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Re: Location Location Location

• MyNameIsNot member

  

  February 2012

  Honestly, I would price venues and vendors at all three locations and let that make the decision for me.  

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• ElisabethJoanne member

  

  February 2012

  Etiquette-wise, you can't be faulted for having the wedding in the bride's hometown.
  
  But these days, it's really up to the couple. I don't think you should inconvenience everyone just to "be fair." Particularly, don't send yourselves on a bunch of scouting errands far from home.

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• LeenieLane member

  

  February 2012

  WOOT WOOT! I'm from CT! I can help you brainstorm some venues if you'd like! PM me when you're ready.

  

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• jessicabessica member

  

  February 2012

  I would look at your VIP guests--parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.--and see if there are any locations that any of them would absolutely not be able to get to.  Given that info, I would look at venues in any areas that you'd be interested in having the wedding.  

  
  

  I don't know if you have guests that will need to fly in from longer distances, but if so, I would suggest trying to be within 20-30 minutes of a major airport, so depending on what areas you are looking at, MA and NJ could be better.  My hometown is in CT, about an hour from Hartford, and DH's family had to fly in from across the country, so that was one reason why we didn't want to get married where I grew up.  

  
  

  Also think about how you want to plan your wedding.  We got married about 2 hours from where we lived at the time.  I had to make a day trip out of my hair trial.  If you plan to have a lot of DIY stuff to drop off at the venue, having it closer to where you live would probably be easier.  

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• tenofcups4me member

  

  February 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_location-location-location-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:1120a373-afe5-4f06-a365-2a944a443a92Post:fc33c99e-7606-4960-9690-1a5594637157">Re: Location Location Location</a>:
  [QUOTE]I would look at your VIP guests--parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.--and see if there are any locations that any of them would absolutely not be able to get to. 
  Posted by jessicabessica[/QUOTE]
  
  Yes, I would start with that. Are there any parents, grandparents, or very important  other relatives that wouldn't be able to travel or for whom travel would be a real problem? If so, I'd probably have it where they live.
  
  Otherwise, I agree that pricing and venue location options might be a good way to make a decision.
  
  For my first wedding, I lived in NY and most of my friends were there, but family was in Philly. The ex- lived in Philly and had most of his friends there, but family in New York. We chose a Philly area wedding simply because we could get so much more for the same money there than in NY.
  
  The one caveat about a midway location is that you probably won't know the area or be able to call on other friends and family for any resources in a strange area (or have a place to spend the night if you need to go in for a weekend). Certainly, it's doable and people have "destination" weddings all the time, but it can make planning trickier.

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• ElisabethJoanne member

  

  February 2012

  Maybe it's a family-dynamics issue I didn't spot as such, Yaga. My family would roll their eyes at making everyone travel. They'd rather they had to travel and know others didn't. If it keeps the peace for others' families, great.

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• ootmother2 member

  

  February 2012

  Brides's family from NYC or NJ
  
  Groom's family from Massachusetts
  
  Weddding was on Cape Cod and everyone came so it's not location, location, location.  It's where is the best party
  

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• toothpastechica member

  

  February 2012

  No matter where we get married a good chunk of people were going to have to travel, so since nothing is really more convenient for everyone, we went with a place that has historical meaning to my family, my grandparents town (both of them died within the last year) which just happens to include gorgeous gardens, the church my parents were married in and lakefront property still in the family. Its not really close to anyone except a couple of my aunts, but its meaningful and gorgeous so we hope its worth the trip to everyone else, if not....oh well, we can't please everyone. In your position I would probably weigh in the pros and cons of all three options and pick one that you and your man can be happy with and then look for venues.

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• RaptorSLH member

  

  February 2012

  [QUOTE]I would look at your VIP guests--parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.--and see if there are any locations that any of them would absolutely not be able to get to.  ...Also think about how you want to plan your wedding. 
  Posted by jessicabessica[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>This and this, in that order, then price.  Planning a wedding local to you is usually easier than planning one at a distance.  If all of your guests can travel (or find travel equally difficult,) and you don't mind the effort, then price and availability are the way to go.</div>

  

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• cindyn9178 member

  

  February 2012

  I honestly feel it just makes more sense to have the wedding close to where you currently live. It makes the planning process SO much easier, rather than having to plan everything from hours and miles away. My SIL lives in Florida, all of her family lives in NJ and her husband's family lives in Connecticut, but they still had their wedding in Florida. They just invited everybody and whoever could go, went. NBD.

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• jnl1225

  

  February 2012

  yaga, where in the poconos are you having it? if you don't me asking?

  

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