My FMIL is soo...back and forth! She already has a daughter in law and she is attached at the hip to her. The daughter in law has been around for a while so it is understandable. No. I'm not jealous. I'm making a statement. An observation, if you will. She is perfectly fine with her, yet she is so...iffy with me. She likes me one day, has an attitude the next. When we text (yes, we text, she hates talking on the phone), I get one word answers some days and then paragraphs and laughs some others. We sat down and Iaid everything out on the table. She told me, she would like to get to know me better, and I agreed. I'd like to get to know my FMIL as well.
And I've tried.
When I invite her out to lunch, she declines.
When I ask her to go for a walk with me, (She is a diabetic and told me she wanted to go for walks at least 3 times a week, and I want to lose weight.), she declines.
When its just us in the house, she never starts conversations. I do.
When its her, her daughter in law, and myself talking, she directs all attention to the topic to her daughter in law.
She never asks for my opinion or a thought on a subject. (Similar to the previous statement)
When she needs to go to the store, she looks past me and asks her daughter in law.
I don't know why I care so much. I don't know why I value her opinion. I don't know why I keep trying. If this is a test, then I fail!
Don't tell me you want to get to know me better, and then not try. Just like any relationship, you have to give a little to get a little.
So what do I do?