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Guest woes, feeling bummed!

Nati05Nati05 member
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FI and I are also dealing with regret over not inviting more of my US friends. I had to invite very few friends just to stay within guest limit because of my enormous family. We made our guest list based on what we could afford with 100% attendance, like you're supposed to. But we didn't realize that with a wedding like ours with so many out of country guests, you can allow for more. Way more than half of US guests we invited aren't coming. It makes me mad to see how many friends of mine I could have sent an invitation to, even if they would decline, because we were too strict with our guest list. It's possible some friends understand they probably didn't get an invite because the wedding is so far away, but I can't help worrying they might feel hurt :( Sometimes I wish I could back in time to fix things with this wedding!
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Re: Guest woes, feeling bummed!

  • BrightFireflyBrightFirefly member
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    First off - your friend is an AMAZING friend for agreeing so quickly and so whole-heartedly to come to the wedding.

    Your MOH is being a punk. She should have known months ago whether or not she could attend - especially being the MOH. If she backs out, I don't see anything wrong with asking your other friend to stand with you - the one who actually made an effort to come.

    I can't imagine being in your situation :o( So far from friends!
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  • Carla1019Carla1019
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    The Etiquette rule is to never B list. BUT, I had a close friend that her parents were paying 100% for the wedding and she did not have a say in the guest list. After invitations went out she begged her parents if she could invite a few of her friends and they agreed. I got a hand delivered invitation from her and she explained everything and I was not offended. I had a great time at her wedding.

    My point is that if you know for sure that your friends will NOT be offended than I say be honest with them and explain the situation and tell them you would be honored if they came.
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  • mekiakoomekiakoo member
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    :( I'm sad for you about your MOH. I would be angry and offended too so I don't blame you. Do you talk to her often?

    I've heard that if you have a wedding out of the country- expect more guests to not show up. But you were smart to expect 100% attendance. We did not and we were panicking and hoping for more "no's".

    Maybe you can have a party when you are in the US so more people can come and celebrate??
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  • BmoreBride311BmoreBride311 member
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    Aww Nati... ::huggggs::

    I know that it probably doesn't help how you're feeling right now, but I'm certain you will have a gorgeous and memorable wedding. Just try to remember that you are marrying the man that you love, and at the end of the day, that's what's important.
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  • bridetobe71412bridetobe71412
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    Nati, that really sucks. MOH sounds like a flake, to be honest. Since so few of your friends are coming, I think it would be totally appropriate for you to ask your friend who IS coming if she'd mind being your MOH. It doesn't sound like she would be offended.

    (Yes I know this is against etiquette but honestly it makes the most sense for you, Nati. You have a really "special snowflake" situation and if you don't mind not following etiquette to a T -- envelope situation?? -- then I don't think you should just NOT have a MOH because of it.)
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  • michelle11988michelle11988 member
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    Awww I'm so sorry Nati about your MOH not coming.  I would be devastated if I thought my BMs and MOH were coming for months now and then they backed out.  I would totally ask your friend that is coming to step in as your MOH and stand up there with you on your wedding day.  If I was your friend I would be so honored to do that!

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  • Nati05Nati05 member
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    Thanks guys for the encouragement! I'm going to give some thought to asking my friend if she'd like to step in. I'd really love to have her and it'd be great if we could ignore the rules for a second for friendship. Lol.. that came out really cheesy, but you all know what I mean haha :)
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