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Wedding Date Drama!

Em2/5/11Em2/5/11
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I need some opinions on a situation we are having with our wedding date. We had originally planned for 2/5/11. Due to our jobs we are on call 24/7 anywhere from the end of may till the first part of august because of harvest were where we live( we both work at his parents business). We also wanted to avoid most holidays. All my family is from the east coast and are concerned about coming to colorado in February with the weather and many wouldn't be able to come because of their children are in school. Which I completely understand. We had  talked before about having it in late August.  But some of my family members are complaining because it is only like 3 months away and there is no way they could afford to come so soon. And that it is just horrible that I would even consider getting married without them here. But before I had mentioned we were considering they weren't sure they would actually be able to afford it in Feb either.  So I am not sure what to do.

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  • JennaV26JennaV26
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    You can't please everyone. It's understandable to want all of your family there but it sounds like some aren't going to be able to come no matter what date you pick. Choose the date that is best for you and your FI and hopefully your family will find a way to come.
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  • amdjellyamdjelly member
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    edited April 2010
    February would actually be better than March because we get those nasty spring blizzards in March.  February isn't too bad for snow, and if you have the wedding inside where it's warm there shouldn't be a problem.  For the people that won't be able to afford to come in February...well they probably wouldn't be able to do March or April either.  I think you should stick with your original plan.

    ETA:  Will your guests be flying, or driving?  If they're driving, will they have to go through any mountain passes?  If they don't have to drive in the mountains you should be ok in the winter, especially if they're somewhat familiar with winter weather.  Have you chosen your venue yet?  If not, choose something easily accessible, possibly in Denver, instead of Vail or one of the mountain resorts.  If you really do want an outside wedding in the mountains, then I retract my previous statement of sticking with February; it might be best to have it late the next August.  Early May or April still has the chance of snow, and if they can't afford it in February, they likely won't be able to within a couple more months.
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  • smallsmp8smallsmp8
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    In my opinion, it's your wedding. When do YOU want to get married? Do you want a Spring, Summer, Fall or Winter wedding? Decide that with your FI and go from there. Also, if you are worried about kids being in school and not being able to come, do it in June or July. Or on a Saturday so they can fly in Friday night and out Sunday night.
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  • luckyme502luckyme502 member
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    People are going to complain no matter when you have the wedding.  My uncle got married December 16th in Maui.  I complained.  No one in my family could get out of work or school then and that is high season so flights were expensive.  We didn't go.  They had a lovely wedding.  And, it was their wedding so it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. 
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  • Em2/5/11Em2/5/11

    Thanks for all the replies. We are in the eastern plains of colorado so no mountain passes is the good part but most of my family will be flying  or driving in from the east coast. September is out because there is another girl from work getting married the end of it and his parents will be gone the first part for company meetings out of state. We also have his best friend from highschool getting married in April and another in June. We wanted to avoid the holidays as 3 of my cousins are married in november and we also have 5 family birthdays in December plus his sister will be gone during ther first part of December on a cruise so we will have his 3 nieces. If it wasnt for we have most of the decorations and the dress I would seriously consider just going to the courthouse lol just kidding

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  • tommyandytommyandy member
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    July?
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  • lpolaklpolak
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    Do what you feel comfortable with.  When my fiance and I got engaged and started asking our attendants to be in our wedding I said we were having an outdoor wedding in June and one of my bridesmaids was like, "I'm going to sweat my face off!"  But she was just having fun and is excited for us.  I know not everyone in my family won't be able to attend my wedding (I have relatives in Poland and India I know probably won't be able to come even with over a year of notice) and I'm going to live with that.  I'll be able to send them pictures and they'll be able to see how much we love each other and know that our wedding was beautiful even though they weren't able to be there.

    Do what you and your FI want to do.  It's your day so get married when you want to and don't worry about other people's schedules so much.  If they want to come join you for your amazing wedding they will rearrange things to be there to see you get married.  Good luck and hopefully you get away from the pressure of your families trying to push you in a million directions to do what they want you to.  What matters is that your close friends, family that can make it, parents, FI and the minister are there.  The rest will fall into place.
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