When one set of parents is paying way more?

Re: When one set of parents is paying way more?

• SlothGoals member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_when-one-set-of-parents-is-paying-way-more?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:40aba4eb-82fd-4056-b1d9-688f5f0ce0d3Post:f6110aaa-48df-46f7-9d19-0b3c7d0999de">When one set of parents is paying way more?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hi, If the brides parents are paying 95% of your wedding budget, and the grooms parents are paying 5% + the rehearsal dinner - would you list both sets of parents on the wedding invite? I feel like the brides parents lose out on their glory for providing so much, but then if you dont include the grooms parents, they dont get any acknowledgment for it....? What would you do?
  Posted by riannenrings[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>I would do "Together with their families"</div>

   

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• AddieCake member

  

  March 2013

  Together with their families, 

  Riannenrings

  & Fiance

  request the honor of your presence (or whatever you like best here)
  

  
  

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• itzMS member

  

  March 2013 edited March 2013

  
  Does your groom want his parents named?
  
  Mr and Mrs Riannenrings Parents
  

  request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
  

  Riannenrings Middlename
  

  & FianceFirst FianceMiddle FianceLast
  son of Mr and Mrs Fiances Parents

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  March 2013

  If you are going to name one set you should list the other set. It shouldn't matter who paid for how much of the wedding. None of your guests will (or should) know who paid for what when it came to the wedding. Now a days many couples pay for their own weddings and people don't judge (or at least shouldn't) the parents for what type of wedding they did or didn't give their kids. Your parents will have the personal satisfication of knowing that they were able to contribute so much to your special day. By not including in laws on invite, it may come across that you are looking down on them & they aren't very important just because they can't contribute as much money as your parents.

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• mlg78 member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_when-one-set-of-parents-is-paying-way-more?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:40aba4eb-82fd-4056-b1d9-688f5f0ce0d3Post:d56517ce-73b7-4ee7-98fb-a097b25d6d81">Re: When one set of parents is paying way more?</a>:
  [QUOTE]If you are using traditional etiquette rules, the bride's parents appear on the invitation as the hosts of the wedding.  The groom's parents do not appear on the wedding invitation. They only appear on the rehearsal dinner invitations, since they are hosting that. If the groom's parents are not aware of wedding etiquette, and you feel that they might get upset, you can put "son of Mr. and Mrs. Groomsparents" under your FI's name on the invitation.  This is not at all traditional, but it helps sooth feelings.  I would ask them what they want. Mr. and Mrs. John Bridesparents request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter Bride's First Middle to Mr. Groom's Full Name Date time Venue Address City, State
  Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]<div>
  </div><div>This is what we did (and I'm in an identical situation...about 95% is paid by my parents).  His dad gets easily ticked off so we added "son of..." and we didn't hear a peep out of them when I showed them the invite but it's still clear my parents are hosting the wedding.
  
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• Ella and Pedro member

  

  March 2013

  The evolution of the modern family has often meant that the typical language of a wedding invitation, or any formal language inviting people to an event, has had to also evolve.
  
  In my fiance and my family we have a total of 2 stepmothers, 5 last names, and 1 lesbian couple (my mother and her partner)...
  
  We made a rough draft of our invitation (well, I did) and when I showed my fiance he was not sure if he wanted to use the language I had provided.  My language was basically what is being suggested here:
  
  Ella *** and Joel ***
  along with their parents
  request the honor of your presence...
  
  (his objection was that we are almost entirely funding the wedding ourselves, and he felt we were therefore the 'hosts' - my pov is that even a bit of help means we should acknowledge our parents, and as each family is helping in different ways - my mother and her partner are hosting our rehearsal, for example - the phrase 'along with their parents' covered everyone without us having to list off all these various names.)
  
  We have not gotten back to this topic, but I do think he'll see the logic of what etiquette dictates....at the time he had just heard his family were not helping us with $ at all...
  
  Sigh

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