk with anyone else, if it comes to that; they aren't dogs. Please re-think the "junior" business. It serves no purpose other than to tell her that she's younger and soooo keeeewwwwwt.  She's not doing anything differently than the other women; she walks down the aisle and smiles. She's a bridesmaid.
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

    Retread, people in their 3rd year in high school or college are called "juniors," so I have to disagree that the word "junior" in a wedding party is meant to be demeaning.
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_jr-bridesmaid-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:36aa938d-99a1-47c8-a4d9-7e34348dd34ePost:d7da1396-d875-4c36-8a95-436e23a4d869">Re: Jr Bridesmaid question</a>:
    [QUOTE]Jen, those students aren't advanced yet.  They're doing things differently than the older students, and are thus ranked according to graduation status. There is no reason to rank wedding parties, since they are all doing the same thing.  The sole exception are the Best Man and Maid of Honor titles, which are intended to honor especially close friends.
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

    I still disagree.  A junior in school is supposedly beyond a freshman and a sophomore.

    But that's besides the point.  I don't think any kid gives a d--n whether or not he or she is deemed a "junior" bridesmaid/groomsman.  And there are things teenage to adult attendants can do/handle that would not be expected of someone between the ages of 9 and 14.

    A "junior" does not deem someone only wanted for the "oh how cute" factor.  I think you read too much into it that's not there.
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  • Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    Either her walking solo or walking with the groomsman is fine.  I'd defer to her preference on this one - would she feel special to be like the other girls and walk with a GM?  or would it make her really uncomfortable to be escorted by an adult she doesn't know?  I could easily see this going either way so I'd ask her.

    And I agree with Jen - jr may spark an issue with a 16 year old whose really focused on seeming adult (as most are at that age) but a 12yo is not going to be offended by it.  I knowfor us it was an important distinction b/c the jrs didn't do everything the adults did.  They didn't have to be there as early because they weren't in all the pre-photos, they went straight to the reception with their parents rather than going to a park to do extra outdoor photos with us.  We also had photos with just the jrs and FG/RB so the photographer being able to distinguish who he wanted in the photo was helpful.

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