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It might just be PMS but...

marciamagahmarciamagah member
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I feel like I have no one to help me with the wedding stuff! FI helps as much as he can and I'm ok with what he's done, but my bridesmaids have been useless! My MOH is FI's sister and she lives in Maine and has down syndrome, so I don't expect her to do anything, but I have 3 bridesmaids here and 2 friends that can't make it to the wedding but said they would help. They never offered to do anything and when I ask they answer so informally and are always busy. One of them started burning by invitations for me (the edges), and she never finished so I still have about 20 invitations unfinished. My mom is in Brazil and we don't have a good relationship, so she's no help either. They do keep talking about planning the shower in September, but I need help with other stuff too. Am I being unreasonable?
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  • TrudM75TrudM75 member
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    You are not being unreasonable at all!  It is a lot for one person to do and I think that sometimes people just don't get it!  I always try to drop hints cause I feel bad asking people for things, but I have learned that I just need to be up fronft and ask for help!  I always think that they will catch my hint...but they don't! :-)

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  • michellealynnmichellealynn member
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    Are you kidding me? You are not being unreasonable at all! Wedding planning is a huge undertaking... even for a "small" wedding there is SO much planning involved. I hope you find a solution soon, but just know you'll appreciate your wedding THAT much more knowing all the hard work that YOU put into making it special! (:

    I sort of know how you feel about useless bridesmaids. A lot of mine are more focused on planning the bachelorette party than anything else. UGh...
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  • ehlerssehlerss member
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    I'm sorry to hear that you are not getting help.  I feel you though because no one is really helping me either. Maybe you should just email the bridesmaids who are here and be like I am feeling overwhelmed and have this, this and this left to do.  Could we plan a day when you could come over and we could knock some of this out?  Then I would tell them that you would provide snacks or something.  I bet since they have offered to help they are more then willing, but just don't know what to do or how to approach it.  I'm sure if you set something they will come help.  Good luck!




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  • marciamagahmarciamagah member
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    I guess I'm not alone.Trudy, you are so right, they never catch my hints! I don't want to be pushy though, idk... I guess I should be more direct, I feel like it's a huge priority for me and not at all for them. I even sent them an email with all the bridesmaids duties to clarify things. Let's see what happens... I'll keep you guys posted :)
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  • Erinkathleen84Erinkathleen84
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    I am so sorry no one is helping you ! It was frustrating for me too. Let me ask you, are any of them married? Before I started planning my wedding I was so clueless about what went into a wedding and would have been a terrible bridesmaid. I had to think about this when I would get angry for my bridesmaid's not helping at all, none of them had any idea about wedding planning. And they were happy to help I just had to ask for it. Instead of the hints maybe you should just be more direct with them. Make it a fun day...maybe have a wine or movie night out of it !
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  • XML&MrPXML&MrP member
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    Why don't you make a fun day/night out of it? Some vino, munchies and knock some projects out???
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  • TerriHuggTerriHugg member
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    I'm having the same problem. I understand that my bridesmaids have their own lives, but they don't do anything. My MOH lives out state. Everytime I tell her that I am frustrated or overwhelemed she just says well it's hard because I don't live there anymore so I can't help. I"m thinking, "Hello. They wedding isn't even here so what does that have to do with anything. It's a destination wedding?????" 
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