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Bridal Shower Invite - How rude?!
A friend of mine is aware that her BS is the day after my wedding (my wedding is a Friday), she lives out of state and the BS would be held here so they told her to make sure she didn't plan to head home early.
She has asked a few times when I was leaving for my HM (Saturday pm) and said she'd make sure they scheduled the BS early so I could attend. I kindly told her I would not be attending no matter what time, it's going to be a busy day.
I get the invite yesterday, call her mom, and RSVP no. There was a card included with the invite with a poem saying they wanted cash only. Her mom told me I could still write a check, give it to her, and she would make sure it was there at the BS.
Umm NO are you kidding me. First it's rude to ask, second to assume.
I feel like the only reason I was invited was so I would send money.
Would you guys send a "gift"? or would opt not to participate?
She has asked a few times when I was leaving for my HM (Saturday pm) and said she'd make sure they scheduled the BS early so I could attend. I kindly told her I would not be attending no matter what time, it's going to be a busy day.
I get the invite yesterday, call her mom, and RSVP no. There was a card included with the invite with a poem saying they wanted cash only. Her mom told me I could still write a check, give it to her, and she would make sure it was there at the BS.
Umm NO are you kidding me. First it's rude to ask, second to assume.
I feel like the only reason I was invited was so I would send money.
Would you guys send a "gift"? or would opt not to participate?
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Re: Bridal Shower Invite - How rude?!
BTW, you have enough on your mind than to worry about someone else's shower. Enjoy your day and your honeymoon!
I'd probably opt not to participate and be really thankful I have an awesome honeymoon to go on instead of attending this lame shower.
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You should ask your friend how much she's planning on giving you for your wedding and then tell her to subtract however much you'll give her for her shower and call it even.
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I'm definitely not giving money at the wedding. I just couldn't believe her mom. Like seriously, does she plan on asking every NO to send a check.
[QUOTE]Her mom told me I could still write a check, give it to her, and she would make sure it was there at the BS.
Posted by Soon2BNicoleD[/QUOTE]
bahahahahahahaha.
ohmygod.
[QUOTE]You should ask your friend how much she's planning on giving you for your wedding and then tell her to subtract however much you'll give her for her shower and call it even.
Posted by mbody[/QUOTE]
I second this.
[QUOTE]Her mom told me I could still write a check, give it to her, and she would make sure it was there at the BS.
Posted by Soon2BNicoleD[/QUOTE]
Wow. I am rarely struck dumb but I would have absolutely no idea what to say to that.
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Based on the friendship, I'd proabably still send a small gift, but I would send it to the bride and not her mother.
[QUOTE]I just got one of these - on the shower invitation it actually states "<strong>cash gifts only"</strong> - I'm VERY tempted not to go, but I don't really want to start shiit in my H's family.
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]
So will I get booted if I bring an actual gift? What is wrong with people lately? Who in their right mind thought this would be ok? What is the point of a shower if there are only cash gifts? LAME!
"Bring cash or don't bring your a$$"
[QUOTE]I just got one of these - on the shower invitation it actually states "cash gifts only" - I'm VERY tempted not to go, but I don't really want to start shiit in my H's family.
Posted by MRSBJS[/QUOTE]
I'd kinda like to be invited to one of these because I totally can't imagine how it would even go. Do they pass the checks around for people to admire?
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If the bride has no idea about all of this (which I doubt), I agree to not punish her just because her host is all kinds of rude.
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ETA: I didn't leave on my HM until two days after my wedding (to spend more time with OOT family), but I was still exhausted. I was up until after 2 the night of the wedding, got up around 8 to host breakfast for guests, drove our gifts and luggage home from the hotel, picked up our decorations at the venue, and dropped my mom, stepfather and brother off at the airport. No way would I have scheduled anything else. The entire reason I DIDN'T leave for the HM that day was because I was busy!
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#1 - "Because at first we lived in sin
We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin
A gift from you would be swell
But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!!"
#2 - "To save you looking, shopping and buying,
Here’s an idea we hope you like trying.
As we have all the little things we require,
Some money for bigger things is what we desire.
So pop a check in a card,
It really isn’t all that hard.
Place your envelope in our “Treasure Chest”
And we will shop for what is best.
Now that we’ve saved you all that fuss,
We hope you will come and celebrate with us."
I would die laughing if I got one of these in the mail or saw it at a wedding!
Why the hell did you include three regesteries then?! SO TACKY
[QUOTE] Her mom told me I could still write a check, give it to her, and she would make sure it was there at the BS.
Posted by Soon2BNicoleD[/QUOTE]
I would send one of those giant novelty checks. Add some balloons and glitter.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Bridal Shower Invite - How rude?! : I'd kinda like to be invited to one of these because I totally can't imagine how it would even go. Do they pass the checks around for people to admire?
Posted by ceh789[/QUOTE]
Well this would make Bridal Bingo so much easier!!! =) Unbelievable! I wouldn't attend. It's beyond rude to demand a gift, never mind what type of gift! Ugh!!!
[QUOTE]OMG ppl amaze me! And how exactly is this a 'poem' that they only want money? "<strong>Bring cash or don't bring your a$$"</strong>
Posted by csharpe44[/QUOTE]
that made me chuckle outloud. love it!
I had a "friend" (FI's childhood friend really) send a shower invite saying something about "twice the things we need" yada yada. Well if they have twice the things they need, sell half and get money that way!
But seriously, very tacky. Their justification was that they live in Canada (we're on the border for gosh sakes) and didn't want to hassle with customs. The nerve of some people.