Please give opinions/suggestions!!

Re: Please give opinions/suggestions!!

• banana468 member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  Just to clarify, you're thinking a small ceremony and reception and then after the reception, a second reception for people who weren't invited to the ceremony or dinner?
  
  The idea of a fun party in the park sounds great - but not in the name of your reception on your wedding day.
  
  I know you can bring your own alcohol to Harkness.
  

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• julieandjojo member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  Thanks I will look into Harkness, and for clarification, the wedding ceremony would take place during the dinner, not really like a reception... I guess it sounds complicated. We are trying to figure out how to have about 130 ppl without being too cheap/tacky it's tough!

  
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• akulaji

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  I think what banana is getting at is that to invite people to a reception (where they would be inclined to give you gifts) without inviting them to the ceremony would be poor etiquette.  The point of a wedding is your ceremony, and to not include people in that but invite them to a party where they give you gifts is looked at by some people as being money grubbing... if you know what I mean. 
  
  With that being said, is there a way that you can somehow include those people in your ceremony?  I don't think that I would personally be upset to just be invited to a reception if the ceremony was family only, but there definitely are people that would be upset. Is there a reason why you wouldn't want to do a ceremony at the casual large affair?  I think if you can find a park that allows alcohol so that you can have everyone would be a great idea and definitely the most inclusive situation for everyone.  Good luck!

  

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• money saver

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  to be honest that sounds complicated im trying to understand
  so you want a private party for family and friends 30-50 people and get married during dinner and then have another party for more people.
  that sounds like 2 partys and double the cost.
  Im getting married at john j sullivans in watertown you can get married outside and go inside for the reception, they have great wedding packages..
  another good place is the hillls in watertown...
  the barbq sounds nice but i dont understand why you would want two seperate parties. you can have one big party get married in front of all your family and friends and then eat whats your budget like and for how many in total?

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• banana468 member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  The way you're phrasing it, it sounds like you want two parties on your wedding day - which can come across as rather offensive to the guests who didn't make the cut for the ceremony list since it's so large.
  
  Instead, if your budget is that high, have the RD as the formal event with the casual picnic reception the day you get married.  I've seen people get married at Harkness too so somehow it can be done.
  

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• erica02780

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  A friend of mine originally had planned on doing something similar to what I think you are talking about... they were going to get married on a Sat with close family (30 ppl) then on Sun have a BBQ with everyone (100+ ppl)
  
  In the end they had everyone together for a one day celebration. They got married at Hammenassette (sp*) on the beach, then rented a pavilion for the reception. They served beer and wine only, I do not believe alcohol was allowed. It was a nice casual wedding, everyone seemed to enjoy it. They hired Donovan's reef in Branford to provide food (burgers, hotdogs, ribs)

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• julieandjojo member

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  thanks everyone yea i think we will end up going with a one-event, one-place thing! much easier.

  
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• SillyLGoose

  

  March 2010 edited December 2011

  I think having two parties will end up being more expensive. I'm glad your leaning towards one ceremony and one reception. If you do it right, a casual park reception isn't tacky at all! I'd love to be a guest at one! Forget about the hoopla and celebrate what your really there for. Perfect concept if you ask me! 

  

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• juliecdered member

  

  April 2010 edited December 2011

  your doing the right thing by  having 1 ceremony and 1 party. these reviews are correct about it being offensive cheap money grubbing and pooooor ettiquete (my spelling doesnt count right. my sister almost did the same thing and it was a disaster! no one really showed to either.

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