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Friends drama at your wedding

Lisalisa3333Lisalisa3333
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How do you handle the following 3 dramas? 1st friend tells you your other friends at your wedding are jerks, then tells you she didn't bring a gift to your wedding. 2nd friend starts drama with the gal who drove her to my wedding and helped her with the hotel, in the middle of the dinner party asks for her hotel money back! Then tells the bride her friends are jerks! 3rd friend supports friend number 1 and 2, then tells the bride her friends from her wedding announcement party from a year ago, her friends there were jerks also! What do you do with these 3 issues????
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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    1.  "I'm sorry you feel that way.  That's ok, I'm just glad you made it!"
    2.  "I'm sorry you feel that way."
    3.  "I'm sorry you feel that way."

    If they persist, tell you that you prefer to be left out of their crap.

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  • crash2729crash2729 member
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    Honestly, At your wedding? AT the wedding? 
    I'd avoid the drama at all costs.  
    Also, since the wedding is over, none of the dramas really involve you so I would just not get in the middle of it.
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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    There was all kinds of family drama at our wedding.  Thankfully, we were blissfully unaware that it was going on because our family was smart enough not to tell us.  I cannot believe a bride's friends would say these things to her in the middle of her reception.

    As the bride I'd probably give the "WTF?" face and say something about not getting involved.  After the wedding I'd likely end the friendships.
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  • KellyBrian2013KellyBrian2013
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    I didn't even know there was drama at our wedding (thanks Mom!) despite the fact that there was a near-fist fight that had to be difused between two of my guests and DH's cousin got incredibly drunk and wound up screaming at his mom about a bunch of stuff and then storming out.

    Your friends are (presumably) adults and should handle their crap on their own.
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    "I'm sorry you are having a problem, but you've brought it to the wrong person.  I'm the BRIDE.  My parents are hosting the wedding, so you need to take your problem to my father.  He's right over there at Table One."
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friends-drama-at-your-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c233b679-d61e-4a67-bce1-272eeac98da6Post:d3518eff-f59f-4a98-99f2-4f9076ac4283">Re: Friends drama at your wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]"I'm sorry you are having a problem, but you've brought it to the wrong person.  I'm the BRIDE.  My parents are hosting the wedding, so you need to take your problem to my father.  He's right over there at Table One."
    Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]
    Just no, to all of this.



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  • zitiqueenzitiqueen member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friends-drama-at-your-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c233b679-d61e-4a67-bce1-272eeac98da6Post:d3518eff-f59f-4a98-99f2-4f9076ac4283">Re: Friends drama at your wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]"I'm sorry you are having a problem, but you've brought it to the wrong person.  I'm the BRIDE.  My parents are hosting the wedding, so you need to take your problem to my father.  He's right over there at Table One."
    Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

    Once again, Kristen assumes facts not in evidence.
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  • Ali092011Ali092011 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friends-drama-at-your-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c233b679-d61e-4a67-bce1-272eeac98da6Post:d3518eff-f59f-4a98-99f2-4f9076ac4283">Re: Friends drama at your wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]"I'm sorry you are having a problem, but you've brought it to the wrong person.  I'm the BRIDE.  My parents are hosting the wedding, so you need to take your problem to my father.  He's right over there at Table One."
    Posted by Kristin789[/QUOTE]

    Kristin, I actually like you and enjoy your wit most of the time, but why do you refuse to acknowledge that

    1. in this day and age, MOST couples host their own weddings with little to no help from their parents, and
    2. just because the bride's parents DO happen to host the wedding, it doesn't mean they are the go-to with all the stupid drama. A bride is not a precious creature that needs to be protected from any form of reality.

    OP, I do agree with PPs that you should do absolutely nothing. You can take sides and get involved if you want, but it all sounds very immature and pointless.
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  • msuprincess04msuprincess04 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friends-drama-at-your-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c233b679-d61e-4a67-bce1-272eeac98da6Post:bb6021f8-a693-429a-bce7-d0ade69dbb5f">Re:Friends drama at your wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Friends drama at your wedding: Even assuming OP's father WAS hosting, how does paying for your daughter's wedding make "they were mean to me!" his responsibility?
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    I was thinking the same thing. It's as much her father's drama as it is hers. Tell them it's between them and you'd rather stay out of it.
    "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    You should have just stared at them like they had cake on their nose until they got the message and went away.

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  • JanoBean75JanoBean75
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    I would love to say, "don't tell me, tell my dad" because the friends would likely understand I'm saying that I don't care about their drama and to just shut up about it.

    Like HoorayForSoup said, taken ironically, Kristen's advice is hilarious.
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