My niece is getting married next Friday and I am her maid of honor. They are trying to do things as cheaply as they can, and have asked to have the groom's dinner at our house. I am ok with this, yes, it's a little bit of an inconvenience, but it helps them out.
We are a little over a week away and there is so much that hasn't been done for this dinner and I think I'm stressing more over it than the bride actually is. Up until yesterday, the only details I had were the date and that it was at our house, and they are going to grill burgers and hot dogs.
So, me, being a planner - I have been going a little crazy not having details. I sent her an email yesterday asking some pretty standard questions like, what time is it, how many people are coming, are you providing plates, utensils, etc., do we need to get chairs....?
Her reply was a bit vague, but I did get a few answers, like the time people are supposedly showing up, and that they'd supply the eating tools needed. But, she also said that they are not providing any sort of beer or alcohol, just pop. This may not seem like a big deal, but it's kind of the detail that threw me and my fiancee over the edge a bit. We don't want to seem like bad hosts by not having beverages on hand, but it shouldn't be our responsibility to buy them either. She said she's going to inform people via Facebook (not the preferred method) that they can BYOB. But, we plan on drinking some, and don't want others to feel left out. Should I raise a big fuss and ask her to pony up $50 to buy some cheap beer, or just bite the bullet and buy it myself? Or, should I go to her mom (my sister) and strongly suggest they buy some?
Also, the other big thing that's driving me crazy is that she hasnt' communicated anything to the rest of the wedding party about the rehearsal or dinner yet, and is going to rely on Facebook invitations. Since I'm friends with a good chunk of the wedding party and related to the rest, I have let them know that I'll forward whatever details I get to them.
It probably wouldn't be so bad if I weren't planning my own wedding, but at least I'm getting a good look at how not to organize things.