Ring advice for proposal..

Re: Ring advice for proposal..

• CarolinaPeach13 member

  

  February 2013

  Why don't you propose with the new ring and have her mom's ring made into something else she could wear? Ask her dad if he's ok with it, since it was his wife's, but maybe it could be made into a locket or even a wedding band. That way she's be able to have both and not have to choose!

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• tiny speck member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_ring-advice-for-proposal?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:ced5774f-8043-49a9-926a-6ac5d2bb363aPost:5737b2a8-a38c-4c00-9c30-0dcbfd014a03">Re: Ring advice for proposal..</a>:
  [QUOTE]Why don't you propose with the new ring and have her mom's ring made into something else she could wear? Ask her dad if he's ok with it, since it was his wife's, but maybe it could be made into a locket or even a wedding band. That way she's be able to have both and not have to choose!
  Posted by CarolinaPeach13[/QUOTE]
  
  I think something along these lines would be a good idea. It sounds like her mom's ring is in pretty bad shape with so many stones missing and having been cut. And it sounds like she really likes the new ring. You could also always propose without a ring, and then give her the option to go shopping and get the new one or try to restore the old one.

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• thejucheidea member

  

  February 2013

  As someone who wears a heirloom ring in its natural state, I'd want to get it fixed up and back to the original as a memorial to her mother. I didn't really like the design of my grandma's ring at first, but I've really fallen in love with it and how unique it is. It means a lot more to me than another ring would, because when I see it, I think of my grandma and grandpa and the 50+ years of marriage they celebrated before grandpa died in 1998.

  
  

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• Charm007 member

  

  February 2013

  She is not the person who likes to make tuff decisions when it comes down to it.. Her dad did tell me to get the ring repaired if I wanted to buy I would never want to make the ring something new, but just to return it to its original state.. How would it be if I proposed with both and she could wear her mothers ring on her right ring finger??

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• winelover123 member

  

  February 2013

  It sounds like her mom's ring is in bad shape. Talk to her dad and see if he's ok with changing it into a necklace/restoring it. Maybe see if you did buy a new ring if you can return it if she decides that she ultimately wants her mom's old ring instead. Talk to a few jewelry stores and see what their return policy is.

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• koryn21 member

  

  February 2013

  I agree with Stage, propose with no ring. Then after let her know of the unknown ring from her mother and let her decide from there. Or have a frank discussion about the new ring that was given to you by her father before you propose and again let her decide the final ring. Plenty of ladies on here were able to pick their rings prior and I don't think knowing what ring they were getting took away from the experience at all.

  

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• kerrimur member

  

  February 2013

  Not sure what the ring she picked out looks like or the type of metal it is made of. But would it be possible to melt her mother's ring and have it made into a similar setting as the one she likes. Maybe even use the remaining stones in the new setting. A friend of mine recently did this with her mother's engagment ring. I think it could be a win win for you. She gets the ring she choose and its made from the same metal as her mother's ring.

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• Knottie_22387831

  March 2013

  I think the proposal would be nice with the ring, and it sounds like what she is expecting since she already picked it out.
  You have a few options. 
  Have the mothers ring made to look like the one she wants. Or made into another piece of jewelry and get the new ring.
  Fix up mothers ring and use just that.
  Propose with both rings, she can choose which one she wants on the left finger and then also wear the other one. If you do use the mothers ring, get it fixed in some way first. 
  She'll probably love whatever decision you make. 
  If you want to use both rings I say pull out mothers ring first and talk about the significance, she may seem a little upset that you didn't use the one she picked out, don't be surprised. Then you can pull out the ring she picked out to even greater surprise. You may want to do this within the rings return policy time, just in case she decides mother's is enough. 

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