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Greetings from the Hinterlands

Hey, laydeez. I finally have my mom's laptop and time to update, and I think I'm losing my tiny little mind. So, I'm now stuck in MS until at least Weds., because some lady rear ended my car the first day I was here and the body shop doesn't get the part in until Monday. That is the suck, because FI will be home by Saturday night or Sunday morning (woohoo, 14 weeks are almost over) and I wanted to have a little more time to get everything together. At this rate, I'm just hoping I get there before him.

I've been to about 5 dress shops here, and it hasn't been too bad, and I have contenders (I'm giving you guys links and not pics because they're on my mom's phone), but I broke the cardinal rule. I tried on a dress that was over budget (it's $2400 and the very tip-top of my budget is $1500) and, of course, it was frikken perfect. I'm making my peace with getting the second choice, because I refuse to spend that much on a dress. I also found bridesmaid dresses and have done a bit of registering, and am meeting with the photographer Monday, so I may actually get everything done.

So, this one is really simple (there would be no flower sash on mine), it's like. If I choose this one it would have some off the shoulder straps/cap sleeves that would be made of the same lace and have a few of the beads (there's a little bit of beading on the bodice) scattered on it:
http://www.morilee.com/bridals/blu/4528

This one is the one I will probably end up with, again, that is contingent on them being able to tell me that they will be able to get the lace to make the off the shoulder straps. The applique is really stunning in person, and it's a little more ornate. You can't see it too well in pictures, but in between the applique is swiss dotted net:
http://www.theknot.com/wedding-dress/casablanca-bridal/2051

This one my mom really likes, it's a little more A-line, but I'd want the straps less close to my neck and I don't know if that's an option:
http://www.allurebridals.com/Store_ProductDetail.aspx?pid=4e46hF265018c1572Ge3

Aaaaand, this one is the entirely too expensive one that I love everything about:
http://www.pronovias.us/wedding-gown/bermeo2012.html
I asked them if they offered any sort of discounts for military (and felt weird doing that), but I think it's just not going to happen, and I'm okay with that.

I'm also having a few issues with my grandmother and dad, basically I wish I'd known that they didn't really care about seeing my wedding before I started all of this. Or that they would have given me money to elope. I love them both, dearly, but I'm really not going to feel bad for wanting a wedding, and I wish they'd stop saying things about wishing that I'd just run off to a preacher or that they think it's a lot of money to spend. I get that it's a lot of money. FI and I have set a budget that we're comfortable with and are sticking to. I get that my grandmother, who told me she would pay for my dress, for which I am very grateful, thinks it's silly to get a dress for one day. It's really hurtful to think that these people who I most want there are pretty ambivalent about the whole thing. I realize that "no one will ever care as much as I do" and "it's still a ways away," but it still stings. Like, I just teared up in Barnes and Noble writing that.

In better news, my MOH is so totally awesome. She's seriously getting me through this week and is so incredibly helpful and encouraging. Even if she is encouraging me to pick the more expensive china pattern.

I know that got long, but it's been a long week. I've missed you guys! I've been trying to catch up on threads, and will be back for good by the end of next week. 6 months, I can't believe it!
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Re: Greetings from the Hinterlands

  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_greetings-from-the-hinterlands?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:ee01736c-3076-42a8-b801-06a8c2b466b3Post:fccf2b77-1dc4-4b9f-9a3b-40fd181f3b4c">Greetings from the Hinterlands</a>:
    [QUOTE]Hey, laydeez. I finally have my mom's laptop and time to update, and I think I'm losing my tiny little mind. So, I'm now stuck in MS until at least Weds., because some lady rear ended my car the first day I was here and the body shop doesn't get the part in until Monday. That is the suck, because FI will be home by Saturday night or Sunday morning (woohoo, 14 weeks are almost over) and I wanted to have a little more time to get everything together. At this rate, I'm just hoping I get there before him. I've been to about 5 dress shops here, and it hasn't been too bad, and I have contenders (I'm giving you guys links and not pics because they're on my mom's phone), but I broke the cardinal rule. I tried on a dress that was over budget (it's $2400 and the very tip-top of my budget is $1500) and, of course, it was frikken perfect. I'm making my peace with getting the second choice, because I refuse to spend that much on a dress. I also found bridesmaid dresses and have done a bit of registering, and am meeting with the photographer Monday, so I may actually get everything done. So, this one is really simple (there would be no flower sash on mine), it's like. If I choose this one it would have some off the shoulder straps/cap sleeves that would be made of the same lace and have a few of the beads (there's a little bit of beading on the bodice) scattered on it: <a href="http://www.morilee.com/bridals/blu/4528" rel="nofollow">http://www.morilee.com/bridals/blu/4528</a> This one is the one I will probably end up with, again, that is contingent on them being able to tell me that they will be able to get the lace to make the off the shoulder straps. The applique is really stunning in person, and it's a little more ornate. You can't see it too well in pictures, but in between the applique is swiss dotted net: <a href="http://www.theknot.com/wedding-dress/casablanca-bridal/2051">http://www.theknot.com/wedding-dress/casablanca-bridal/2051</a> This one my mom really likes, it's a little more A-line, but I'd want the straps less close to my neck and I don't know if that's an option: <a href="http://www.allurebridals.com/Store_ProductDetail.aspx?pid=4e46hF265018c1572Ge3" rel="nofollow">http://www.allurebridals.com/Store_ProductDetail.aspx?pid=4e46hF265018c1572Ge3</a> Aaaaand, this one is the entirely too expensive one that I love everything about: <a href="http://www.pronovias.us/wedding-gown/bermeo2012.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.pronovias.us/wedding-gown/bermeo2012.html</a> I asked them if they offered any sort of discounts for military (and felt weird doing that), but I think it's just not going to happen, and I'm okay with that. I'm also having a few issues with my grandmother and dad, basically I wish I'd known that they didn't really care about seeing my wedding before I started all of this. Or that they would have given me money to elope. I love them both, dearly, but I'm really not going to feel bad for wanting a wedding, and I wish they'd stop saying things about wishing that I'd just run off to a preacher or that they think it's a lot of money to spend. I get that it's a lot of money. FI and I have set a budget that we're comfortable with and are sticking to. I get that my grandmother, who told me she would pay for my dress, for which I am very grateful, thinks it's silly to get a dress for one day. It's really hurtful to think that these people who I most want there are pretty ambivalent about the whole thing. I realize that "no one will ever care as much as I do" and "it's still a ways away," but it still stings. Like, I just teared up in Barnes and Noble writing that. In better news, my MOH is so totally awesome. She's seriously getting me through this week and is so incredibly helpful and encouraging. Even if she is encouraging me to pick the more expensive china pattern. I know that got long, but it's been a long week. I've missed you guys! I've been trying to catch up on threads, and will be back for good by the end of next week. 6 months, I can't believe it!
    Posted by divinemsbee[/QUOTE]

    Have you looked into the brides across america program? That's how I got my dress, it was a wonderful experience and I found the perfect dress for me. They had a lace dress as well that I loved but the alterations were going to be ridiculous (It was legit 4 dress sizes big on me).  If there's one anywhere close to you, it's seriously worth the trip. I also won $50 in Mary Kay for showing up on top of finding my dream dress for free. With your budget, you could afford to have considerable alterations done if you found a dress that's even CLOSE to what you want, KWIM?

    Just a thought. You may have already looked into it and found there was nothing in your area or it wasn't feasible, or you may not be eligible for all I know since it depends on where your FI has served on deployments.... so it may all be a mute point, but if it's not I'd say it's definitely worth looking into.

    Sorry about your car and the emotions that come with people's differing reactions to your wedding plans. Just remember that what matters at the end of all of this is that you and your then H are happy with what you chose :) and YAY for getting to see him so soon!
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  • I LOVE # 3. 
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  • They're all pretty, but i loooove the third one!  And the one that's crazy expensive is beautiful, but that seems like a lot of dress to haul around! 

    I'm glad you're making progress  Smile
  • Thanks guys. I'm going to try them on again and order the dress on Tuesday, so this is really helping the decision making.

    Fingers crossed that all can turn out.
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  • I think all of them are beautiful. I like your mom's pick and the one that is over budget is stunning. Boo lol. Could you buy the sample?
  • I love your mom's pick too.  I love lace necklines like that. 

    Is Brides Across America the program that gives dresses to women who are marrying members of the military who have recently been deployed?  If not, you could look into that one.
  • I just love the Allure one... so pretty!

    Try and not worry about what other people think. I hope I don't offend you, but it seems like you have this unrealistic expectation that everyone will be so excited to help you plan your wedding. Don't worry I had that too... but try and not let it get to you, I planned my wedding mostly by myself with a little help from H. DIY projects? Did them all myself. Vendor meetings? Did them myself. Menu Planning? ME. I mean, up until a month before the wedding, no one even though to plan a shower for me. My family even  the day of the wedding was more engulfed in their own little drama than my wedding. These things happen, some people have families that are really into weddings and others don't.  TBH, I couldn't even go to my month board for a long time because it would just make me upset knowing that their family/friends were so involved and my family couldn't care less.

    Keep your chin up! Try and not let it get to you!

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