Please be honest ....

AlyssaC417 · January 2012

I have compiled a guest list and have some people with missing addresses on the list. I had asked my FMIL and my mother for these addresses so I can finalize the list and send it into the woman making my invitations as she is complimentary putting the names and addresses on the envelopes for me. Today I overhear my FMIL and Mom talking on the phone about how I am asking for them to soon and things can change it is only January I don't need them already ect.. Are they right am I being ridiculous asking for them too soon? Or am I alright to be asking for them now?

shawbmarie · January 2012

I've already asked for mine. Do they really have family and friends that come in and out of their lives that often? I think if they really don't want to get them yet, they should be in charge of addressing or finding someone to address. Are the names just on the envelopes? if they want to switch someone, you can always just buy a couple extra envelopes.

AriesAngel86 · January 2012

If you're doing Save the Dates, it's not too early at all. If you're not, I would wait a few months to have the invitations made/addressed. Addressing them now isn't a good idea because someone might be a relationship now and break up, or may not be in a relationship now and be in one by the time the invites are sent.

morenachica110 · January 2012

I agree with PPs. If it's for the STDs, then you're not too early, but if it's for invites.... yeah, waaaaay too early. There's nothing wrong with having some printed and assembled, but they shouldn't be addressed until closer to the date. You should send them out 6-8 weeks before the wedding (I believe). What if people break up/get divorced or move? What if you have a falling out? If it's for invites, I'd wait.

jessa1228 · January 2012

I've gotten addresses for only those people who i'm sending STDs to. People like friends and coworkers i'm waiting on because as much as i'd like to think they'll still be in my life 7 months from now, you just never know. So while I don't see the harm in compiling addresses now, I do think it's a little too early to be addressing the invites.

SeaTea02 · January 2012

I think getting a list together now is one less thing to worry about later. I would wait a bit on addressing.

DeadUtopia · January 2012

It might be a little early to address invitations, since some people's status' may change in the next few months. Getting the list together now is not too early though, but I would wait on addressing the envelopes so soon.

npott044 · January 2012

I entered all my addresses into excel last weekend. I know its too early for invites and I need the for my save the dates. I know it is early and people could move but it feels good having my guest list and address 70% done. There is nothing final about so I can alwats to or take off. It's just a nice check!

mamameech · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_please-honest?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:da1ee868-dbba-4a79-a10a-4d6d59c1fec6Post:856f3585-507d-48f9-9fa7-fe079121acdb">Re: Please be honest ....</a>:
[QUOTE]I think getting a list together now is one less thing to worry about later. I would wait a bit on addressing.
Posted by SeaTea02[/QUOTE]

This. What's wrong with asking now? Even if u didn't need it until may why not get it done sooner instead of scrambling later?
And maybe they could talk to you instead of behind your back.

You do have time but asking now isn't wrong.

MissOwl · January 2012

we've got our guest list locked down and i have every single address. need them for save the dates. i def dont thnk it's too early.

island07b2b · January 2012

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[QUOTE]I entered all my addresses into excel last weekend. I know its too early for invites and I need the for my save the dates. I know it is early and people could move but it feels good having my guest list and address 70% done. There is nothing final about so I can alwats to or take off. It's just a nice check!
Posted by npott044[/QUOTE]

THIS! I do think it is too early for a finalized guest list but a preliminary one is not a bad thing to have at this point.

DirtyWater · January 2012

I do not think it is too early for a finalized guest list at all. If you're like us we need an exact number so we have a max amount of money ready to go. We're also doing save the dates and they are going out as soon as they come in. I would say something to the, about talking behind your back and simply state the fact that you don't want to be a stress mess, later on and you would like to have things done earlier than later. You don't need to address anything yet though. Just be prepared.

katiebean1 · January 2012

I don't think it is too early to be asking for addresses. I have had all mine for a few months. I wanted to get it over and done with early because I knew it was going to be a long process to get them all, and it def was. I am SO glad to have it done and out of the way. I think it is rude for them to be talking like that about you. I am also super sensitive about people talking about me, so there is that lol.

ashnmikenstoli · January 2012

I have already have my save the dates out so I don't think you are to early at all!

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