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Best Man Etiquette - Advice/Opinions Please!
This happened to us today, and I would just like other brides opinions on the situation:
My husband-to-be and I became engaged in October 2011, and set a wedding date for December 2012. Soon after my HTB asked his best friend since grade school to serve as his best man. Then in December 2011, another close friend of all of ours became engaged, and asked the same friend to serve as his best man. The problem is that this other couple is getting married in fall of 2012, so it feels like our wedding will basially serve as "Round Two" for this best man in terms of speeches, planning, etc. In addition, there is huge overlap in the guest list, so at least 50% of our guests (if not more) will be attending both weddings.
My HTB and I are both feeling kind of hurt, and that it makes our wedding less special to the Best Man, particularly since he commited to my HTB first.
How would other people feel if they were in the same situation?
My husband-to-be and I became engaged in October 2011, and set a wedding date for December 2012. Soon after my HTB asked his best friend since grade school to serve as his best man. Then in December 2011, another close friend of all of ours became engaged, and asked the same friend to serve as his best man. The problem is that this other couple is getting married in fall of 2012, so it feels like our wedding will basially serve as "Round Two" for this best man in terms of speeches, planning, etc. In addition, there is huge overlap in the guest list, so at least 50% of our guests (if not more) will be attending both weddings.
My HTB and I are both feeling kind of hurt, and that it makes our wedding less special to the Best Man, particularly since he commited to my HTB first.
How would other people feel if they were in the same situation?
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Re: Best Man Etiquette - Advice/Opinions Please!
The best man doesn't have to be planning anything either, the only thing that I could foresee as a possible difficulty would be the cost of renting a tux two times. But one is in fall and one is in winter.
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[QUOTE]This happened to us today, and I would just like other brides opinions on the situation: My husband-to-be and I became engaged in October 2011, and set a wedding date for December 2012. Soon after my HTB asked his best friend since grade school to serve as his best man. Then in December 2011, another close friend of all of ours became engaged, and asked the same friend to serve as his best man. The problem is that this other couple is getting married in fall of 2012, <strong>so it feels like our wedding will basially serve as "Round Two" for this best man in terms of speeches, planning, etc.</strong> In addition, there is huge overlap in the guest list, so at least 50% of our guests (if not more) will be attending both weddings. My HTB and I are both feeling kind of hurt, and that it makes our wedding less special to the Best Man, particularly since he commited to my HTB first. <strong>How would other people feel if they were in the same situation?
</strong>Posted by ahttcbla[/QUOTE]
I don't think he'll look at it as "round two". Think about it like this... your FI and the BM have a close relationship obviously. Your BM and the other couple have a close relationship as well. These relationships are different in the sense that the BM gets something different from your FI than the other guy. The relationship is unique within itself. The speach will reflect that. I'm pretty sure I wouldn't bat an eye at him being someone elses BM. To me it shows that he's one kick ass guy if he was asked to be BM for two friends.
[QUOTE] I don't think that the wedding guests who attend both will be comparing speeches.
Posted by PinkRoseAcct[/QUOTE]
Unless he tells the same lame joke <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />
All I can think is that this guy is pretty fabulous. No wonder your fi chose him!
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Be glad you have a friend who is so awesome that other people want him to be their Best Man too.