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Bachelorette Party Question

FaerieStoneLove1842FaerieStoneLove1842 member
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So, I have a question about this bachelorette party stuff.

My bridesmaids are all in a different state (where I used to live growing up) and they aren't going to be able to have a party until the day before the wedding.

Now, I'm not really a party person. I don't like clubs or bars, I'm not a big drinker, I don't really like anything like that.

I have one bridesmaid who wants to bring me out to a club and get me "trashed" for fun (the night before my wedding) and another friend who just wants us to get a hotel room and get trashed.

I've said over and over that neither of these sound fun to me, and I like the party ideas my sister (MOH) came up with (simple things, lunch, movie). Instead of listening to me, they just brush me off and say "oh, it'll be fun, you'll love it."

I know I won't love it. Should I try and get a party I would like, or just go with whatever they are going to try and get me to do?
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Re: Bachelorette Party Question

  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    Getting trashed the night before you wedding is a very bad idea. Tell them you don't want to be hungover the day of your wedding so you are declining their 'party' idea. It sounds like they are planning an evening for their own enjoyment, not yours.

    You could take your sister up on her invitation for lunch or a movie. If the others don't want to  join you, it's their loss.
                       
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  • FaerieStoneLove1842FaerieStoneLove1842 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_bachelorette-party-question-9?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:32Discussion:9177e3c3-4a98-48aa-88cd-ff47fa222eb8Post:c7897df1-c767-41fc-97bc-527360f0d94c">Re: Bachelorette Party Question</a>:
    [QUOTE]Getting trashed the night before you wedding is a very bad idea. Tell them you don't want to be hungover the day of your wedding so you are declining their 'party' idea. It sounds like they are planning an evening for their own enjoyment, not yours. You could take your sister up on her invitation for lunch or a movie. If the others don't want to  join you, it's their loss.
    Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]
    I completely agree, none of this is about me. It's ridiculous, I've been a very easygoing bride. They are all picking out their own shoes, jewelry, hairstyles, make-up, basically everything they wanted except the dress. But they all even loved the dress I picked, so that's not even the point.
    I feel awful that they don't care enough to plan something I would want. I think I made it more about them than it was supposed to be with all the freedom to choose everything, now I guess they think this bachelorette party is all about what they want too.
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    You shouldn't second guess yourself. You did things the right way. It's not a reflection on you that your friends are clueless.
    Have a great night with your sister.
                       
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    edited December 2011
    I would highly advise against getting drunk the night before your wedding. In fact, I think getting drunk the night before your wedding is one of the worst (wedding related) things you can do. Sorry that your friends are being ridiculous. If they they all want a drunken night a fun so bad, they will just have to get together weeks/ months BEFORE your wedding. If that's not possible then they need to let it go. And stick with your sister, she's being very reasonable.
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  • mollyehrenmollyehren
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    edited December 2011
    I would maybe suggest a ladies teashop outting in your area since geting plastered the day before the wedding is just not a good idea
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