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Engagement gift - thank you's?

lizardoculizardocu member
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We have gotten a few spontaneous engagement gifts from friends.  Do I need to mail thank you cards for them?
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  • MyUserName1MyUserName1 member
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    Of course you need to.

    Are you not in the habit of thanking people for gifts?
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  • GretchenLaRouxGretchenLaRoux
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    Most certainly!
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  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    Definitely send thank-yous!

    Obviously you want to actually thank the giver for their thoughtfulness.  Thank-you notes also let the sender know that the gift arrived safely and un-damaged.   

    Personally, if I gave someone an engagement gift and didn't receive a thank-you, I would probably skip a wedding present....
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  • Katelyn89Katelyn89
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    Definitely.
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  • jessicabessicajessicabessica member
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    You always send a thank you note when someone gives you a gift.  
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  • J&K10910J&K10910 member
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    Why on earth WOULDN'T you?

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  • whitsywhitsy
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_engagement-gift-thank-yous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d2b9c5e5-f78b-410c-8de7-dfdd0dfb4c84Post:574dd5e1-da0e-4dae-85f1-eb72bbd8c532">Re: Engagement gift - thank you's?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Of course you need to. <strong>Are you not in the habit of thanking people for gifts?</strong>
    Posted by MyUserName1[/QUOTE]

    <div>Exactly. No brainer.</div>
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  • WalkersFurMamaWalkersFurMama member
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    Anyone who sends you a gift for anything should get a thank you note. No matter the value of the gift or the reason they gave it to you. 
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  • Lisa50Lisa50 member
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    Yes.  Why wouldn't you write a thank you note upon receipt of a gift??
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  • lizardoculizardocu member
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    We were given the gifts in person.  It's not like I didn't say thank you.  This is the first occassion in my life that requires thank-yous because I don't give thank-yous for birthday gifts.  Do you?  I'm just learning here and asking for advise.  But thanks for being so rude about it.  I should mail you all a note.

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  • MyUserName1MyUserName1 member
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    Please.  No one was rude.  You asked a stupid question.  "Should I be polite, or not?"

    And it's advice not advise in this context.

    Also, you should give thank yous for birthday gifts too.  The fact that you are habitually rude is not a good excuse for continuing to be rude.
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  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_engagement-gift-thank-yous?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d2b9c5e5-f78b-410c-8de7-dfdd0dfb4c84Post:c9208a13-687c-4092-8ac9-048a2e5e94c5">Re: Engagement gift - thank you's?</a>:
    [QUOTE]We were given the gifts in person.  It's not like I didn't say thank you.  <strong>This is the first occassion in my life that requires thank-yous because I don't give thank-yous for birthday gifts.  Do you? </strong> I'm just learning here and asking for advise.  But thanks for being so rude about it.  I should mail you all a note.
    Posted by lizardocu[/QUOTE]

    <div>I most certainly do write thank-yous for brithday gifts!  I also write thank-you notes to my host after staying over-night at someone's house (even my in-laws).   It's just the polite thing to do, and it's how I was raised.  It's also how my husband was raised -- I can't tell you how many points I earned with his parents after sending thank-you notes for staying with them when we first started seeing each other.  </div><div>
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  • OwningAHome1981OwningAHome1981 member
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    You should always thank anyone who gives you anything no matter how small... And thank yous should be sent promptly as well.
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  • mbuckley85mbuckley85 member
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    Obviously its already been answered so you know you should send a thank-you.  We've been writing them as we get gifts (we've been engaged almost 10 months, so we've gotten quite a few.

    I would also write down who has given you what in a notebook or something.  I wasn't updating my FMIL with what we had received and when I went to tell her, I had no clue who some of the stuff had come from.  I since made a list and have been adding the gifts to it so that I can say, "Oh, by the way, we got an engagement gift from _______and it was ______".  

    In our case, most of the gifts came from FI's family...I don't know why that is the case but it has been.
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