QOTD 10/23

melb2013 · October 2012

Is there anyone you wish would be more involved in your wedding planning? Anyone you wish would be less involved?

RebCappon · October 2012

I feel like everyone's been equally helpful, except my sister who keeps saying she wishes she was more involved but then isn't so I am not sure how to read that one.

But all in all, the help I have gotten is great!

SSaltzman87 · October 2012

FI and I have been doing the majority of it. At first, our parents were more involved when we were looking at venues and whatnot- now it's just more of us lettting them know what's going on.

melb2013 · October 2012

FI got all snippy with his mother on the phone a couple of days ago about little stupid things concerning our wedding. She's eventually suppose to give us a recipe for an Indian dish that the caterer will make- he got all upset that she hadn't done this yet. We don't need it yet. He also got upset that they hadn't reserved a room at the hotel. It's true that there is only one hotel in the area, but she has plenty of time to book.

I think the reality is that FI is just upset that since we made it clear to his parents that we were not having an Indian wedding, in NY, with the amount of people they wanted, they haven't shown any interest in the wedding at all. They are busy with FSIL's wedding, so I don't expect them to have time for us right now, but I think he's feeling jealous and neglected. Personally, I'm just as happy to have them uninvolved.

beckyh77 · October 2012

I don't think we really have any issues on this one. FIL's are planning the rehearsal dinner. The only thing that's tricky is working around FI's work schedule. We don't work completely opposite shifts, he just starts later in the day and often isn't home until 7-8pm when I get off at 3, so finaggling evening appointments when he's available havfe to occur several weeks in advance instead of a spur of the moment thing. He picked out the tuxes, he went with me to look at limos, he ok'd the STD's before I sent them out, he went to both caterer tastings. So far so good!

Krikin22 · October 2012

FMIL and FSIL want to be involved, but I'm not sure how to include them. I hired a wedding planner to do most of everything because I'm not very creative and I was never one to plan my wedding ever since I was a little girl. It actually freaks me out to have that much attention on me! I'm trying to come up with some DIY projects for them to help with.

Annas2013 · October 2012

I wish my mom would help more in some areas like catering (which needs to get done soon) and less everywhere else. She doesn't do stuff that I ask her to help with then completely takes over other areas.

melb2013 · October 2012

Okay, I'll rephrase my issue a bit. I don't think FI wants his parents to do more, just be more interested. They never ask about the wedding and don't even act like we're getting married. I really think it's just because of FSIL's upcoming wedding and I think FI is acting a little like a baby about it... sibling rivalry stuff

agancedo · October 2012

While like Mel I'm perfectly content in having my FMIL uninvolved it does get a bit annoying when she doesn't even acknowledge the fact that we are getting married. Just the other day we were talking about the guest list and she finally said we can remove certain people when she was nagging the whole time that they HAD to be invited, but when we point out that she already told them about the STDs that they had waiting at her house and how we couldn't uninvite them now, she responded that no one will care/remember because its so far away and who can expect them to care. I almost lost it.

rswans · October 2012

I don't think there is anyone I want more or less involved except maybe my FI on a few things (still waiting on all his addresses for STDs and it's almost to the point of not worth sending even though I already bought them). My FMIL wants to be more involved, but it's a distance problem and there just isn't much that she can do from there. I'd fully welcome it if she was close and wanted to go to stuff with me, but it's not really possible.

FLGatorGal88 · October 2012

I wish my FIL's and my family were more involved. It's like we aren't even having a wedding. FI and I have pretty much done everything this far. Hopefully things will change once we get closer.

MamaBear904 · October 2012

Nope. Neither. I just wish I was not so obsessed with the wedding or the planning. Because I used to have a wedding-related business, I keep feeling like I need to do more, have more, show more and a large part of the reason is because I love it and dearly miss it. But I also have to realistically come to terms with the fact that it is not my business anymore and I just can't afford it.

SRRL18 · October 2012

It doesn't bother me that anyone isn't involved in anything. I'm happy it's just FI and I planning it and doing all the work. The only thing that irritates me is my dad, he offered us money, no set amount yet and won't tell me until he's ready. Needless to say, we planned a wedding we could afford without his contribution.

TogetherPerfect · October 2012

I wish my mom was more involved... they have financial restraints and she has a lot of health problems that prevent her from doing things like shopping with me. It's not her fault, I understand that... but it's still a little hard for the both of us. We are very grateful for the amount of help we have gotten from FI's family. My only complaint is that it seems that FSIL is trying to relive her wedding through ours, but we are going way less traditional than they did.

emenz47 · October 2012

I wish my FMIL was less involved. I love her but we spent 3 months waiting to pick a date because it just HAD to align with some good timing guide she has. Now she is all over us trying to get us to offer a larger and more expensive menu.

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