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What has been your least favorite wedding attended and why?
I saw an ealier post on "what was your favorite and why" and I thought it would be interesting (and maybe humorous) to learn about the opposite.
It might even be insightful....I'd love to know about what not to do...there are certainly areas any bride can overlook.
Lets read what we as wedding guests found unappealing;)
For me- my least favorite is a tie between 2.
* The first was for two 18 year olds- the brides mom (34 years old) was her MOH, wore a very- cleavage baring dress and chomped gum down the aisle....need I tell you more?
* The second was beautiful, and I know they spent a small fortune- but OH SO COOKIE CUTTER. Being beige, boring and "cookie cutter" isn't a bad thing at all really- it just says absolutely nothing about the bride and groom, kwim. Also- the bar tender hit on me, their overpriced DJ was terrible.
It might even be insightful....I'd love to know about what not to do...there are certainly areas any bride can overlook.
Lets read what we as wedding guests found unappealing;)
For me- my least favorite is a tie between 2.
* The first was for two 18 year olds- the brides mom (34 years old) was her MOH, wore a very- cleavage baring dress and chomped gum down the aisle....need I tell you more?
* The second was beautiful, and I know they spent a small fortune- but OH SO COOKIE CUTTER. Being beige, boring and "cookie cutter" isn't a bad thing at all really- it just says absolutely nothing about the bride and groom, kwim. Also- the bar tender hit on me, their overpriced DJ was terrible.
judge the non-traditional, pop their happy little wedding balloons... and sleep better tonight for you have made the world a better place.
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Re: What has been your least favorite wedding attended and why?
I don't have any complete horrow stories, but I was disappointed in a lot of the aspects of a friend's wedding. There were just a lot of little things that bugged me.
1. I'm a very close friend of the groom (I did one of the wedding readings), but my invite was addressed to Sara and Guest. I'd been dating my bf (now FI) for years and had been on double-dates with the B&G. How hard is it to double check the spelling of my bf's last name?
2. I mentioned this recently on the etiquette board, but I was caught off guard when they closed the bar for dinner and didn't serve any wine at the tables. Then there was a mad dash after dinner to the bar as soon as it re-opened.
3. The B&G really didn't mingle with their guests. They basically spent the whole night with the BP and didn't do a receiving line or table visits.
4. I sent a gift several weeks before the wedding. A month or so after the wedding I got a thank you note that read, "Dear Sara, Thank you for being a reader at our wedding. It was nice to see you. Love, B7G" No mention that I did a lovely job at the ceremony, no mention of receiving a gift. I eventually broke down and asked the groom if they got my gift, since the note made it sound like they didn't.
My step-sister's wedding was just really cheesy and standard. We got to the reception hall (and discovered the cash bar) and then had to sit through the toasts, then the first dance, then the parent dances (to awful cheesy songs), and then the dollar dance. (I don't remember eating, so we may not have even been served yet.) Three guests into the dollar dance, my siblings and I all headed for the door. We ended up going out to see Mr. and Mrs. Smith, and had a lovely time.
This is a belated married bio, with no reviews yet because I'm lazy.
Sometimes I feel like people think that brides are delicate little flower princesses who get all dressed up and pretty for one special moment of their dreams, when really they're just normal people who just happen to be getting married. Things shouldn't have to be sugar-coated for grown-ass women. -mstar284
2nd worst wedding was having the bride get pissy because guests didn't take off work to attend her 3:00 ceremony on a Friday afternoon.. She was another bridezilla.
1) Friends of ours had their wedding last summer. They secretly JOP'd it the year before ... but actually, the "wedding" was really the bride's parent's idea-she was content with "Well, we got married, what more do we need?". Her parents insisted that their daughter have something "real" that she got to wear a white dress to (And knowing the couple as well as I do, the wedding really was just a show they put on to make her family happy, they really didn't give a crap about a pretty princess day) and all that. They had a head table, but allowed dates to sit at it (This was great, since DH was in the BP and I was not) ... but the parents only sprung for buffet catering, they didn't pay for any type of wait staff, and pretty much expected the GMs to go around seeing if guests needed refills on drinks or whatever. While I got to sit with DH ... he spent 1/2 the night being a waiter/busboy, so I didn't really get to sit with him.
2) My aunt got married about 2 weeks after I did, and her wedding was absolutely amazing. Unfortunately, due to the time we had to take off for the HM, DH had to make up for lost time at work and couldn't go with me. When they announced the bouquet toss, the DJ noticed me, my sister and my cousin "hiding" in the corner and started "encouraging" us to get up there. I told him "No, I'm married, husband couldn't make it" ... and for some reason, he didn't believe me and kind of heckled me a bit until my grandpa walked over to him and told him to "cool it" (There were more words exchanged later on). Whether or not I was married, really, if I didn't want to "play" bouquet toss, as a guest, I should not have been called out like that.
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Ahhh! sorry for all the spelling errors.. Guess i should have reread it before i posted!
-Minister said, "In the beginning, God created Adam and Eve....NOT ADAM AND STEVE."
-Later, the minister said, "(Bride) takes this ring as a sign she is the groom's most valuable POSSESSION." No, the groom did not become the bride's possession. Isn't she lucky?
-Groom (at the reception) after we asked him about their new place he turned to the bride and said with a straight face, "It HAS a kitchen."
And the music was played by a dude on a keyboard.
1) I was "best man"/groomsmaid in my friend's "wedding" (committment ceremony...gay marriage is illegal in my state, unfortunately) last summer. There was no rehearsal. We were just told at a random moment after guests had arrived, "Go stand next to him".
2) At this same "wedding", there were 6-8 readings. What normally would have been a 10-15 minute ceremony took over 30. Wouldn't have been so bad, had they supplied more than a dozen chairs.
3) At a former co-worker's wedding, there was no alcohol (they were Muslim) and no music. Instead they hired belly dancers as entertainment. I have yet to speak to anyone who attended and actually enjoyed themselves.
4) At my godparents' daughter's first wedding, they had a "kids table". Everyone seated at this table was 13-24 years old. I was told by the wait staff that they had been instructed not to serve alcohol at this table, until I pointed out that 4 of the 10 of us were over 21. After showing the waitress our IDs, she brought us champagne for the toast. The rest of the "kids" didn't even get ginger ale or sparkling cider; the got nothing for the toast.
The summer after I graduated from high school, one of my friends got married to her high school sweetheart who was a year older than us. He never seemed to be very content on the idea and it seemed like she pushed him into it. They planned their entire wedding in a few months the summer after graduation and got married in September. Her dress was terrible and looked more like a costume than a beautiful dress... it was the kind with poofy shoulders and long sleeves in 1998. The worst part about the wedding was that after they were married and were walking down the aisle together, the look on his face was unmistakable dread and sadness. He looked soooo incredibly unhappy. I almost was angry with him looking at his face. I wanted to say to him, if you didn't want to get married, why didn't you just tell her? You could've at least pretended to be happy in front of her entire family. Her reception was in the church hall next door. There were paper wedding bells and cookies and sugared almonds in disposable bowls. It lasted maybe an hour. They had two kids quickly and then he left her and her children without warning four years later. What a douche.
Disaster #1: This girl I knew got married 2 weeks after high school graduation. Her church was more of a cult, since they listened to her dead preacher on tape. The reception was in some fire hall, with cold pizza and fruit punch as the main course.
Disaster #2: The award for wolrd's most uncouth and unorganized entrances goes to this one. In the middle of the bridesmaids entering the church, random guests were walking down the aisle in-between them instead of waiting for the service to actually start since they were late! The photographer had no idea where people were supposed to be entering from and missed half the shots at the church. Dinner was again, at the town firehall, and included veggie trays, cold sandwiches, lukewarm beer, and a bunch of annoying children ringing BELLS all night.
Disaster #3: This was the most recent. The bride said her vows as she stood at the alter with her father, so it looked like she just married him instead of the groom. The groom knocked over the lit unity candle and couldn't get it to light again. Then one of the bridesmaids passed out. The reception was BYOB, so our friends brought a table top keg. Hey, they asked for it....most of the guests were from the brides side, so they all listened intently as her sister made a speech, but completely talked over the bestman's because he wasn't family, which alot of us thought was rude. The food was made 3 weeks in advance and stuck in a freezer, to be defrosted before the wedding. You could tell. And the favors were pens that stopped writing 3 days later.
The common denominator with all 3 of these is that they all had plastic table wear and linens. This is fine if your intent is a picnic like celebration, but all 3 had formal receptions. With plastic toasting flutes, utensils, and anything else you can think of.
It's like musical chairs, people get in fights over them! I have been to 2 such weddings. I guess the reasoning of the bride&groom or venue is that people will be walking around and mingling or dancing, but this is not the case, they are wrong- people run in, grab seats and don't want to give them up. It's like the subway here in NYC.
Mine was a few months ago. They got married at 5pm on a Friday 2 hours away from where most of us live. It was in a castle and the stairs were slippery and awkward (my 87 yo grandfather fell twice). We got there and there werent enough seats at the table we were assigned. The dinner was buffet and to get to it you had to walk up said stairs from hell. (watching people tumble down them was the only interesting part of the night). The food was cold and there was no non seafood option. ( I hate fish). The bar was open, but beer or wine only. I drink neither (and would have gladly paid for something else) but my only other option was soda..........in a can.
Once it was time for dancing they took the 2 head tables and rolled them past all of our tables to make room.
Bride and groom did not greet us or thank us for coming once.
The kicker was that the wedding was dubbed "formal" and the bridal party had really nice gowns, but none of them bothered to put a stitch of makeup on, brush their hair, or smile while coming down the aisle.
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Basically, the ceremony itself consisted of the minister talking about how sinful the bride and groom were and how the bride was becomming the property of the groom and would have to serve him and fullfill his every wish on a daily basis. That was awkward enough.....but then the reception came around.
The reception was at a nearby hotel. It was suppose to start at 5pm (so that would make it about a 45 minute break between ceremony and reception). Well all the guests got there and the room wasn't even done being set up yet so they pushed back the start time to 5:30pm. The worst part was during this time ALL of the 300 guests were stuck STANDING in the hotel lobby because we had nowhere else to wait. Once we finally got into the ballroom we found that there were not enough tables for all of the guests and people ended up having to split up or just stand!
On top of that, the bride and groom did not show up until about 7pm!!! They did not have any hors d'oeuvres or drinks during this waiting period either so everyone was litterally standing around just waiting for them to arrive so we could have dinner. Oh, yes....about that dinner. Their invites did not have a meal choice option so everyone assumed they were having a buffet. WRONG! They had overcooked chicken with mushy green beans and spinach. GROSS. It looked (and tasted) like the food had been plated to be served at the original time, and they just left it all sitting out for those 2 hours while we waited for the bride and groom to arrive. It was disgusting, and their wedding cake was gross as well so I basically went hungry the whole night.
Once their first dance ended my fiance and I left, along with most of the guests. It was an awful night and we felt like they didn't really want us there anyway since the bride and groom made no effort to visit guest tables or thank people for coming.
It was terrible!!