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Who pays for what?

sainteluxuriasainteluxuria
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I was wondering what the modern break down for financing a wedding is - how much does the groom's family pay and how much does the bride's family pay?  The wedding will be local for my fiance's family, and not for mine (i.e., the majority of the people who attend will be from his family and not from mine).
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    Bride and groom pays for the wedding.   If anyone wants to help pay will offer the money.






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  • sarabellamsarabellam member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 5 Love Its
    Yep, you and your fiance pay for it. If people offer to help, keep in mind that any money you take may come with hefty strings attached.
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  • Stackeye210Stackeye210 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_pays-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d01c0053-d1cc-4e22-a2db-b456a693b366Post:5437f23a-1350-48ea-85e0-a1a3d7942a3d">Who pays for what?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was wondering what the <strong>modern break down</strong> for financing a wedding is - how much does the groom's family pay and how much does the bride's family pay?  The wedding will be local for my fiance's family, and not for mine (i.e., the majority of the people who attend will be from his family and not from mine).
    Posted by sainteluxuria[/QUOTE]

    The modern break down for wedding payment is the bride and groom.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    10000 Comments Fourth Anniversary 5 Love Its Combo Breaker
    Ditto the others.

    Save and pay for your own wedding. If one or both sets of parents offer to pay for something or just give you money, then fine. Accept it graciously and pay for the rest yourselves. If you have to postpone the wedding for a bit longer to save, a longer engagement is perfectly fine as well.
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  • WiscisblissWiscisbliss
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    Like PPs said, the bride and groom often pay in the modern world.  If your families want to help, they will offer. 

    Here is the old fashioned breakdown: http://ourmarriage.com/html/who_pays_for_what.html
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  • firsttimersluckfirsttimersluck member
    2500 Comments Third Anniversary 25 Love Its Name Dropper
    modern breakdown- the Bride and Groom pay for everything and families, should they choose to give anything, are graciously thanked for they help and consideration.
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  • noodle_oonoodle_oo member
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    Who pays for what?  YOU!  And your FI of course.

    Any money that your parents or FI's parents offer to give you to help is a gift.  Don't expect anything.  Don't ask for anything.  Plan the wedding that YOU guys can afford.
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  • jemmini6jemmini6 member
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    Ditto PP's.  If you are mature enough to get married, you should be mature enough to pay for it yourselves.  If anyone offers to help, that's just icing on the cake, but it is definitely not required.  And please, for the love of God do not ask anyone for money.
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  • srfgirlie5srfgirlie5 member
    Sixth Anniversary 100 Comments
    If both your and FI's parents are offering to pay for the wedding but aren't sure who pays for what this is a good guideline.

    The Bride's Family
    • All of the reception costs (i.e., room rental, food, and beverages).
    • Bridesmaids' bouquets and flowers.
    • Decorative accessories for the ceremony and reception.
    • Music for the ceremony and reception.
    • Groom's wedding gift and wedding band.
    • Bridesmaids' gifts and their hotel accommodations.
    • Photographer and photographs.
    • Wedding stationery.
    • Bride's wedding gown, accessories and trousseau.
    • All transportation and parking expenses for the ceremony and reception.

    The Groom's Family
    • Bride's rings and wedding gift.
    • Marriage license.
    • Grooms-men's gifts.
    • Ties and gloves for the groom's party.
    • Bride's bouquet and corsage.
    • Corsages for mothers and grandmothers.
    • Boutonnieres for the groom's party.
    • Clergyman's fee.
    • Rehearsal dinner.
    • The honeymoon.
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  • ADTonkADTonk
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_pays-8?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d01c0053-d1cc-4e22-a2db-b456a693b366Post:18e4fa97-59dd-425d-9153-840cd13df5a7">Re: Who pays for what?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Bride and groom pays for the wedding.   If anyone wants to help pay will offer the money.
    Posted by lyndausvi[/QUOTE]

    This. 
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