Rehearsal Dinner?

Re: Rehearsal Dinner?

• unplainjane member

  

  August 2010

  it's also for people in your wedding party to spend time together as well. wow i don't know what the answer is for you but i'm sorry to hear that your families don't like each other. that's tough to deal with.

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• twilight.rose member

  

  August 2010

  There's no law that says you have to have a rehearsal dinner. We did have one, but after that the WP ended up at my BIL's house just hanging out for a few hours.
  
  If you'd still like your WP to get to hang out/get to know one another, you could just do a simple get-together for them.
  

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• Lisa8888

  

  August 2010

  It is for your wedding party also. Its a nice way of thanking them.

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• awick14 member

  

  August 2010

  You could have a rehearsal dinner and call it something else and just invite your wedding party and the 2 of you! Thats kinda what i wanted to do it would be less stressfull that way. But FMIL won't hear of it she is doing the dinner. I said as long as I'm not paying for it i guess that will be ok. But we are doing it 2 days before the wedding. That is the same day as our rehearsal.

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• mysticl member

  

  August 2010

  Actually I've been to several RD and never really seen people "getting to know each other".  They pretty much stick to the people they already know.  It's really more about feeding your WP since the rehearsal often takes place around dinner time and thanking them for being in your wedding.  At least that's my experience.  The last one I went to took place at a restaurant and we didn't even have a private room.  We were seated at different tables along with the rest of the patrons. 
  
  
  

  

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• skippylouwho member

  

  August 2010

  It's called the Rehearsal Dinner because it is a dinner for everyone who rehearsed. Usually immediate family and sometimes out-of-town guests that have arrived for the wedding will attend but it's really for the bride/groom, wedding party, officient, anyone else participating in the ceremony such as readers and ring bearer/flower girl if you're having them.
  
  Spouces and significant others of those listed above should also be invited. Parents of the flower girl and ring bearer, too.
  
  Often, but not always, the grooms parents host this dinner . The bride and groom also often present their gifts to wedding participants.
  
  I've never thought of them as a time for the families to get to know each other although that could happen.
  

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• aerinpegadrak member

  

  August 2010

  The only way to skip the rehearsal dinner is to skip the rehearsal.  Ditto the others that the families don't really mingle with each other, they'll stick to people they know.

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• danieliza1127 member

  

  August 2010

  What you described is the purpose of the engagement party, not the RD.  The RD is after the rehearsal with your parents and wedding party and it's usually your time to thank all of them for everything they've done to get you to that day, and to feed them after they rehearse the ceremony.  You don't have to invite your siblings, just parents.  If you want to skip the RD, then you need to skip the rehearsal too.

  
  

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• HKD817

  

  August 2010

  You can do whatever you want, you dont have to have a rehearsal dinner if you dont want to

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• dougie80

  

  August 2010

  We're not inviting our parents to the rehearsal, so we're just taking our WP out for dinner afterwards. 5 of 6 from them will be here from out of town and all are staying with us at our condo that night (we reserved guest suites at our condo building), so clearly we're going to feed them.
  
  If we invite our parents to the rehearsal dinner we would have had to invite all sorts of other family, since FMIL seems to have trouble drawing a line of "immediate family." For example, with about 55 guests from FI's side of the family, FMIL has ordered 16 boutinnieres/corsages for her family, which seems a little excessive to me. And once things get that big, what's the point of having the wedding dinner too the next day? I'm not made of money, so we're sticking to WP only.
  

  

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• chelsea718

  

  August 2010

  Both of our parents are divorced and neither parent likes the other.  However, the will be civil.. We are having the rehearsal dinner as more of a thank you to the WP for being a part of our day.  Keep in mind that they spend a lot of money too to do this for you.

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