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I finally realized it

SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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I finally know what it is.

The one part of weddings I hate the most.

For us Hindus, it's the end of the ceremony where we almost say good bye to our family and our parents and siblings are last. I am dreading that and I am dreading the airpot. My guy hates that part - even he gets especially teary and hates sitting through them even when we go to weddings, I can't imagine what he'll feel like when it's my turn!

I wish I could skip it but I respect it, but I don't know how I could say goodbye to my parents and move so far.

AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH GETTING TEARY EYED.
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  • jnsainijnsaini
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    edited December 2011
    Aww Sonali
    I am just like you am going to bawling when that time comes..:( Whenever I watch these wedding videos I cry at those moments when the bride is bidding goodbye to her fam..its soo hard especially for us woman we are soo attached and our families mean everything to us! I love my dad I am daddy's girl, he is the best!! Especially cause he is always there to ease my mind about anything regarding the wedding, he protects me from any stress and or any burden caused by the planning of this wedding..sigh now am teary eyed just thinking about it.
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  • SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm going so far. I always worry about my parents. I wish I could be here with them and be there with him at the same time.

    The other day, my boyfriend told my Mom that now that he's recruited me to the other side of the pond, most likely, he had her and my Dad as his next targets. He said he didn't care what it took, he didn't want us to be separated. I think he struggles with the notion of me being with him and that causing me to leave them. It's adorable.
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  • jnsainijnsaini
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    edited December 2011

    How sweet of him! He is a keeper for sure!! :) no wonder you are taking a such a huge step to move there. Its so sweet he understands its hard for you. It would be great if your parents moved to London, but at a later age I hear its hard to make a move for some ppl as they are use to their lifestyle..but in long term when you have kids am sure they will be wanting to be close to their grandkids.I swear thats what my mom lives for she is waiting for my sis to get pregnant so badly so she can have grandkids!
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  • SonaliPopSonaliPop member
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    edited December 2011
    My parents' family members are there. The majority of their siblings, cousins, and even their own parents are all in the UK. We are all citizens of the UK (dual citizens) and so they can move there to live there, as well. My brother also wants to move there. I have a hard time imagining my parents, who moved here for us, would live without us so far away if both of their children moved. I can't imagine living that long without my parents...and all the awful things that could happen while I'm not with them. I understand a lot why my guy wants to be  near his parents...and sometimes, I'm a bit bitter that I can't be with my own to protect them. AHHH.

    WHERE ARE THE MARTINIS?
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  • Jeff and DeepthiJeff and Deepthi
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    edited December 2011
    You guys are lucky, I don't get along with my parents.. Pretty much when I leave I don't mind not looking back at all. It wouldn't be a big deal, but I can see how it is for ya'll. I hope ya'll get through it ok!! I'm sure there will be a lot of relocation once you bring kids into the picture. My parents make me take them to Houston at least once a month to see my sisters babies. In fact we are going this weekend!
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  • Bhanu&AnujBhanu&Anuj member
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    edited December 2011
    My cousin got married last year... and everyone was crying (even my mom) but my cousin has been living abroad and on her own for years and years now... however, there is always still that attachment for girls and their families. (yet she didn't cry!)

    I know if I see everyone crying, I'd get choked up....but I'm gonna try really hard to keep the tears from trickling down my face (I know easier said then done).  I don't want to 'fuel the fire' so to speak.  I mean if you see someone crying you start crying and someone else continues crying or crying more...lol
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