Dollar Dance

CiaraAshley · November 2010

I come from a large Polish family. We have always had something called the Dollar Dance at weddings. My groom is from a conservative Dutch family and has never heard of this. Is the Dollar Dance inappropriate?

aerinpegadrak · November 2010

About three posts below yours: http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_can-not-having-money-dance-offend

mysticl · November 2010

I don't think it is inappropriate, but then I'm Slovak and it is tradition in my family as well. However, I have opted not to have one because I have limited time at my reception venue and don't want to spend the time on it.

Beachy730 · November 2010

Many people find them rude since you are asking for money from your guests. H's family is Polish and his mom told me she wanted me to have one, but I refused. Their family only consisted of about 20 people in a guest list of 195, so I wasn't offending everyone else. Also, I just personally don't like them.

Only you know your guests and know what they would be offended by. I understand the tradition of them, but I still don't like them and judge them at weddings. But they aren't normal in my circle so its odd to see them.

skippylouwho · November 2010

Interesting - how do posts just disappear? I had posted last evening that I'm offended when there IS a dollar dance. An I am. I think they are about the rudest, tackiest thing you can do at a wedding.

zitiqueen · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_dollar-dance-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:3a2228ef-6052-4536-b551-c14a72d5058fPost:e1c8079a-0e43-4d7c-9a1b-f3a3b598fb7e">Re: Dollar Dance</a>:
[QUOTE]Interesting - how do posts just disappear? I had posted last evening that I'm offended when there IS a dollar dance. An I am. I think they are about the rudest, tackiest thing you can do at a wedding.
Posted by skippylouwho[/QUOTE]

I think a drunk bridesmaid grinding on the groom is far more rude and tacky than a simple dollar dance. But that's just me.

OP is right; it's a huge Polish tradition that goes back for centuries. Go ahead and have one if you want. Some people just refuse to accept that an invitation to participate in a dollar dance is just that -- an invitation. It's not a subpoena. Nobody is being forced at gunpoint to participate. Some people just enjoy going through life with their panties in a wad.

skippylouwho · November 2010

ZITI!! Thanks for the ray of sunshine and insight in to my life.... have a great day!

jessienjeremy · November 2010

They do them alot down here but FI have opted not to do one. I feel it takes too much time from the ceramony. We are actually selling shots instead.

trix1223 · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_dollar-dance-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:3a2228ef-6052-4536-b551-c14a72d5058fPost:6fb7c6d6-2be5-43c0-97f5-02cd35aa6dd9">Re: Dollar Dance</a>:
[QUOTE]They do them alot down here but FI have opted not to do one. I feel it takes too much time from the ceramony.<strong> We are actually selling shots instead. </strong>
Posted by jessienjeremy[/QUOTE]

You're selling shots? Like as a fundraiser at your wedding? Really?

jessinricardo · November 2010

Maybe you could still have a dollar dance but the guests don't have to pay to dance with you or the groom. Just invite the guests to take turns dancing with the bride and groom and give money only if they choose to. I don't see how it is tacky; I suppose people these days are more reluctant to give away their money. I am married to a Mexican immigrant, though we haven't had a wedding yet, and all the weddings I have been to have a money dance; I always thought it was a nice gesture from the guests who participate and plan on doing it at our wedding even though my southern family has probably never seen it before.

JJWillis3 · November 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_dollar-dance-2?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:3a2228ef-6052-4536-b551-c14a72d5058fPost:215db28f-6405-4e7c-8075-b04aa1710055">Re: Dollar Dance</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Dollar Dance : I think a drunk bridesmaid grinding on the groom is far more rude and tacky than a simple dollar dance. But that's just me. OP is right; it's a huge Polish tradition that goes back for centuries. <strong>Go ahead and have one if you want. Some people just refuse to accept that an invitation to participate in a dollar dance is just that -- an invitation. It's not a subpoena. Nobody is being forced at gunpoint to participate. Some people just enjoy going through life with their panties in a wad.
</strong>Posted by zitiqueen[/QUOTE]

I couldn't agree more. I don't think there is anything wrong with the dollar dance. Pretty much every wedding I have ever been to has it. I've never done it but that's because I always forget cash!

If you want to do then do it! That is what everything comes down to anyways! Someone isn't going to like your colors, someone is going to love them. Someone is going to think your flowers aren't big enough and someone else is going to think you spent too much on them... etc. Choose what you guys want! 20 years from now you don't want to look back and wish you had done something that you didn't.

Summer2011Bride · November 2010

I have been to about 4 weddings that did them and the rest did not. I don't find them offensive; like someone else said, if guests are against it, they don't have to participate. They can still dance with the bride/groom some other time during the evening possibly. If you're against the money aspect, have a dollar dance with no dollar. Just let people line up to dance with each of you. I know how busy brides/grooms are during the wedding and this may be the only time you have to dance with all your guests.

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