I have been dating my fiance for 6 years now and we have been engaged for about ten months.. The moment he told his family, particularly his parents, were completely un-supportive of the whole thing.
Some background.. we started dating when we were 16 years old, and saw each other once a week because we went to different high schools. I am a shy person and was extremely shy in front of his parents. His parents have always seen this as me being rude and inconsiderate but I was 16 at the time. And for the past six years, get-togethers with them have been increasingly awkward and uncomfortable. My fiance himself has had a strained relationship with them because he is highly independent and in the past year their relationship has become even more strained. They disagree with most things that we do in our lives together, including living together, jobs we have, and now the fact that we are getting married.
Recently we have gotten in multple arguments with them about the wedding, because according to them it is not our wedding, but rather the famllies wedding. They expect to be involved with every thing that goes on, and expect to be informed of every single detail that we plan. I do not have the relationship with them that would make me consider tellling them any detail because they have never been happy or positive about the things that we telll them. As of right now, they know of everything that we have planned, but still say that they do not know anything about the wedding. We currently go to school two hours away and rarely go home to see them and this is another thing that they have a problem with. In the last arguments that we have had, they have said multple things to me that were extremely hurtful and downright wrong about me particularly. My fiance has defended me and has told them not to speak to me that way,but they continue to do and say that they have the right to.
This is a lot of information, but basically I wanted to know how to deal with these people when our wedding is still 9 months away. They are putting an extreme about of stress onto me at a time when I am attending school, studying for the PCAT, and planning a wedding.