September 2012 Weddings

Being a Zilla about NWR things

I know the world does not revolve around my wedding, but I revolve around my wedding, and therefore I cannot be in two places at once. I had to have a talk with one of my bosses at the farm because I am constantly being called in to work for people who just don't want to come in. I told him I have less than 4 months left and nothing done, and I really cannot be constantly called in. He agreed and we basically agreed that I will be considered completely unavailable on weekends. The problem is we have only a handful of employees, one who only works mornings, two who are too young to drive themselves, and one (Joe) who is obsessed with the place and is there all day everyday. So if anyone calls off, I MUST come in, because no one else can. Its really unfair because I told them many many months ago that I need my hours cut, but we just can't find anyone else to work these hours. I'm starting to feel like I am never going to get anything done because I can never get time off from anything.

An hour after I talked to my boss, my other boss texted me and asked me to fill in for one of the teenagers on Monday. *sigh*

Like I said, we brides know the world doesn't stop for our weddings, but what else can you do? Stuff has to get done! Is anyone else having problems with others who don't seem to understand?

Re: Being a Zilla about NWR things

  • Ugh.. that definitely stinks!   I work for a very small office (myself, my boss and one of manager).  I dont have to worry about being called in because the office has set hours, but I do get very frustrated that I get stuck doing everything!  I have such a hard time being able to take days off because no one else can do my job.  I've tried explaining the same thing to boss about hiring another person.... I'm taking 2 weeks off for my honeymoon and I do plan on having children soon after the wedding... what he going to do then?!?!

    So, I feel your pain!   I hope everything works out for you!   good luck

  • Cowgirl I feel your pain big time. I don't know what a weekend is anymore since getting more involved with my FI family businesses and the wedding. From the time I get up to the moment I go to bed, I am working. Even on my commute to and from work I am working. Its a nightmare and I expressed that to my FI almost DAILY. I had to get super Zilla on him back when budget season started at my regular 9-5 because I am going to be too busy and not allowed to take off. During that time I got super sick from just pushing myself too hard and lack of sleep. FI realized it the day I was in the fetal position in bed one morning in tears cause I could not feel my legs at all from the stress. He has stepped up (to a point) to take a burden off of me for the most part to at least allow me some down time but that is short lived because the moment I think I can sit down, my parents call or my sisters or someone that has a problem and here I go again. I don't know how things are getting done, I have no idea I just know I keep checking them off.

    Wish you the best of luck daring on getting stuff done.
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  • Oh man. I'm so sorry! I'm also from a small office, but it is all family. So, I can get off pretty easily. My biggest problem is my hours. I can't run errands or schedule meetings for after work or before work. So, all of it has to be done on weekends or I have to take off work. That means either less time for DIY projects or less hours/less money.
  • I hear you about things needing to get done but I do it to myself.  Besides my full time job I babysit.  And with finances the way they are I have such a hard time saying no to a job when someone calls BUT I'll run myself ragged trying to do it.  Oh and trying to take classes now at the same time is just crazy of me.  But, I don't want to delay my dream career for the wedding either.  I commit to these things and then look at my calendar and wonder when my next free weekend is (right now it is somewhere in August so of course that will be wedding-filled by that time).  I get what you mean though in that the world doesn't stop for our weddings and the other parts of our lives don't stop (friends, family, work, school) but we need some isolated wedding time to make it happen!
  • It's not zilla-ish at all - it's a bit event in your life and you deserve to have your time for your priorities.
    I'm in the same boat at work - it's so hard to take time off (although I have lots available to me) because I can't leave the office unattended (even leaving for spin class at lunch causes distress for some). I litterally have tell people when I go pee. God forbid they have to fend for themselves and I'm not there to hold their hands :P
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_being-a-zilla-about-nwr-things?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:2ab4bba0-3abf-4fde-8204-09a9915a5f42Post:24504ba8-ca4a-43fd-ac03-fa9bb386e889">Re: Being a Zilla about NWR things</a>:
    [QUOTE]It's not zilla-ish at all - it's a bit event in your life and you deserve to have your time for your priorities. I'm in the same boat at work - it's so hard to take time off (although I have lots available to me) because I can't leave the office unattended (even leaving for spin class at lunch causes distress for some).<strong> I litterally have tell people when I go pee. God forbid they have to fend for themselves and I'm not there to hold their hands :P
    </strong>Posted by mamameech[/QUOTE]

    This is exactly how it is working with these teenagers we hired. I was told at NO point can they be left alone. So all my tasks that I used to do (such as treating cows, looking at each one to make sure they are not sick, etc) all goes by the wayside because I have to babysit new people. I cannot go pee, I cannot even step away to take care of any other work-related issue. If I step aside for something that MUST be done, I come back and see that nothing was done while I was gone. Wtf.

    I think I am going to have to learn the word NO. I'm one of those people who always steps up when needed, and I cannot do that right now. My wedding needs me more right now.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_being-a-zilla-about-nwr-things?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:2ab4bba0-3abf-4fde-8204-09a9915a5f42Post:33b38f4a-6c6c-4b5e-9a6f-69272887d0b2">Re: Being a Zilla about NWR things</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Being a Zilla about NWR things : This is exactly how it is working with these teenagers we hired. I was told at NO point can they be left alone. So all my tasks that I used to do (such as treating cows, looking at each one to make sure they are not sick, etc) all goes by the wayside because I have to babysit new people. I cannot go pee, I cannot even step away to take care of any other work-related issue. If I step aside for something that MUST be done, I come back and see that nothing was done while I was gone. Wtf. I think I am going to have to learn the word NO. I'm one of those people who always steps up when needed, and I cannot do that right now. My wedding needs me more right now.
    Posted by CowgirlK39[/QUOTE]

    Wow that would be so frustrating.  Any word on the other job?  Hopefully this will be a temporary frustration!
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