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4 Years from Now

sangriamojitosangriamojito member
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...I'll hopefully be married to my fiancee. I'm not sure if I still qualify as newly engaged but it's been 6 months so far. We don't have a place of our own yet and and our closest friends are either suggesting a JP wedding or just waiting it out so we can have a regular one. In the meantime, I'm either on this site or other wedding inspiration websites getting ideas for the wedding that won't be happening for another 3 years or so. We're trying to obtain better jobs and better our current situation so we can make this all happen but so many things are in the way. Should we just wait until we get better jobs and our own place before we get married or throw caution to the wind and take it to the courthouse?
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  • BostonJordanBostonJordan
    10 Comments First Anniversary
    There is nothing wrong with a long engagement, if that's what you both want and agree on. How old are you, if you don't mine me asking? If you don't want the hassle of waiting several years for one day; I would definitely consider the JOP and have a nice lunch afterwards with your nearest and dearest.
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  • meganb1977meganb1977 member
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    Definitely nothing wrong with waiting to plan and save for the day you want, or going ahead and having a courthouse wedding.  You and your fiance can make that decision together and do whatever would make both of you happiest.
    Whoever said it was supposed to be happily ever after is a big fat liar.
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  • GoodLuckBear14GoodLuckBear14 member
    2500 Comments Fourth Anniversary 25 Love Its Combo Breaker
    Marriage is stressful no matter what.  Being on solid financial footing and living only with eachother (ie not mom and dad or roommates) removes a lot of that stress.
    Proud to be an old married hag!! image
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  • devilishangel61401devilishangel61401
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_4-years-from-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:b7ea4a60-2236-4a23-84b1-a64d9850fbf3Post:9faa04c0-9d29-40b1-9883-528937a5582e">Re: 4 Years from Now</a>:
    [QUOTE]Marriage is stressful no matter what.  Being on solid financial footing and living only with eachother (ie not mom and dad or roommates) removes a lot of that stress.
    Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

    Congrats on your engagment <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /> My bf and I have talked about getting married too ( not engaged yet) we've dated 10 years 8 of those he was in the Army, but I told him I want a long engagment to be able to get through college (Im going back to school for nursing) because I'll get more finical aid if Im single, and save up for the wedding I want us to have, so I think if you are both ok with a long engagment then that is wonderful. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /> best wishes to you and your beloved
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  • GoodLuckBear14GoodLuckBear14 member
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    uh - devilishangel, I've been married for a while - TK has the wrong married date but even going by that one, you'd know I'm married.
    Proud to be an old married hag!! image
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  • sangriamojitosangriamojito member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_4-years-from-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:b7ea4a60-2236-4a23-84b1-a64d9850fbf3Post:a32da8b1-1412-4282-897c-2e5c273ab3a2">Re: 4 Years from Now</a>:
    [QUOTE]There is nothing wrong with a long engagement, if that's what you both want and agree on. How old are you, if you don't mine me asking? If you don't want the hassle of waiting several years for one day; I would definitely consider the JOP and have a nice lunch afterwards with your nearest and dearest.
    Posted by BostonJordan[/QUOTE]

    <div>I am 24 years old, going on 25 in November.  He just turned 25 recently.  Also, I'm pursuing a Bachelor's degree for the next 3-4 years, grades permitting, and I'd like to possibly wait until after I graduate before getting married.  I also have issues with patience from time and bounce back and forth about what I'd like to do on my end.  We both still live with our respective parent.  He has a job as a shift manager at a fast food place and I'm just a regular employee at a different one, though I might get hired to work at a grocery store soon.  We both don't have our driver's license and/or our own vehicles yet, though we're working towards it.  It's really hard for him to save up money for things because though he makes a decent amount, he's taken on the financial responsibility of taking care of most (if not all) the bills in the apartment that he lives in with his mother.  She is unable to work due to health issues, so the majority of his money goes to bills, leaving him with little to work with.</div><div>
    </div><div>My current job barely allows me to take care of my own personal bills and my mom has had to help me from time to time.  Meanwhile, I'm almost daily looking for secondary jobs while trying to do well in school.  He has a degree that he obtained 3-4 years ago and some of his closest friends/family members have been trying to get him to see what kind of jobs are available for someone with his degree type.  Things are quite difficult for us right now :/</div>
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  • julib33julib33 member
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    I would wait. We are having a long engagement and I wouldn't have it any other way. I wanted to be done with college (I finally am!) and wanted to save to  make sure we could afford the wedding we wanted and not go into debt.
    There is absolutely nothing wrong with waiting!
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  • devilishangel61401devilishangel61401
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_4-years-from-now?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:b7ea4a60-2236-4a23-84b1-a64d9850fbf3Post:2101eb24-aa69-46ba-899d-0bdb5950366d">Re: 4 Years from Now</a>:
    [QUOTE]uh - devilishangel, I've been married for a while - TK has the wrong married date but even going by that one, you'd know I'm married.
    Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

    Sorry about that I dont really pay attention to the dates ppl joined and such <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" />  congrats though <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />
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  • JaniV123JaniV123 member
    Sixth Anniversary 1000 Comments 500 Love Its Name Dropper
    We are having a 3 year engagement so there is nothing wrong with that! Cngrats!


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