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i blame these people

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for the mortgage meltdown.  these people specifically.

Dear Amy: I have two wonderful children, ages 9 and 7. When my elder child was born, we received nice gifts for her from family members, including jewelry and savings bonds. When my younger child was born, she received none of these things.


I didn't catch this because we have moved three times in four years, and for the last two years, most of our things have been in storage.


I would love for someone to buy some jewelry for my youngest, but if necessary we could buy something for her. However, we cannot buy the savings bond because we are desperately paying off debt after a job layoff.


The savings bond was a considerable amount and it has had almost 10 years to gain interest.


How can we get this family member to purchase a savings bond for our youngest and how do we make up the eight years of interest?

— Wondering

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  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    Wow.
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    Entitlement is the bane of our existence.  Ew.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    it sounds like she has a specific family member whose gold she would like to dig.  i bet the family member is well-aware that this woman has her eye on their money.
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    I bet this person collects Hummel statues.  I just get that feeling.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    Woah, that's some balls.  I think it's odd for someone to buy a bond for one kid and not the other, but I'd buy the bond myself if I was that concerned about fairness. 
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    the thing is -- it's not about being fair, it's about being equal.  (yes, that is a BIG THING with me.)

    it doesn't need to be equal.  maybe one kid gets money and the other kid gets an heirloom. 

    my sister doesn't have pierced ears, so i got grandma's earrings.  my sister will probably get my mom's sweet rings instead.  not equal value, but fair.
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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    that is just crazy
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  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    hmo, my friend and her sister, who are both approaching 30 still fight over whats 'equal' and 'fair'.



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  • MrsMyrtleMrsMyrtle member
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    Jesusmaryandjoseph, this is Fishy if they ever have kids.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    I am dying to see what the reply was.
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    I see the difference between equal and fair.  I will say thought, FIL is leaving a decent amount of money to 6let.  It crosses my mind what will/would happen if there is another child.

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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011

    sadly, kuus, amy was gentle.

    Dear Wondering: You can't get a family member to purchase a gift for your child. I agree with you that it would be nice for both children to have savings, but it seems strange that they would reach near adolescence before you had realized the inequity.


    I applaud your choice to pay down debt. Perhaps you could apply that same discipline and set aside $1 or $2 a week for your youngest — and build up a nice little fund for this child over time.

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  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    Maybe these people didn't give the second child a bond because the parents didn't acknowledge the gift to the first child. It seriously took them 8 years to notice. They probably thought it was just a boring dumb piece of paper and wondered why their kid didn't get cute toys.

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