Is it rude not to have your cousin as a BM when she is having a wedding at the same time and you are

konken11 · September 2010

So I got engaged and a couple of weeks later my cousin got engaged. Her wedding is after mine but she has already asked me to be a BM. We are pretty close (not like best friends or anything) but I already have other people in mind and both me and my FI agree we don't want the drama that comes along with a huge WP. Is it rude not to have her as a BM in my wedding?

stina93446 · September 2010

You're not required to have her in your BP. Weddings are not tit for tat.

suz62984 · September 2010

Weddings aren't tit for tat so it isn't rude. That being said it will probably cause hurt feelings and drama to not include her. Your wedding are at the same time and you said you were pretty close. Really what is one extra person?

aerinpegadrak · September 2010

I'd go with the path of least drama long term. If that's not having her in the wedding at all, go for it. But if it would be less drama to have her as a bridesmaid and expect nothing more of her than to get an appropriate dress and show up for the ceremony, I'd go that route. You don't want to be hearing about this at every family gathering for the rest of your life.

Is it rude not to have your cousin as a BM when she is having a wedding at the same time and you are

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