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Input on Needing a Rehearsal?

RunnerBride2013RunnerBride2013 member
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We're trying to decide whether a rehearsal is necessary...our wedding is pretty small and will be held outdoors, with ~30 people. Our wedding party will likely be 2 people on each side. Not sure whether its necessary or not? What have others done? This is a destination wedding so we'll be having a party for family and friends whether we have the actual rehearsal, but just trying to determine whether its necessary / whether to spend a few hundred dollars more for the officiant. 

Thanks for your inputs. 
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Re: Input on Needing a Rehearsal?

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    mlg78mlg78 member
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    I think just gathering your wedding party up and doing a rehearsal of sorts without the officiant just so everyone knows where to stand and whatnot would be enough.  Save money!
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    irismooneirismoone
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    Yeah it's a tough spot to be put in.  So many officiants ask for more to \have a rehearsal.  I think it's just so rude on their part.  I mean for so many people it's their first wedding, whether they're getting married, or just being a bm or gm, and so many people, both brides and grooms, just need a run-through to have one less thing to worry about day of.
    So, I think you should definitely do a run-through, and maybe only with your wedding party.  But if you're doing anything other than saying vows and such, like lighting a unity candle or something, definitely have the officiant there...
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    saric83saric83 member
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    edited January 2013

    We had a destination wedding with four attendants on each side, and we didn't do a rehearsal.  Literally, all they had to do was walk down the aisle, so I didn't want to waste their vacation time to micro-manage them.

    But in order to keep things a little more on track, we made the programs with the ceremony detail order, and I just gave that to our wedding coodinator and officiant.   Here's an example of what we did:

    Here’s how this is going to happen:

    "Groom's name" willbe escorted by his mom and dad and then will be joined by his fellas.

    "bride's name" charming bridesmaids will head down the aisle with their fun parasols.

    "bride's name" mom and stepdad will proceed her arrival.

    some cheesy song will start, and "bride's name" will head down the  aisle with her dad to see "groom's name" (this will be the first time they'll see each other since getting ready!)

    vows....rings....sealed with a beso.

    we'll take some pictures on the beach, and we'll relax at 5:30pm for some drinks, dinner and mingling.

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    PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    Honestly it depends on the people in your party.  Have they been to weddings before?  Have they played that particular role in a wedding before?

    I was MOH for my sister when she was married and I was a dumb young 20 something.  I had never seen a real wedding, and was told by my parents not to worry about my role because there would be a rehersal.  Well, there wasn't one.

    I had no. freakin. clue. what I was doing, and was panicked.    I took a shot in the dark on whereI was supposed to stand, and thank god I guessed correctly because I would have died of embarrassment if the officiant had had to herd me (which would inevitably have gotten me laughed at)
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    JillianNJohnJillianNJohn
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    We have 2 ppl on each side. 1 on each side is a child (boy age 8 and girl age 10). We aren't having a rehearsal bc the venue has a wedding the night before ours. We are gonna practice and talk to the kids before. And it'll be fine
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    mvance3mvance3
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    It can't hurt to have a run-through.  And just fyi, my dad was a pastor and never charged couples for the rehearsal...it's supposed to be part of the package.  If your officiant charges extra for a rehearsal, do it without him...he should already know his part and will lead you through the ceremony...you can just practice the walk and such.  
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