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Help!

julib33julib33 member
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I just got engaged yesterday (Leap Day) and it was a complete surprise! We've ben together for a few years but I thought he would wait until I graduated from college to ask (I graduate in 3 weeks). I was in complete shock! I said yes, of course. But now everyone is asking for a date. I'm thinking probably around August 2014, the EARLIEST would be August 2013, and I'm wondering how far out is too far. We aren't sure where we'll be living in a month or two, we don't know where life will take us, and I feel like we should wait a little bit but everyone says that is too long. What are your thoughts/opinions? I could use any and all help!

Thanks!
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  • julib33julib33 member
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    Thank you! I appreciate it! It's really hard trying to figure all of this out. All of a sudden it seems like people expect something from us. Before we were just us, and no one cared, but suddenly it's some huge deal!! We're still the same people with the same vales and nothing could change that.
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  • aloisk57aloisk57
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    Yeah I give you props for being honest with yourself and waiting.  I think it's better to take your time with the planning when you're just starting out in your lives - plus it gives you so much more time to save money!!!
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  • ekjbweddingekjbwedding member
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    The best advice I got was to just enjoy the engagement. It only happens once (hopefully!) so you should enjoy it now. Who cares if you have a long engagement, tell people you haven't decided but they will be the first to know, they just want to be a part of your big day. Also, I think people ask because they dont' know what else to say, so they just ask when the wedding is.
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    You don't need to decide on a date anytime soon. Enjoy being engaged before you dive into the planning. 
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  • meganb1977meganb1977 member
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    Yeah it's annoying how it never lets up that people will always be asking you about the next thing.  It's totally fine to hold off on planning anything for however long you want and let people know that when you do set a date you will keep them posted.
    Whoever said it was supposed to be happily ever after is a big fat liar.
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  • sonya+adamsonya+adam member
    500 Comments Second Anniversary
    Ditto PPs, you don't have to give anyone an answer yet. Just say that you are still discussing it, and haven't decided on a date yet. 
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  • julib33julib33 member
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    Thank you all! It's really helpful! I'm the kind of person who wants at least a year and a half to plan and I still feel like that's pushing it. Although, I am starting to understand why people get married so soon after getting engaged; it's fun! lol
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