How soon did your family meet SO?

tmacwin · April 2011

I made a post below about how soon I think my older sister is bringing a new guy she is dating to meet the whole family (around 50 people--they have been on one date).

So my question is, how long were you and SO/FI/H dating when you introduced him to your parents/extended family? How long before you met his family?

I brought Calvin around my family earlier than I usually would. We had been an exclusive couple for about 3 weeks. (maybe I shouldn't be judging my sister, but, seriously, 1 date!)

I met Calvin's parents a couple of weeks later.

Edit: I forgot to post when I met his family. I'm getting to Post happy!

fallbride1109 · April 2011

We started dating in June 2006 and he came to our holiday functions the next year, 2007. So a little over a year. I think I met his family that same summer. I let him meet my daughter at around 6 months. Our families met a few months before the wedding.

I guess that was a little long but it felt right--I wanted to be sure it was going somewhere first. I hadn't dated in 4 years and I knew my family would go crazy so I wanted to make sure it was serious.

professorscience · April 2011

My FI met my parents about a month after I met him, but we met at summer camp when we were 13. So they've known him forever.

I "formally" met his family about three months later, at a HUGE family gathering. It was mega-intimidating.

K and C · April 2011

FI and I were seeing each other for about 2 or 3 weeks before we met each others families.
When we had been dating for about 1 month we took a big vacation with my family and a few weeks later, on with his. So I guess we were pretty involved with each other families right from the beginning.

One date does seem a little soon, but if they feel that confident in their relationship to make that step then good for them! I would assume that you would trust your sisters judgement enough to know that she wouldn't bring home a guy if they weren't both willing to take that step.
I hope it goes well!

llc2011 · April 2011

FI came over to a family brunch about a month after we started dating. We only did it that early because my dad was working in Atlanta the time and was home for a visit. I met his parents a couple of weeks after that.

FebDallasBride · April 2011

We started dating Aug of 09, took a break Dec 09-Mar 10, but once we got back together everything was pretty quick between meeting the family and us getting engaged and then him deploying. He met my extended family over the course of two weekends in May-June with trips to Houston and OKC. I met his parents Mothers Day weekend and will be going to AZ in Oct to meet his extended family, even though we are all freidns on facebook already.

tmacwin · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_soon-did-family-meet?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:6b4c3975-696c-4bb8-8d01-363b88441623Post:c9301376-57cd-46c8-8220-756a6856244e">Re: How soon did your family meet SO?</a>:
[QUOTE] One date does seem a little soon, but if they feel that <strong>confident in their relationship</strong> to make that step then good for them! I would assume that you would trust your sisters judgement enough to know that she wouldn't bring home a guy if they weren't both willing to take that step. I hope it goes well!
Posted by K and C[/QUOTE]

If I could say it was confidence in the relationship, then absolutely. However, I'm not certain that one date constitutes a relationship.

I do trust her judgement on most things. She's divorced and has a 4 y/o son. And I know that she wants to be in another long-lasting relationsip. I completely get that, and understand that feeling. But for me, one date wouldn't be enough knowledge on the guy to want to bring him around my son. Not yet. Even if she has a great feeling about him, at this point, it effects more than just her.

And I can see why she might be rushing for another reason. Last year she dated a guy that wanted nothing to do with meeting family, her son, friends, anyone. And I believe now she wants to find that out sooner rather than later, as to not waste time on someone who doesn't want to be a part of her whole life.

I don't know. It could work out great for them. I just wish she would spend at least a couple more dates getting to know him.

courtski2004 · April 2011

J and I started dating in August 08, and I met his family within a few weeks of dating. On our second date, I actually met two of his nieces, which was a little weird. He didn't meet my family until May of 09 when I took him 'home' for the Kentucky Derby.
Our two families met this past August at our engagement party. I wanted them to all meet prior to the wedding, and with my familiy being OOT I figured that would be the best time to do it. If my family lived closer, I'm sure I would have introduced them sooner--but not after only one date. That is really soon!

MarieSD · April 2011

Well, we both lived across the country from our families, and at times even from each other! So we didn't meet each other's families until just before we got engaged. But my family knew about him from pretty much day 1, and if we'd lived in the same state, they'd have met him after probably a few weeks.

bsn1752 · April 2011

Andrew and I met in June 2004... I met his family in August 2004 unofficially at the hospital when he got into a wreck (he was walking and hit by a car while crossing a cross walk).

I officially met the family the next year.

holi108 · April 2011

I am probably the odd man out but my FI met my parents before we were even officially dating and I actually met his on the same day. However we were friends friends first and were in college.

KendallandAlbert · April 2011

I met Albert in July 2007, we met each other's immeidate families in August 2007

We were fast. Extended family meets this month! ;P

K and C · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_soon-did-family-meet?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:6b4c3975-696c-4bb8-8d01-363b88441623Post:5d28f93e-b8b7-4127-b329-7bae36156781">Re: How soon did your family meet SO?</a>:
[QUOTE]I do trust her judgement on most things. She's divorced and has a 4 y/o son. And I know that she wants to be in another long-lasting relationsip. I completely get that, and understand that feeling. <strong>But for me, one date wouldn't be enough knowledge on the guy to want to bring him around my son. Not yet. Even if she has a great feeling about him, at this point, it effects more than just her.</strong> Posted by tmacwin[/QUOTE]

This is so true. If it was just her that this was effecting I can see introducing after one date. But you're right, she needs to think about her son in this one, and one date can be way to soon. She needs to figure out for herself first, and then consider how it would effect her child.

maglinpa · April 2011

Darren and I started dating the end of September, I met his Dad, best friend, and son (18 yrs old) twho came down to his house for Thanksgiving. He met my parents the following May because they live in Georgia. He met one brother and his family in Florida the following May and my other brother that same year at Thanksgiving. All my family lives in Georgia or Florida. We have since vactioned with my irish twin brother ifrom Florida.

Having done the meet the parents and family thing early--could go either way. My Mom was always such a great judge of character (and has always been right-darn it) and would let me know her thoughts about whomever I brought home. I usually wanted her to meet them because sometimes y judgement was a little clouded with the giidiness of meeting someone new who appeared to be a good guy. If he is up to the challenge, kuddos to him. Takes a pretty confident guy to be thrown into something like that. However, it could scare him off, but she will be better off to know that now rather than later. IMHO....

crash2729 · April 2011

We went to high school together and were both involved in the same extracurriculars, so we knew each others parents and stuff already.
But when we started dating in October(not this past October, just in october) , and he came to my families Thanksgiving...and I think I had met his family before that.

tmacwin · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_soon-did-family-meet?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:6b4c3975-696c-4bb8-8d01-363b88441623Post:780e958d-7067-40a6-8085-443607a6ebb2">Re: How soon did your family meet SO?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: How soon did your family meet SO? : This is so true. If it was just her that this was effecting I can see introducing after one date. But you're right, she needs to think about her son in this one, and one date can be way to soon. She needs to figure out for herself first, and then consider how it would effect her child.
Posted by K and C[/QUOTE]

Exactly. And just so everyone knows, I am not trying to criticize my sister as a mother. I think she is a wonderful, loving mother who also instill discipline in my nephew. For me, it's just this one thing. And I also know that people when come in and out of his life for his entire life. But at the risk of repeating myself, I still think it is too soon.

meghanttu08 · April 2011

Started dating fall 06...he met my parents when he was on vaca here in dfw and when I was home from a break between summer school and fall semester in 07.

angelsong21 · April 2011

Wow, 1 date is really soon! I think ours was 2-3 months since we were in an LD at the time.

jsauer74 · April 2011

Hmm...this one is tricky for me. FI is my good friend's younger brother, so I already knew all of his family because of Kim and had spent time with all of them. However, being a little gun shy myself, we were together for 2-3 mos before I let him spend a significant amount of time with me while my (now our) daughter was around, and we were together 5 mos before my parents and brothers met him. My daughter knew him, and had been around him because I would take her with me on my weekends to spend time with his sister on her boat and he and the rest of the family would sometimes be there as well.

I just didn't want my daughter to get too attached too quickly because she had such a terrible relationship with her bio father and I knew FI was easy to get attached to because I was already head over heels! But I surely didn't let him know for quite a while!

carmen9311 · April 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_soon-did-family-meet?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:6b4c3975-696c-4bb8-8d01-363b88441623Post:4ca8efae-68a3-46d0-901f-d9d355f1830c">Re: How soon did your family meet SO?</a>:
[QUOTE]I am probably the odd man out but my FI met my parents before we were even officially dating and I actually met his on the same day. However we were friends friends first and were in college.
Posted by holi108[/QUOTE]

<div>Same. We were best friends and in college so I think he came home with me one weekend after we were friends for about 3 weeks or so? We didn't start dating until we were friends for about 6-7 months and by then everyone knew each other.</div>

janiceholt20 · April 2011

FI & I met in high school in 2004, his senior year, my sophmore year. His brother was one of my best friends & I would go hang out at their house after school. He had also came over to my parents house with his brother a few times. So we knew each other's familys before we started dating. We didnt start dating til Feb 2005. The next summer I went to his family reunion with him & met the rest of his extended family. He came with me in 2006 to the 1st family function, Easter at my Grandpa's house & met the whole family.

shortgirltx · April 2011

5 months or so? We live 5 hours from them so it was during my regular visit. Well that was with my dads side. My grandma met him a couple of months in.

I met his mom on our first date (she was visiting for the holidays) and I pushed for me to meet him at his house for our date instead of him picking me up because that would have been a long drive. Yeah, that was a mistake. The rest of his family was about 4 months in.

juliebug1997 · April 2011

He met my parents after about four months and I met his parents at about five months. I thought it went well.....

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