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Olliee1607 · January 2012

My soon to be mother in law sent me a picture to the dresses she ordered for me and FI's wedding in June, and the one for his sisters wedding in sept... The september dress is GORGEOUS! Shes going to be so stunning in it.

The one she ordered for our wedding is champagne and LONG. I'm going to cry

[eta changed white to champagne because thats a better descriptions still close to the

color of my dress]

Kfudge0714 · January 2012

Ouch! Is it possible that was just the display color? Maybe she's getting that dress in a different color?

Zimsgirl26 · January 2012

Dude I'd totally say something. That is not appropriate

kimiandgary · January 2012

It is not ok for someone in the bridal party to wear white. You should say some thing. I'm hoping it was just the display color and she really got a different color.

Olliee1607 · January 2012

The color shes getting is champange which is extremely close to the color of my dress. Close enough where I looked like this

And the dress is HIDEOUS

Carebear62584 · January 2012

I think your FI should say something to her about how inappropriate it is.

L&J2012 · January 2012

I would be so annoyed if my mom or FMIL got a white dress (they wouldn't, but hypothetically). I agree that your FI should mention something about it to her.

Zimsgirl26 · January 2012

Speak up. She can't do this to you. She's been around long enough to know what colors NOT to where to a wedding. God this makes me mad and it hasn't happened to met (yet...lol)

SoonToBeMrsAmato · January 2012

WHATTT!!?? So inappropriate! ok freak out done.. call her like a grown up and tell her exactly how you feel, not in an accusatory tone like "you should know better and I'm the bride dammit!" (which we would all want to do) but in a way that tells her u really want to feel special on that day and u would hope she understands and would want that for you too. Its not everyday that you get married and if this is going to ruin your day, then you should tell her.

chelseamb11 · January 2012

wtf! you definitely need to say something to her (or your fi should). that's so inappropriate

julbgordo · January 2012

Can you post the picture of it here? Usually champagne is darker. If it's dark (maybe the flash on the camera or the lighting flushed it out) then I don't see a problem. Also, what does it matter if you think it's hideous? You're not the one wearing it. If she likes it, then whatever. If it really is closer to white, I see your concern, but still, I think you're over-reacting a tiny bit.

Rethany · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Can you post the picture of it here? Usually champagne is darker. If it's dark (maybe the flash on the camera or the lighting flushed it out) then I don't see a problem. Also, what does it matter if you think it's hideous? You're not the one wearing it. If she likes it, then whatever. If it really is closer to white, I see your concern, but still, I think you're over-reacting a tiny bit.
Posted by julbgordo[/QUOTE]

I agree.

My BMs looked at champagne for part of their dresses and when it was put up next to a white or ivory it was much darker. I'd wait til you see it in person.

ETA: Also, I see you put an emphasis on LONG. Why does the length of the dress bother you?

DrPB2b13 · January 2012

Ditto Julie; I actually tried on a wedding dress in champagne, and it was WAY darker than any of the pictures I've seen of champagne dresses - more like a mid-range tan color.

If you're still really worried, see if there are any salons near you that carry the label her dress is from; then you can go in and ask to see a sample swatch. I hope this can help you out. Ultimately yes it might be inappropriate for her to wear that color, but you can't dictate to her what she wears.

doeie04 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Can you post the picture of it here? Usually champagne is darker. If it's dark (maybe the flash on the camera or the lighting flushed it out) then I don't see a problem. Also, what does it matter if you think it's hideous? You're not the one wearing it. If she likes it, then whatever. If it really is closer to white, I see your concern, but still, I think you're over-reacting a tiny bit.
Posted by julbgordo[/QUOTE]

I agree with Julie. I don't see the problem with it, but if it is going to bother you, I would let her know ASAP and maybe she can cancel her order?

diamondx423 · January 2012

Post a picture here. I'm super curious. And pretty much banking on my FMIL doing the same thing to me.

Melissa603 · January 2012

I have a champagne colored bridesmaid dress in my closet and it is almost a shade of beige. If you want I can post a picture of the shade. Champagne can be a really broad spectrum depending on the designer.

Megbo2012 · January 2012

Wow. And my FMIL was worried that she wasn't allowed to wear the same color as the bridesmaids. Technically, you shouldn't say anything because adults can dress themselves but damn. That sucks.

courtneyclare103 · January 2012

OP did say that the champagne color is very close to the color of her own dress, so maybe her dress is not white or ivory. I certainly wouldn't be too pleased if FMIL got a long dress that was almost the same color as my dress if for no other reason than it's inconsiderate.

Now, you certainly can't control if it's hideous or not; if it's what she wants to wear, that's what she wears. However, feel free to complain about it here, haha.

Olliee1607 · January 2012

Oh I definetly wont say anything to her about it but it won't stop me from hating the dress and the color and whining about it here lol. Its probably a shade or two different from my dress and definetly not beige

doeie04 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Oh I definetly wont say anything to her about it but it won't stop me from hating the dress and the color and whining about it here lol. Its probably a shade or two different from my dress and definetly not beige
Posted by Olliee1607[/QUOTE]

If it bugs you, I would say something for sure. You don't want to hold that resentment forever. Do you have a good relationship with her or is it kind of rocky? If it is rocky, I may not say anything.

acaponi87 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Can you post the picture of it here? Usually champagne is darker. If it's dark (maybe the flash on the camera or the lighting flushed it out) then I don't see a problem. Also, what does it matter if you think it's hideous? You're not the one wearing it. If she likes it, then whatever. If it really is closer to white, I see your concern, but still, I think you're over-reacting a tiny bit.
Posted by julbgordo[/QUOTE]

Ditto. It sucks that it's close in color but honestly, you KNOW everyone is going to be looking at you so I wouldn't stir the pot. Maybe she can try them on for you and you can stress how much you LOVE the purple one and she'll take the hint.

ETA: I have no idea why I assummed the September dress was purple. Ignore that lol

daria24 · January 2012

Any chance she will wear a colored jacket or shawl or SOMETHING with it to tone down the bride-ness?

I agree that it sucks, but unfortunately there isn't much you should do about it, and it's inappropriate to tell her what she can or cannot wear. Though if she does ask your opinion, I think then you are clear to say you are a little concerned about the color being so similar to your own dress.

Ash61612 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Can you post the picture of it here? Usually champagne is darker. If it's dark (maybe the flash on the camera or the lighting flushed it out) then I don't see a problem. Also, what does it matter if you think it's hideous? You're not the one wearing it. If she likes it, then whatever. If it really is closer to white, I see your concern, but still, I think you're over-reacting a tiny bit.
Posted by julbgordo[/QUOTE]
agree 100%

Zimsgirl26 · January 2012

I don't think you're overreacting at all. I would have your FI say something.

sweetcanadian1979 · January 2012

What is wrong with a long dress? Honestly MOB or MOG should wear a long dress IMO, i just find it classier for their age & as parents, weird considering i do not want my bms in long dresses.

It is not a white dress which is what is against etiquette so you really can't do anything. If you choose a different color that is your choice but you can't make those around you not have the same color group as long as they are not wearing white. Sorry, not trying to be rude, but that is the way it is.

browner3 · January 2012

well, you FMIL sent you pictures for a reason, right? So give her your opinion because she was basically looking for it. But there is a nice way to go about it. You can say something like, "WOW! That color is really similar to the color of my dress." Maybe she will get the hint that it bugs you.

acn6497 · January 2012

I agree with PP. That if it bothers you say something. Also, if you love the other dress you could suggest she wear that one to both weddings.

sweetcanadian1979 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: omg : But if she sends her pictures she's basically asking for opinions. I've vetoed FSIL's dress until it was one I liked. If I'm not happy with something I'll say so. I'm paying for the day with my FI
Posted by Zimsgirl26[/QUOTE]

Yes but you still can not control what someone else wears. You vetoed it but if you really want a full say then you have to pay for it. You can NOT dictate what someone else wears, how would you like it if they told you how to dress for work? Your an adult, capable of making your own decisions, so is she/

I send people pics all the time, does that give them the right to come & tell me that i shouldn't have these shoes, or that veil, or whatever it may be? Not a chance.

I think it is extremely rude to be dictating to people how to spend their money. You want the choice, you pay, simple as that. Be damned if i would dream of insulting my MIL or my own mom for that matter by telling them how to dress, my mom would straight up tell me to F off & his mom would be soooooo hurt.

She can't afford a new dress, am i supposed to belittle her because she has to wear a nice top & pants that she has in her closet already? My mom is my MOH & due to health reasons she is not working, if she can't afford a new dress am i supposed to make her pay for it too? No, i will pay, even so i am not controlling enough that i would just decide what it is, i have an A typer personality so if i can do it anyone can.

Pick your battles, Like seriously people, it is a dress & it won't make you any less beautiful. I promise.

midgetthemighty · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: omg : <strong>But if she sends her pictures she's basically asking for opinions</strong>. I've vetoed FSIL's dress until it was one I liked. If I'm not happy with something I'll say so. I'm paying for the day with my FI
Posted by Zimsgirl26[/QUOTE]

Says who? If I thought I looked super hot in a dress and sent a picture to FI or a friend, it would be to show it off, not so they could tell me they hated it and couldn't wear it.

Megbo2012 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: omg : But if she sends her pictures she's basically asking for opinions. I've vetoed FSIL's dress until it was one I liked. If I'm not happy with something I'll say so. I'm paying for the day with my FI
Posted by Zimsgirl26[/QUOTE]

<div>Exactly Midge. If she was asking for opinions, she wouldn't have bought it. This seems more, "Look at the dress I got" not "What do you think of this dress." I still think it sucks a little bit, because it's obvious (to me) to stay away from certain colors for weddings. I mean, I had a floral dress once and asked if it was ok because it had white on it. </div>

MMRoberts11 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: omg : Exactly Midge. If she was asking for opinions, she wouldn't have bought it. This seems more, "Look at the dress I got" not "What do you think of this dress." I still think it sucks a little bit, because it's obvious (to me) to stay away from certain colors for weddings. I mean, I had a floral dress once and asked if it was ok because it had white on it.
Posted by Megbo2012[/QUOTE]

Agreed.

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