one of my bridesmaids ( who is also my flower girl's mom) has gotten on my last nerve! She asked me if she could bring her daughter who is 4 years old to the wedding. I told her the only way she could bring her is if she is the flower girl ( which i did not have at the time) because it really is an adult wedding. All along I thought I was doing HER a favor because it seemed as though she wanted her daughter to come. the first fitting her daughter refused to try on dresses so she didnt get one then. The other day her mom called and said she would want to go on wed to look at bridesmaid dresses at alfred angelo. She then cancelled on me tuesday night, after i had made the appt. for wed. She said she had to help her sister with something. She rescheduled for next Wed for alfred angelo which is only 10 mins from us both. I had told her before I was already busy that day b/c I have my first hair trial for the wedding that day, but I agreed that we could go at 6pm since it is only 10 mins away. Today she called me up and said that she was looking online at dresses at davids bridal which is about an hr from us and she wants to go there because they are cheaper. She is saying that they are on a tight budget now because they have been kind of strapped . Fine, i understand, things happen. She wants to go on wed. to davids bridal.! I am getting very frustrated and would LOVE to tell her that the only reason why I said her daughter could be in the wedding was to help them out by not having to find a babysitter for 2 days, etc.. now I feel like the whole thing is just being a big inconvenience for us both. Her: Money Mine: my time, money, etc.
Am I being too harsh? Should I have " the talk " with her. What do I say??